Nurturing a Relationship – Is It Casting a Spell? (a Witch’s Perspective)

“Three divorces?” I asked.

A friend said, “Yeah. And that’s just recently for some friends I have.”

“Three separate couples?”

He nodded.

Many of us who deeply love our life-mate want to nourish our relationship.

In a recent conversation with a spiritual elder, I thought about how the elements of casting a spell may be similar (in a way) to making a relationship strong and sacred.

Briefly, here are some ideas.

We’re using an analogy of nurturing a relationship.

  1. Bless water and bless salt. Combine them to make holy water.
    • Any relationship is a combination of energies.
  2. Cleanse with water and earth
    • Have a sturdy foundation of respecting each other.
  3. Cleanse with air and fire
    • You need to clear the air. Sometimes, you ask for forgiveness.
  4. Cast Circle
    • Make your home a safe haven from the outside.
  5. Call the Quarters (which is calling in the 4 Directions represented by The Elements)
    • Call on friends and family, whom you trust, to support you and your partner.
  6. Do your spell.
    • Show up and hug each other all the time.
  7. Raise energy – speaking words, raising a cone of power. Release the cone of power to do its job.
    • Pay attention to what lifts your partner’s spirits. If it includes watching some Star Trek Series with them … okay.
  8. Cakes and wine ceremony.
    • Food. Enough said.
  9. Close your Circle.
    • Find “completion points” in your day. (For example, my sweetheart massages my back every night.)

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


Enroll in my Online Course Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magick At Udemy.com


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief is also an online course on Udemy.com


Check out my Podcast.


Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. 

For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

Visit Moonwater’s Author’s Page for all her books here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.

“Valentine’s Day”- a Loving Time to Glow and Grow (A Witch’s Perspective)


How do you feel about this time of year when people celebrate “Valentine’s Day”?

Does it look like an opportunity to celebrate your love?
Or is it something you dread a bit? Will my partner disappoint me?
Oh, no!—will I fail my partner somehow?

And, can I quiet down my expectations? I mean, it’s okay to have expectations, right? Right?!

In this section, we’ll talk about patterns for couples.
(If you’re not in a couple at the moment, this conversation can still be useful.)

1. Celebrate
“Magic is love. All magic should be performed out of love.” – Scott Cunningham

With my sweetheart, I celebrate that we are kind to each other—and we do NOT give up on each other.

What would you celebrate with your partner?

2. Reaffirm
When my sweetheart and I “jumped the broom” together, we certainly related to the Wiccan tradition of “as long as love lasts.” We’ve been happily together for over 25 years. Our love is reaffirmed every day. Oh, Goddess—you need patience. Also, facial tissue for when he gets into a sneezing jag.

One thing I’ve learned is that love means you support your sweetheart’s calling. He is called to filmmaking. And, I am called to serve through this blog and my podcast. We are there to support each other’s calling.

What is your partner’s calling? How can you support them?

3. Deepen
Over the years, I have deepened as a person by stretching and learning that I could do things I did not imagine that I could.

The first time I did a workshop in New Zealand—that was a stretch.
Giving a speech is something I had to grow into.
I’m an introvert. One thing I like is the quiet time in the morning. My sweetheart is asleep. I find my own center for the day.

As a couple, we have deepened our flexibility to honor each other’s individuality.

How can you deepen your experience on your own path? How can you deepen your commitment to your partner?

Several authors have expressed: “A relationship is NOT a place you go to GET, it’s a place you go to GIVE.”

Here’s a prayer you can use:

Lord and Lady,
Help me show appreciation to my lover.
Let me support their calling.
May we glow and grow together.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


Enroll in my Online Course Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magick At Udemy.com


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief is also an online course on Udemy.com


Check out my Podcast.


Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. 

For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

Visit Moonwater’s Author’s Page for all her books here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.

Honoring the Seasons of a Relationship (a Witch’s Perspective)

“What does it mean to live a lifetime in a day?” Sherry, someone in my circle, asked.

“When you wake up, it’s the season of Spring. Things are new,” I replied. “The daytime is the Summer. The evening is Fall, while you’re preparing for rest,” I continued. “Winter is when you’re sleeping.”

“I think my relationship with Gerard is in Winter,” Sherry interrupted.

We talked further.

I recalled this poem by Doreen Valiente.

