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Nurturing a Relationship – Is It Casting a Spell? (a Witch’s Perspective)

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“Three divorces?” I asked.

A friend said, “Yeah. And that’s just recently for some friends I have.”

“Three separate couples?”

He nodded.

Many of us who deeply love our life-mate want to nourish our relationship.

In a recent conversation with a spiritual elder, I thought about how the elements of casting a spell may be similar (in a way) to making a relationship strong and sacred.

Briefly, here are some ideas.

We’re using an analogy of nurturing a relationship.

  1. Bless water and bless salt. Combine them to make holy water.
    • Any relationship is a combination of energies.
  2. Cleanse with water and earth
    • Have a sturdy foundation of respecting each other.
  3. Cleanse with air and fire
    • You need to clear the air. Sometimes, you ask for forgiveness.
  4. Cast Circle
    • Make your home a safe haven from the outside.
  5. Call the Quarters (which is calling in the 4 Directions represented by The Elements)
    • Call on friends and family, whom you trust, to support you and your partner.
  6. Do your spell.
    • Show up and hug each other all the time.
  7. Raise energy – speaking words, raising a cone of power. Release the cone of power to do its job.
    • Pay attention to what lifts your partner’s spirits. If it includes watching some Star Trek Series with them … okay.
  8. Cakes and wine ceremony.
    • Food. Enough said.
  9. Close your Circle.
    • Find “completion points” in your day. (For example, my sweetheart massages my back every night.)

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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“Valentine’s Day”- a Loving Time to Glow and Grow (A Witch’s Perspective)

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How do you feel about this time of year when people celebrate “Valentine’s Day”?

Does it look like an opportunity to celebrate your love?
Or is it something you dread a bit? Will my partner disappoint me?
Oh, no!—will I fail my partner somehow?

And, can I quiet down my expectations? I mean, it’s okay to have expectations, right? Right?!

In this section, we’ll talk about patterns for couples.
(If you’re not in a couple at the moment, this conversation can still be useful.)

1. Celebrate
“Magic is love. All magic should be performed out of love.” – Scott Cunningham

With my sweetheart, I celebrate that we are kind to each other—and we do NOT give up on each other.

What would you celebrate with your partner?

2. Reaffirm
When my sweetheart and I “jumped the broom” together, we certainly related to the Wiccan tradition of “as long as love lasts.” We’ve been happily together for over 25 years. Our love is reaffirmed every day. Oh, Goddess—you need patience. Also, facial tissue for when he gets into a sneezing jag.

One thing I’ve learned is that love means you support your sweetheart’s calling. He is called to filmmaking. And, I am called to serve through this blog and my podcast. We are there to support each other’s calling.

What is your partner’s calling? How can you support them?

3. Deepen
Over the years, I have deepened as a person by stretching and learning that I could do things I did not imagine that I could.

The first time I did a workshop in New Zealand—that was a stretch.
Giving a speech is something I had to grow into.
I’m an introvert. One thing I like is the quiet time in the morning. My sweetheart is asleep. I find my own center for the day.

As a couple, we have deepened our flexibility to honor each other’s individuality.

How can you deepen your experience on your own path? How can you deepen your commitment to your partner?

Several authors have expressed: “A relationship is NOT a place you go to GET, it’s a place you go to GIVE.”

Here’s a prayer you can use:

Lord and Lady,
Help me show appreciation to my lover.
Let me support their calling.
May we glow and grow together.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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When Your Thoughts Choke Your Action (A Witch’s Perspective)

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“Do I tell him? Will this destroy our relationship before it’s begun?” This thought terrorized me.
How did I get into this mess?

I just had a date with this new guy. This was years ago.
He was doing a video project. It did not look good.

Do I tell him the truth?
Would he want to hear what I perceived?

You’ve probably heard the phrase “Go big or go home.”

If I couldn’t tell him the truth, maybe we wouldn’t be able to have a healthy relationship.

So, did I tell him?

Yes. I was brief. “I don’t think you can make money with this project.” The quality was not good enough.

Over the next couple of days, he surprised me.
He listened. He canceled the project.

It was a hard decision for him. He had to take responsibility for disappointing several people. No one wants to put time and effort into something that gets cancelled.

You may have heard that … many people throw money into something. But they do not quit when logic shows that the project is not working.

By the way, who is this guy?
He’s my husband. We’ve been happily together for more than 25 years.

Oh, I’m so glad he canceled the project. That video project could have wasted a significant amount of time and money.

What do you do when you’re confronted with a big decision?

Do you give in to fear?

Go to the God and the Goddess.

Here is a prayer you can use:

Lord and Lady,
Let me hear the truth through the noise of distraction.
May my supportive intention be felt by this person.
May we grow strong like the mighty oaks.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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Burst through the “It’s Good for You” Wall (a Witch’s Perspective)

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“What’s good for you—that’s Wicca—that you don’t do?” my friend, Margarette, said.
“Meditate more often,” I said.
“What holds you back?”
“It’s a freakin’ cliché. I have no time in the morning. I’m too tired at the end of the day. And, I spend my day mostly taking care of my parents (often). And one diabetic cat,” I said, my shoulders drooping.
Margarette nodded. She looked sad.

I have an insight for you.

Attach The Good For You Action to Something You’re Already Doing

Something good for me is to do an action that makes me feel better.

For example, my husband massages my back every night. (Yeah, I feel lucky.)

But I just don’t get around to massaging his back.

I don’t feel good about not supporting the Love of My Life.

Except, now I’m turning that around. Now, I’ll take 10 seconds to massage the trapezius muscles next to his neck when I walk past him to my workstation (in our home).

10 seconds is better than nothing.

He smiles and says, “Wow! You remove a lot of tension from my trapezius muscles in a short time!”

So I’m going to walk past him anyway. I’ve just attached being kind to my husband (and I feel better) to my daily action.

My way to add Wicca to these 10 Seconds is to say a prayer like: “God and Goddess, thank you for my sweetheart. May he feel safe in my arms and loved.”

What would be good for you to add to your daily life?

Here’s a helpful prayer.

Goddess,
Guide me to make time for
What’s good for me,
What’s important to me,
What makes me smile.
So Mote It Be.

May this insight support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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Missing Closeness in Relationships – See What Goddess Points To … (A Witch’s Perspective)

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“I don’t think she cares anymore,” my friend, Bert, said of his wife.

I reflected on this.

Bert, like many men, places all the burden of emotional support on his wife.

It’s heavy!

A comedian noted that when a wife dies, the man falls apart.

However, when the man dies, the widow carries on with grace because she has a group of women to support her.

I thought about this. The Goddess directs our attention to nature.

I have two insights for you.

1. In an ecosystem, each being plays a role.

I like sharks. Now, do I want to swim with them? – No!

There was a book called How to Swim with the Sharks…

No thanks. I’ll swim in a swimming pool.

But sharks, the coral reef, lionfish, sea turtles, and sea anemones all play a role.

So, if you want more closeness in a relationship, make sure you have an ecosystem – that is, a community.

Then, you can relieve the relationship of some emotional burden.

You can come back together refreshed and open to your special bond.

2. The Goddess revels in Her Three Phases.

The God respects the Goddess. And She respects Herself.

We, witches, find grace and peace when we flow through our phases.

I think about my teen years. My face had no creases.

But I’ll celebrate my wisdom right now.

How about you?

Are you finding your personal value in the phase of life you’re in now?

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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