When I did my first spells, I was afraid of making a mistake. This fear kept me from doing magick because I was afraid of doing something wrong.
Over the years, I have learned certain things, including what I call the “hidden requirements of spellwork.”
1. Start small.
The simplest spell you can do is “thank you.” You can light a candle and some incense to say thank you to the God and Goddess for the blessings you currently experience.
2. Hold to humility.
I started as a solitary witch. I did not do more involved spells until I was in a coven with spiritual elders.
I find that holding to humility is helpful. Why? You make space to learn more.
3. Make space for a time duration.
Have you noticed that many worthwhile things in life take time? It takes time to practice. You may make a mistake, and that’s a time when your awareness is expanded.
Here’s a prayer you can use:
Lord and Lady, Help my studies grow. Let me learn and know. Help my knowledge fall in line. Give me hope at this time. So Mote It Be
Have you seen friends abandon you because of your Wiccan faith?
Three former friends come to mind. They’re gone. I miss them.
But then I realize this question: “What will I dwell upon?”
Imagine the Goddess was here to coach me. She might say, “Moonwater, let this go. It’s all right.”
Or…
The God might coach me with this comment: “Who cares? Let them go.”
Well, let’s look at that “Who cares?” part.
It reminds me: “Does caring about the people who chose to leave my life help me at all?”
We’re talking about how we experience our daily life.
If I think about the former friends whose prejudices led them to leave … it won’t change anything. Except it drains my energy. Thinking about them makes me feel bad.
But I could dwell upon a completely different idea.
When a friend chose to reject me due to Wicca, they closed a chapter of my life. A chapter that had them in it.
One thing is: A “fair weather friend” leaves … and my schedule opens for other people to come in.
Okay.
Here’s a prayer you can use:
Lord and Lady, Help me not dwell on the doors that shut in my life And help me heal from the loss of the friends who leave. May I dwell in your Divine Shining Light. So Mote It Be
May these insights support your path.
Blessed Be, Moonwater
P.S. For more on how to deal with disruption and chaos, see Moonwater’s new book, World On Fire. Check it out with the link below.
It took weeks to get a medical appointment for an MRI scan. Then today, medical team members of another department taped a heart-monitoring device on me.
Poof! That threw away my MRI scan appointment.
Grrrrrrr.
It feels like a bunch of time wasted. New frustration. What can I do with this?
“Uh, hello, Goddess, what can I learn from this?” – it’s a thought I had.
[[Go with the flow. Surrender. Be grateful for what you have.]] – an intuitive thought that arose.
Grateful for what?
That my body works. That I’m still here with my husband, with my parents, and with my glorious cat, Magick.
What?
Earlier today, a car racing on the other side of the highway raced toward me. With its turn signal on.
Well, the genius driving the car merged over, demonstrating that he would be making a turn. But he apparently did not know the turn signal was on.
**An accident almost happened.**
I AM grateful that no accident occurred.
So I say,
“Okay. Goddess, I AM grateful for every blessing. Help me empty the “can” of mental garbage.”
Here’s a prayer you can use.
Goddess, Help me empty the can of mental garbage I have collected. Open my eyes to all the blessings You give me. So Mote It Be
May these insights support your path.
Blessed Be, Moonwater
For more on how to deal with disruption and chaos, see Moonwater’s new book, World On Fire. Check it out with the link below.
Yeah, I flunked kindergarten. This made me into “compliant girl.” I had to live up to my parents’ standards about my grades and more. By the way, eventually, I was diagnosed as a person who has dyslexia.
So, there’s that phrase “live up to.”
As a girl, if I said anything original and an expression of my true self, I was chastised.
Yes, these were the parents who dragged me to THEIR church.
Recently, I had a conversation with a spiritual elder. The topic of “live into” versus “live up to” arose.
We, Witches, are called to LIVE INTO the divinity the Goddess and God placed within us.
We do not need to gain someone’s approval.
Each one of us is a unique expression of that divinity.
I remember one of my early boyfriends. I did not feel comfortable expressing my Wiccan spiritual path. So, I said nothing.
