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Moonwater reveals ways to handle a big disagreement with a friend. She even discusses how to handle when emotions run strong in one’s coven. Learn how to help the other person feel heard. Then, they are more likely to cooperate with you.
My friend, Alfonso, found himself in a big disagreement with a friend.
As he described the situation, I realized that both friends have a different “personal rhythm.”
Here are three insights.
1. Be observant.
Some research points to different VAK Learning Styles. That’s Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic (touch or doing actions). Some people lean toward watching videos. Others listen to audiobooks.
Alfonso ran into the situation that he is “visual.” His pace of talking is like a music video with the rapid cutting together of shots (images).
His friend, Julie, is an auditory person. She talks slower. She enjoys the sound and tonality of voices.
When Alfonso quickly changed topics in a conversation with Julie, she felt rushed and offended.
Have you noticed that you have a different style or personal rhythm than a loved one – in conversation?
2. Be flexible.
Alfonso can be flexible and take responsibility for his own conversation patterns. He can choose to call Julie when he has a day off. Alfonso is just too frantic at work—even on a 15-minute break.
Some people say, “A friend would just put up with my quirks.” Maybe so. Maybe not. Why sow seeds of discontent?
We, Wiccans, look to the natural world.
Who is wrong? The hummingbird with a fast pace, or a tortoise with a slow pace?
The natural world has space for different creatures and different attributes.
So, we can make space for different people with different rhythms.
Are you too tired to be flexible?
(A side note: Do you know who are the comfortable people at which event? Speech therapists at their own convention. Why? They demonstrate patience… and they listen.)
3. Ask the Goddess for strength and insight.
Here is a prayer you can use:
Goddess,
Give me Your grace and strength,
To see the good in people and not just write them off as difficult.
Give me Your insight,
To see their view on things and not be stuck in my own opinion.
Guide me, teach me, show me a new perspective of my fellow beings.
So Mote It Be.
May these insights support your path.
Blessed Be,
Moonwater
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Moonwater reveals the truth about how your thoughts can help or hinder your ability to work magick. It’s all about energy. She also demonstrates how you can avoid blocking your natural magick.
“Not here in the work area,” my husband said. “Would you consider us talking in the other room?”
“Yes,” I said.
We talked about how his two jobs were causing him to lose sleep and sound irritable.
“It’s not fair that I have to put up with a ‘grumpy bear,’” I said.
Instead of being defensive, he talked about his own responsibilities. “I’m going to pick nights when I do not watch any YouTube videos. That’s how I miss some sleep.”
I’m grateful that my husband and I are being careful to protect our relationship.
I have three insights for you.
1. Notice if you ever communicate that you’re “satisfied.”
Recently, I learned that many couples go to therapy when one partner is “distant.” Another reason is that one partner is “never satisfied.”
I’ve learned to say, “You did good,” to my husband. Even if I do not feel good. And that’s often because I have clinical depression symptoms.
I realized that if one partner feels the other person is “never satisfied,” the first person just gives up. And that creates distance. It’s certainly the opposite of closeness.
The Paradox of Protecting Relationships includes:
* You need to let your partner know they did good, even when you’re already feeling bad.
* You may need to just own your painful feelings. And, you may have to realize that your partner cannot simply “make you happy.”
I’ve seen films in which a father asks a young daughter: “Does he (her suitor) make you happy?”
“Yes, Daddy,” she replies.
“All right, then,” the father says.
That’s a big order to make another human “happy.” The Paradox of Protecting Relationships includes that we must take responsibility for how we live in this world. Do we meditate, pray, exercise, perform rituals, and get enough rest? No one can do that for you. (Yes, I know that you knew that.)
Do you let your friend or loved one know that they “did good”?
2. Honor your partner.
“Honor all living things, for we are of the stag, and the salmon, and the bee; so destroy not life, save it be to preserve your own.” – Scott Cunningham
How do you honor your partner? Say things in a respectful way.
You’re talking to an adult. You are respectful of your partner’s autonomy.
How do you talk to your partner?
3. Invite the Goddess in how you act to shape your life.
“We can’t point at an image of an evil god, such as Satan, and blame it for our faults and weaknesses. We can’t blame fate. Every second of each day we’re creating our futures, shaping the courses of our lives.” – Scott Cunningham
Here is a prayer you can use.
Goddess,
Help me show my partner,
With my words and actions, they are enough.
Give me the wisdom to speak compassionately to them and myself.
Help me support them and myself,
To know “I am satisfied,”
Even if I do not have the feelings of happiness.
So mote it be.
May these insights support your path.
Blessed Be,
Moonwater
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In celebration of the 300th episode, Moonwater provides a powerful meditation. The topic is “Heal from Being Broken.” Enjoy the experience of meeting the God and the Goddess and healing something that has bothered you for a long time. Moonwater provides a meditative experience that engages your imagination and enlivens your heart.
My first husband would disappear for hours into his own video games world.
Eventually, I realized that there was no way to really connect.
I tried to go into his world. I would assist him with his strategies for gaming.
At one point, he got stuck. I was the one who noticed that his character needed to jump and grab ahold of a cliff face.
I tried to earn his love by doing what he wanted.
We were young.
Still, at some point, I knew that this marriage must end.
My decision for the divorce was one of my better decisions.
