How Witches Can Combat Learned Helplessness

Have you experienced being bullied as a child?
What added more pain was that my parents ignored me when they were supposed to protect me … from my own brother.

As a child, I learned that I did not matter, and I learned that I could not change things.

Perhaps, this was part of my attraction to Wicca. The God and Goddess are the loving beings who I needed.

When you’re conditioned to think that you don’t count or that you can’t improve things, you’re vulnerable to Learned Helplessness.

Learned helplessness occurs when an individual continuously faces a negative, uncontrollable situation and stops trying to change their circumstances, even when they have the ability to do so. – from Psychology Today

In recent years, I think about how I want to be free from Learned Helplessness. Perhaps, you’re like me, and you want to unlearn what ultimately hurts you.

Recently, I was reading the 13 Principles of Wiccan Belief from the Council of American Witches.

“We believe that we should seek within Nature that which is contributory to our health and well-being.” – from the Principles of Wiccan Belief of the Council of American Witches

My concern is that if we seek comfort or validation from “the outside” (including broadcast news and social media), we may fall into Learned Helplessness.

“Learned helplessness is the giving-up reaction, the quitting response that follows from the belief that whatever you do doesn’t matter.” – Martin E.P. Seligman

As witches, we can go to the God and Goddess for a true sense of self-worth. We can also enhance our perspective. Life is a classroom and a person is interacting with the Gods about the curriculum. Before we are incarnated, we set up a curriculum with the Gods. This curriculum is activated when we incarnate.

“While you can’t control your experiences, you can control your explanations.” – Martin E.P. Seligman

I can explain to myself that I have choices now. I can look upon the times when I was bullied as a child as possible training. I’ve learned to protect myself and my family members. I can even guide a vendor to treat myself or a family member in a fair manner. I learned as a child that some individuals hurt others. So, I learned that it is important to develop appropriate skills. This is in line with my thought that life is a classroom.

I return to my plan to look to the Gods for the truth. They are the Beings who love me and guide me.

I invite you to reexamine certain situations in life, and then ask yourself, “Is there something I am not seeing?” Perhaps, you’ll meditate or do ritual to connect with the Gods, so They expand your perspective.

May these insights support your life journey.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief



Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

 

Goddess Style Weight Loss: Wiccans — Happy, Healthy and Confident

Goddess Has Answers to Life’s Tough Problems: Wiccans – How You Can Experience Happiness and Healing through Goddess’s Wisdom

Break Free with Goddess: Wiccans – How You Can Get Free of Worry, Illness and Anxiety and Enjoy Abundance, Health and Confidence

Be a Wiccan Badass: Become More Confident and Unleash Your Inner Power

Goddess Reveals Your Enchanted Light: Peace, Prosperity, Possibility Along Your Wiccan Path

Real Magick

Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magic: How You Can Remove Blocks to Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace

Goddess Has Your Back

Goddess Has Your Back: How Wicca Can Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem and Make Your Life Magickal

The Hidden Children of the Goddess Book

The Hidden Children of the Goddess Embrace Wicca, Become Strong, Be at Peace with Yourself and the World Around You

Goddess Walks Beside You: How You Can Listen, Learn and Enjoy the Wiccan Path

Goddess Style Weight Loss: Wiccans — Happy, Healthy and Confident

P.S. To sign up for our E-Newsletter click here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.

 

How Witches Go Deep with Their Spiritual Practice

When I was going through the process to earn my Third-Degree Level of the Gardnerian Tradition, I got frustrated.

“Could I get an outline for what I need to learn next?” I asked.

“I can’t give you one,” my spiritual elder said.

“Why?” I asked. And, this led to a powerful conversation.

“I must see how you grow,” she said. “I need to see what you do naturally. If I give you an outline, you might try to simulate learning. Sometimes, students try to please their mentors. That’s not real learning.”

For example, if you were a mentor teaching a form of meditation, you’d realize a student may rush and step off the path.

A student may ask, “What is supposed to happen when I meditate? What am I supposed to see? What am I supposed to do?”

Then the student might try to strain and or even say something that might please you.
But as the mentor, you know the truth. The student must experience true growth and learning. You can’t rush this. It’s a personal process. The student has his or her own path and timing.