Are you finding that you tend to “live up” to someone else’s expectations?
What if you were free to “live into” your true spiritual path and destiny?
Here is a prayer you can use.
My Gracious Lady, Help me let go of others’ limiting expectations, Lord of the Greenwood, Help me live into my true destiny! So Mote It Be
Do you know what sells more than sex? Rage. The algorithms in social media are, reportedly, geared to make people react in anger or rage.
Anger in times of chaos is understandable. In fact, my new book, World On Fire: How Witches and Wiccans Transcend the Chaos and Find Their Peace, has three sections on anger. Also, not-a-fun fact, the word “anger” shows up 45 times in this book. Good news: There is a section about how to shift so you can get sleep even if you start angry.
Here, let’s talk about shifting away from falling into a reaction. When you pause and take a breath, you can make a transition to a healthy response. Not a reaction.
Breath of the Loving Goddess
Breath supports and heals you.
So, take a deep breath in, and breathe in the love of the Goddess.
Hold…
In your mind, say, “I breathe in peace. Goddess, thank you.”
Then exhale.
In your mind, picture tension, stress, and pain exiting your body as if you are exhaling black smoke out of your mouth.
In your mind, say, “I breathe out all stress, pain, and tension.”
Repeat this process 9 times.
A warning: As with any form of exercise or exertion, consult with your doctor. Some people may need to be careful about getting lightheaded or hyperventilating.
Have you heard that researchers point to 15% of men (in the U.S.A.) report having no close friends? That is a fivefold increase from 1990. Back then it was only 3% of men reported having no close friends.
I add this to our conversation because we all need support and even opportunities to be kind. For my readers who are covens, it creates community.
So, let’s practice putting a metaphorical “pause” on the destructive thoughts.
Ask yourself, “What would Goddess say?”
Listen for something positive. Something supportive. Something that inspires you to grow and enjoy your spiritual path.
“This book is pushing a wild idea,” my friend, Alice, said.
“Oh?” I replied.
“This author, Tracy Dennis-Tiwary, PhD, wrote: ‘Anxiety has evolved to make us more resourceful in the face of uncertainty,’” Alice said.
I reflected on this.
Here are two insights.
1. A Witch Looks to Nature
We, as witches, observe the seasons.
In the Fall, a squirrel gathers nuts. Does it gather while in full anxiety? “Oh! I’d better gather these nuts or I will die!”
Who knows?
Still, we can take an anxiety thought and use it as a springboard.
Anxiety-Thought: Oh! I’ll crash and burn at the job interview. Natural Shift: “Got to prepare. I’ll rehearse with my good friend, Robin. Maybe I’ll hire a coach.”
How do you need to prepare? Then, you emerge from worry into a more resourceful version of yourself.
2. Call on the Goddess.
Here’s a prayer you can use.
Goddess, Let me pivot my anxiety into a springboard for a helpful thought. Help me see the opportunity in my situation. So Mote It Be.
“Oh, no! Did you see that? What an Idiot!” I said, driving, after ducking my car out of the way of an idiot-driver.
“I’m venting,” I said to my husband.
Later, I reflected on this.
Scott Cunningham wrote: “The magic begins in you … Words and actions are used as focal points or keys to unlock the power that we all possess.”
Here are two insights.
1. Carefully choose your venting and take a look at your perceptions
When, in frustration, I called another driver “an idiot,” I was venting. But was that all I was doing?
Upon reflection, I realize that I judged that person based on one action.
What if that person was a kind teacher, who was rushing to the hospital to visit her brother, who … ironically … was injured in a traffic accident?
It is possible that perceiving one as surrounded by idiots can cause trouble.
Our words are a form of magic.
Venting for five minutes is not driving our friends nuts by complaining for two hours.
Do you vent? Are you judging people and feeling bad as a result?
2. Ask Goddess to Help You Shift During Your Day
Here is a prayer you can use:
Goddess, Help me shift from judgment to compassion. Let me see the value in the other person, Even if I don’t see it now. Let me breathe in and out So my peace stays all day. So Mote It Be.