“The birth and rebirth of all nature,
The passing of winter and spring,
We share with the life universal,
Rejoice in the magical ring.” – Doreen Valiente

Sherry looked at the wedding ring on her finger. She frowned.

“Do the seasons also apply to a romantic relationship?” she asked.

“They could,” I said.

Here is a prayer you can use.

Lord and Lady,
As the Cycle of Life turns, turns and turns,
Life and death in their beautiful dance,
Chapters end, and new ones begin.
May I rejoice in the Cycle.
And find fulfillment and joy in the process.
So Mote It Be

May these insights support your journey.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


Enroll in my Online Course Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magick At Udemy.com


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief is also an online course on Udemy.com


Check out my Podcast.


Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. 

For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

Visit Moonwater’s Author’s Page for all her books here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.

When the Universe Refuses to Go Your Way (A Witch’s Perspective)

“Eat! Eat, you feline master of the universe,” I said to my cat. My cat? I am cat staff.

(Okay, that’s an old comic line).

Have you noticed how much you do not control?

I get … disgruntled … about car drivers who do exactly the wrong thing on the road. How did they pass the driver’s test? Oh … a miracle. A bad one.

Here’s a prayer you can use:

Goddess,
Calm me down.
Open my perspectives.
Strengthen me to flow with things as they are.
So Mote It Be.

May this insight support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


Enroll in my Online Course Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magick At Udemy.com


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief is also an online course on Udemy.com


Check out my Podcast.


Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. 

For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

Visit Moonwater’s Author’s Page for all her books here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.

What is the Real Gift? (A Witch’s Perspective)

“What was the gift in your brother calling you fat—when you were a little girl?” someone in my circle asked.

“I don’t know … Empathy, maybe,” I said. I know what being ridiculed feels like. I can connect and empathize with others who have had a similar experience.

“For if that which you seek, you find not within yourself, you will never find it without.” – the Goddess speaking in The Charge of the Goddess as written by Doreen Valiente

The gift for me may have been that I learned not to rely on human approval.

What do we seek within? It’s the divinity that the God and Goddess placed within you.

I had another thought. Without experiencing my brother’s ridicule, I would not have a certain form of compassion.

“You can’t pour from an empty cup.” – often attributed as a Zen master’s comment

Some authors suggest: “Strength comes from struggle.”

Here’s a prayer you can use:

My Lord and Lady,
May my tough experiences
Transform into compassion and strength.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


Enroll in my Online Course Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magick At Udemy.com


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief is also an online course on Udemy.com


Check out my Podcast.


Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. 

For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

Visit Moonwater’s Author’s Page for all her books here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.

When Your Thoughts Choke Your Action (A Witch’s Perspective)

“Do I tell him? Will this destroy our relationship before it’s begun?” This thought terrorized me.
How did I get into this mess?

I just had a date with this new guy. This was years ago.
He was doing a video project. It did not look good.

Do I tell him the truth?
Would he want to hear what I perceived?

You’ve probably heard the phrase “Go big or go home.”

If I couldn’t tell him the truth, maybe we wouldn’t be able to have a healthy relationship.

So, did I tell him?

Yes. I was brief. “I don’t think you can make money with this project.” The quality was not good enough.

Over the next couple of days, he surprised me.
He listened. He canceled the project.

It was a hard decision for him. He had to take responsibility for disappointing several people. No one wants to put time and effort into something that gets cancelled.

You may have heard that … many people throw money into something. But they do not quit when logic shows that the project is not working.

By the way, who is this guy?
He’s my husband. We’ve been happily together for more than 25 years.

Oh, I’m so glad he canceled the project. That video project could have wasted a significant amount of time and money.

What do you do when you’re confronted with a big decision?

Do you give in to fear?

Go to the God and the Goddess.

Here is a prayer you can use:

Lord and Lady,
Let me hear the truth through the noise of distraction.
May my supportive intention be felt by this person.
May we grow strong like the mighty oaks.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


Enroll in my Online Course Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magick At Udemy.com


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief is also an online course on Udemy.com


Check out my Podcast.


Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. 

For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

Visit Moonwater’s Author’s Page for all her books here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.

Support So You Rise in Your Practice (A Witch’s Perspective)

When I started in the Craft, I was a teenager.

I felt ugly, fat, and alone. I couldn’t even imagine wielding any power.
My brother continued to call me ugly and fat to my face and his friends.
I wished my parents would corral their precious firstborn.
My mother, in her anger and prejudice, ignored my pain.