Students who seek to move forward fast can subconsciously sabotage themselves and the process without knowing it.

During my eight years of direct training in Wicca toward the Third-Degree Level, I had to let go and let my path include some mystery.

I know waiting can feel uncomfortable and even painful.

To go deep in your journey as a witch, take the slow and steady path. This makes a sturdier foundation from which to grow and rise.

May these insights support you on your journey.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief



Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

 

Goddess Style Weight Loss: Wiccans — Happy, Healthy and Confident

Goddess Has Answers to Life’s Tough Problems: Wiccans – How You Can Experience Happiness and Healing through Goddess’s Wisdom

Break Free with Goddess: Wiccans – How You Can Get Free of Worry, Illness and Anxiety and Enjoy Abundance, Health and Confidence

Be a Wiccan Badass: Become More Confident and Unleash Your Inner Power

Goddess Reveals Your Enchanted Light: Peace, Prosperity, Possibility Along Your Wiccan Path

Real Magick

Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magic: How You Can Remove Blocks to Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace

Goddess Has Your Back

Goddess Has Your Back: How Wicca Can Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem and Make Your Life Magickal

The Hidden Children of the Goddess Book

The Hidden Children of the Goddess Embrace Wicca, Become Strong, Be at Peace with Yourself and the World Around You

Goddess Walks Beside You: How You Can Listen, Learn and Enjoy the Wiccan Path

Goddess Style Weight Loss: Wiccans — Happy, Healthy and Confident

P.S. To sign up for our E-Newsletter click here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.

 

Who Is a Wiccan and Who Is a Witch?

“I don’t understand,” my friend, John, said.

“What specifically is not clear?” I asked.

“What’s the difference between somebody who is Wiccan or somebody who is a witch?” he asked.

“To start off … Wiccans are witches. But not all witches are Wiccan,” I said.

My mentors have shared the following material with me:

In the United Kingdom, a traditional witch, Robert Cochrane, did not like how Gerald B. Gardner was so open about his practices. Gardner communicated a lot to people outside the faith.

Those whom Gardner initiated were called witches.

Gardner, like others, saw so much derision with the term, witches. It’s reported that he originated the term Wica. It’s said that Gardner claimed to have learned the term during his initiation into the New Forest coven in 1939.

As the years went by, the letter “c” was added, and we, then, had Wicca. Certainly, this was a chance to get away from the trouble with the “W-word”—witch.

Wiccan became a generic term. But it still referred to someone who was Gardnerian—or steeped in the Alexandrian tradition.

Many people saw Wiccan as a term that was strictly used for the hidden children of the Goddess (related to Gardnerian or Alexandrian traditions).

Wicca was not originally seen as a complimentary term in the United Kingdom because it defined you as someone who followed Gardner.

A witch is someone who practices the Craft, which means they practice spells and magick.

One might see witch as the umbrella term, and a portion of witches are Wiccan.

Some Thoughts on Definitions

To me, having definitions can help us clearly communicate.

If we can agree upon definitions, it supports real communication.

I acknowledge that there are controversies. And, if we could just hear each other out—that might help.

May these ideas be helpful to you.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief



Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

 

Goddess Style Weight Loss: Wiccans — Happy, Healthy and Confident

Goddess Has Answers to Life’s Tough Problems: Wiccans – How You Can Experience Happiness and Healing through Goddess’s Wisdom

Break Free with Goddess: Wiccans – How You Can Get Free of Worry, Illness and Anxiety and Enjoy Abundance, Health and Confidence

Be a Wiccan Badass: Become More Confident and Unleash Your Inner Power

Goddess Reveals Your Enchanted Light: Peace, Prosperity, Possibility Along Your Wiccan Path

Real Magick

Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magic: How You Can Remove Blocks to Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace

Goddess Has Your Back

Goddess Has Your Back: How Wicca Can Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem and Make Your Life Magickal

The Hidden Children of the Goddess Book

The Hidden Children of the Goddess Embrace Wicca, Become Strong, Be at Peace with Yourself and the World Around You

Goddess Walks Beside You: How You Can Listen, Learn and Enjoy the Wiccan Path

Goddess Style Weight Loss: Wiccans — Happy, Healthy and Confident

P.S. To sign up for our E-Newsletter click here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.