Are you trying to earn love?
I have three insights for you.
1. Be aware of fear around being “needy.”
I have noticed a difference between “being needy” and “being human.”
Being human includes wanting to be heard—especially by your life mate.
Being “needy” may include putting all of your emotional needs upon one person.
Where is the fear here?
For many of us, we fear that we’ll never get the kindness, support, and comfort we crave.
What can we do?
Develop a support system.
For example, my second husband is in weekly contact with about eight people. He avoids leaning too much on any one individual.
If one of his friends is too busy, he just reaches out to others.
Do you need a circle of friends?
2. Notice if you’re trying to earn somebody’s love.
Are you “always available” for a loved one?
Do they ever give you the space to have quiet time for yourself?
Do you always have to drop everything to fulfill their needs?
And, does this feel healthy to you?
On the other hand, mutual respect and giving to the other makes a healthy relationship.
It is healthy for you to receive from your loved one.
So it’s not about “earning love,” it is about sharing kindness.
3. Ask Goddess to transform your experience of love and belonging.
Here is a prayer you can use.
Goddess,
Uplift my experience of love.
Guide me away from fear and neediness.
Show me how to create a circle of support.
Envelope me with Your strength.
Reveal ways for me to love myself,
And increase my capacity to love others.
So Mote It Be.
May these insights support your path.
Blessed Be,
Moonwater
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Moonwater reveals how witches can ask for help. She demonstrates how a witch can take the pressure off and make it easier for the person to say, “Yes.” Moonwater includes a powerful prayer to ask the Goddess for support so you make empowering decisions.
“I apologize for my tone,” my friend, Ian, told the nurse practitioner during his phone call. He called because for four days he was having pain in the back of his head. He was unsteady when he stood up.
“I’m scared. I have so much hope. I have people who love me, and I love them,” Ian continued.
Are you dealing with health difficulties?
I have three insights for you.
1. Acknowledge the fear.
Ian is afraid to lose his life just when good things are going on.
Do you connect with this?
We notice that it is important to acknowledge one’s true experience.
Fear is often connected with the dread of losing something. Losing time with loved ones can feel devastating.
It is valuable to have someone to talk to. Perhaps, you can turn to spiritual elders, a certain friend, or a therapist.
Who can you talk to?
2. Acknowledge how moment-to-moment you experience “shifts” in the day.
Ian pauses. He takes a deep breath. He notices that his dizziness does not stay the same throughout the whole day. He also notices that the body’s symptoms are signals. Many authors emphasize that “the body is a communication device.”
What is your body saying to you? Is it saying: “Slow down”? Or “take care”? Or “get more sleep”?
You may need to see a physician, therapist, or psychiatrist.
3. Invite the Gods to comfort you in your time of need.
When I feel like cr@p or don’t know what to do, I talk to the Gods. I pray or ask, “What do I need to learn about this?”
Here is a prayer you can use.
Honorable Lord and Gracious Lady,
Give me comfort in my time of need.
Hold me close.
Guide me to good choices in this and all situations.
Open my eyes to see wisdom and truth.
Let me learn from this moment in my life.
So Mote It Be.
May these insights support your path.
Blessed Be,
Moonwater
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Moonwater reveals Secrets about Seizing the Moment. Learn how you can identify the Voice of Fear versus the Voice of Intuition. Discover a powerful prayer that invites the Goddess to support you to fulfill your destiny.
“I had to talk to some officials about my father,” my friend, Fred, said. He looked shaken. His elderly father was continuing his violent ways.
“They want me to sign some paperwork. But I don’t know what the hell my father will do next,” Fred continued. Fred’s father had attacked another resident at the facility. The police were called, and Fred’s father had to face a judge. His father was barred from that facility.
Fred was triggered. And why not? His father had physically and emotionally abused Fred as a kid. Until he left home at 17 years old.
Are you triggered now?
I have three insights for you.
1. You need steps to handle being triggered.
Every time Fred talks with his father, the conversation goes bad. So, Fred sets up a phone call with a friend to occur immediately after such a conversation. They talk a bit about the call. But better than that, they shift to talking about something good. Fred is able to make a shift in thoughts and emotions.
Do you have a pattern so you can feel better after some triggering situation?
2. Focus on doing “a shift.”
Sometimes, the way to stop emotional pain is to shift out of a worn pattern. Something triggers a person, and then they go into a negative spiral. Fred calls a friend to do a shift in thoughts and energy. You can also meditate, pray, and/or go for a walk in nature. The idea is that you avoid losing a whole day to feeling bad.
A person can get value by venting during a chosen time. My husband and I take walks together. I remember my husband saying, “I’m going to vent about the problem until we get to that traffic light. Then let’s talk about something else.” That became our signal to do a “shift.”
Do you have a pattern of making a shift?
3. Consider a “Meditative Walk” to help you release pain.
I have learned to take a certain kind of “meditative walk.” It works better with nearby trees.
As you walk you can say something like:
I thank you my friends, the trees,
I thank you grass and shrubs.
Help me dissipate the negative energy within me.
Negative energy flows downward.
Out of my feet.
Into the ground.
Into Mother Earth.
Such energy is now harmless.
I am clear.
I am safe.
So Mote It Be!
May these insights support your journey.
Blessed Be,
Moonwater
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