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Fortifying Your Boundaries (a Witch’s Perspective)

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“I’ve reached the end of my rope,” my friend, Rhonda, said. “I can’t bend anymore. I can’t take any more.”

I nodded.

I saw it in Rhonda’s eyes.
She knew that I understood.

That’s because she knew my story.
During my first marriage, I told my husband that we needed to have food in the house. But he didn’t care. He took care of himself by buying fast food. And overspending on his own video games.

That, plus more details, inspired me to go for a real boundary of “I’m not going to live like this.” I filed for divorce. One of my best decisions.

I have insights for you.

1. State your boundary. Make it brief. Say, “I need this.”

    During my first marriage, I would try to “make my case.”
    He did not listen. He did not care.
    Instead, I’ve learned to say, “I need this walkway clear.”

    That’s the full thought.

    I don’t need to plead and have to justify what I need.

    I have worth as a human being. The Gods placed divinity within me. And within you.

    “Live your earthly life fully, but try to see the spiritual aspects of your activities as well. Remember—the physical and spiritual are but reflections of each other.” – Scott Cunningham

    2. Realize that your boundary mirrors boundaries in nature.

    “We cannot and must not give love to others before we have respect and love for ourselves.” – Scott Cunningham

    Realize that the Goddess wants your well-being.

    I remember that the bark of a Redwood Tree is highly fire-resistant.

    The bark protects the tree’s core. Redwoods can survive all but the most extreme fires.

    Again, we, witches, learn from nature.

    Maintain a good and strong boundary.

    You, like the glorious Redwood Tree, are loved and valued by the God and Goddess.

    Here is a prayer you can use.

    Gods,
    Surround me with your protection,
    Like the mother bear who protects her young,
    Or the lion who protects his pride.
    Here me now, and surround me with
    your protection on this Day/Night!
    So Mote It Be!

    May these insights support you on your path.

    Blessed Be,
    Moonwater

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    How Witches Create Badass Boundaries

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    At 6 years of age, I punched my 9-year-old brother in the gut. The little torturer deserved it. More than that, I deserved to be defended. So I defended myself. That was a badass moment for me.

    Now, I don’t recommend violence. But I was 6, I had no one else to go to.

    To be a badass, witches need to know what they stand for. They also need to know what they will not tolerate.

    I have three insights for you.

    1. Experience Inspiration from the Warrior Goddess Athena.

    Athena is known to be related to wisdom, crafts, and warfare. I knit, brew wine and mead, make soap, and more. In the past, I painted with oil paints, and I have created jewelry.

    The Badass Boundary is to Reserve time for your creativity.

    “Your habits define who you’re being.
    Your boundaries define the space you require
    in order to be who you’re being.” – Jen Sincero

    What activity do you like to do? Do you feel called to create something? Something artistic?

    2. Experience inspiration from the Goddess Brigid.

    Brigid is connected to wisdom, healing, protection, poetry, smithing, and domesticated animals. My cat, Magick, just jumped on my lap. I have the connecting with animals covered. For example, years ago, I volunteered at The Peninsula Humane Society. I took care of the small animals—known as pocket pets.

    The Badass Boundary is to Reserve time for connecting with flora and fauna in the world.

    Do you enjoy having a pet? Do you have any interest in having a familiar?

    3. Experience inspiration from the Goddess Venus.

    Venus is related to love, desire, sex, fertility, beauty, prosperity, and victory.

    The Badass Boundary is to Reserve time for your personal victories.

    I made the first move to bring my husband into my life. It took courage. And he’s sure glad I expressed interest! Lucky guy!

    How do you want to feel? In what area of your life can you move forward? What can be a small step toward your next personal victory?

    May these insights support your path.

    Blessed Be,
    Moonwater

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    How Witches Handle Being Totally Out of Control

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    My friend, Francesca, felt the tornado rise in her chest.
    She was furious. But it was not her sister’s fault.

    It was her awful father she had to face in two hours.
    But she didn’t think that at the time.
    She was just on edge—no—she was totally out of control.

    She retreated and barely made it to the bathroom.

    She looked into her own eyes…and she felt that she had lost a big part of herself. This anger, the feeling of being out of control, was not the person she wanted to be.

    I have three insights for you.

    1. Identify you’re out of control.

      Ask yourself…
      “Did I just say something I don’t mean?”
      “Look at my hands. Am I so anxious that I shouldn’t drive a car?”
      You may be feeling out of control.

      If so, stop. Pause. Breathe.

      And look at this next step.

      2. Place boundaries and create space.

      Often, we must stop. Pause. Breathe. Because someone or something is crashing into our life.

      Some people drain our energy. Some might call those people “leaches” or toxic people.

      You may need to set up some boundaries. Maybe something like, “I don’t talk to my ex-husband after 6:30 pm. We’ll talk about the kids before then.”

      If you feel out of control, you may need to create space for yourself. Space to breathe. Space to be in a calm, peaceful mode of being.

      Someone may have been a “friend” but now they are a “frenemy.” Maybe they are a narcissist.
      Protect yourself. Protect your personal energy. Place boundaries and create space.

      Regain control of your personal energy and personal space.

      3. Say a Prayer to bring your calm self back.

      I like doing this simple prayer/rite with my husband when we feel impacted by stress. This is part of a grounding and centering process.

      We breathe in deeply and say:

      God and Goddess.
      Thank you.
      We are loved.
      We are safe.
      God and Goddess bless us.
      We are grateful and strong.
      So Mote It Be.

      May these insights support your path.

      Blessed Be,
      Moonwater

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