Years later, I would suspect my mother had undiagnosed depression. She still won’t see a mental health professional.

Recently, a new thought came to me.

As teenager and a new witch, I was miserable.
What?! Someday, I could effectively move natural energy?

Now, years later, an image arose in my mind.

Think of natural energy as droplets of water.
A witch new to wielding magick may move these droplets of water one at a time.
Through diligent practice of witchcraft, these droplets may unite into a crashing wave.

Then, I thought…

Where would I like the united droplets to flow in my life?
Perhaps they could be a soothing, peaceful lake in my life.

How about you? Where would you like energy to flow in your life?

Here is a prayer you can use:

Lord and Lady,
Water me gently.
My power gathers.
Soak me thoroughly,
And my power grows.
I wield my power in waves,
To capsize sorrow’s boat, so I heal.
So Mote It Be.

Remember: The God and Goddess have placed divinity within you.
It is natural for a witch to move energy.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


Enroll in my Online Course Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magick At Udemy.com


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief is also an online course on Udemy.com


Check out my Podcast.


Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. 

For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

Visit Moonwater’s Author’s Page for all her books here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.

Honor Your Rhythms (A Witch’s Perspective)

Today, I woke up after sleeping for over 10 hours. That is so unusual for me.
No. I’m not suggesting that we work ourselves to exhaustion.

But this holiday season has seen me go, go, go.
My get up and go, got up and went!
I needed to replenish.

How about you?
Do you work yourself into the ground?
Do you just barrel on through?
Force yourself?
Get pissed off at people next to you?

Someone in my circle works with customers.
He says, “People who come in here are either sick or late or BOTH.”

What happens?
A number of the individuals are rude. Okay. Downright mean.

Wiccans know about the Three-Times Law.
What you put out there returns to you threefold.

Impatient?
Impatience slams you from other people.

Another way exists.

Take care of yourself. Honor your rhythms.
I just saw a comedic film.
I’m renewed.

And, here we have this blog post.

Here’s a prayer you can use.

May I honor my rhythms,
May I honor my inner Fall, Winter, Spring, and Summer.
May each flow from one to another smoothly,
As I so will,
So Mote It Be

P.S. Here is one more idea.
In our life, one day can include all four seasons. You may wake up in Winter.
Cold, stormy, and unpleasant. You might call a friend and then have moments of Spring.
Honor your rhythms.
May these insights support your path.  

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


Enroll in my Online Course Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magick At Udemy.com


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief is also an online course on Udemy.com


Check out my Podcast.


Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. 

For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

Visit Moonwater’s Author’s Page for all her books here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.

Live Each Day Like a Work of Art (A Witch’s Perspective)

In one of the last paintings I finished, I have three furry pets pictured as sunning themselves on a house roof.

As I look at the painting today, I notice how I placed dark green trees behind the furry pets.

This makes the three pop out.

What if you and I approached each day like a work of art?

You focus on something. You make it bright. It stands out.

When creating a painting, you choose to make some portions of the painting dark in color so others stand out.

What would you like to stand out in your experience of today?

“Happiness is gratitude minus envy.” – Naval Ravikant

When you pause and declare, “I’m grateful for this [walk among trees, Diet Coke, you name it], you have shone the light of your focus on it.

You can let other parts of the day fade into the background.

What is most important to you?

Here’s a prayer you can use:

Lord and Lady,
Let me see the lights in my life.
Let me bring them forward.
My darkest moments are only a portion of the tapestry of my life.
May I flow from moment to moment.
So Mote It Be

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


Enroll in my Online Course Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magick At Udemy.com


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief is also an online course on Udemy.com


Check out my Podcast.


Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. 

For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

Visit Moonwater’s Author’s Page for all her books here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.

Happy Yule 2025

To all my readers,

Have a Blessed Yule.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


Enroll in my Online Course Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magick At Udemy.com


 Enroll in my Online Course At Udemy.com


Spiritual Solution for Depression Relief is also an online course on Udemy.com


Check out my Podcast.


Looking for gifts?

PentagramWheel2

See my designs at Redbubble. 

For more of Moonwater SilverClaw, consider some of her books:

Visit Moonwater’s Author’s Page for all her books here.

Check out my site MoonwaterSilverClaw.com  for spells and more.