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How to Communicate Something Tough and Avoid Somebody Shutting Down (a Witch’s Perspective)

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“My husband just shuts down,” my friend, Lisa, said. “I can’t get him to correct what he’s doing.”

Later, I had a thought based on some Wiccan and magick ideas.

Here are three insights.

1. Carefully choose words, and you wield energy.

“Magic isn’t the empty parroting of words and actions; it is an involved, emotionally charged experience in which the words and actions are used as focal points or keys to unlock the power that we all possess.” –  Scott Cunningham

You have the power to encourage or shut down a person.

Notice this difference:

  • Option One: “When are you going to listen to me? You just don’t care.”
  • Option Two: “Hey, thanks for clearing the filter for the sink.” (The other person smiles. Then you add something like…) Oh, I had another idea. Is this an okay time to talk “logistics”?

As Scott wrote: “words and actions are used as focal points or keys to unlock the power that we all possess.”

2. You influence certain people in ways more than you know.

If someone cares about you, they’d like to succeed in doing something good for you.

I remember inadvertently overhearing two spouses, “Sam and Janet.”
Sam looked back at Janet to see if Sam’s washing her car had made Janet happier.
No. She just made another request.

Sam did NOT get a moment of success at trying to please her.

It’s about giving your loved one some space to feel good.

In my own life, I need to take care of myself. And that’s tough when I’ve lost sleep. So sometimes, I schedule a nap.

I come back with renewed energy.

My husband and I enjoy a better interaction after that.

“On waking in the morning, try to make your first words pleasant, for this brings good fortune for the entire day.” – Scott Cunningham

3. Ask, in prayer, that the Goddess guide your words

Here is a prayer you can use.

Goddess,
Guide my words that they may comfort others,
Help me hold my tongue when the words are sharp.
Support me to take care of myself, mind and body.
May I be grateful for every blessing.
So Mote It Be

As witches, we notice the value of being flexible like the willow tree. May we meditate, conduct ritual, and pray to maintain our flexibility.

And remember this: 

“That perhaps is at the core of Wicca–it is a joyous union with nature. The earth is a manifestation of divine energy. Wicca’s temples are flower-splashed meadows, forests, beaches, and deserts.” – Scott Cunningham

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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A Secret about Happiness—Or a Miserable Life (a Witch’s Perspective)

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“I don’t have any success,” my friend, Samantha, said flatly.

“What about how you’re taking good care of your ailing parents? That’s work,” I said.

“That’s not work. Work is only when you get paid,” Samantha said.

“You know, there are people who get paid as assistants to old people,” I said.

Samantha just frowned.

I reflected on this.

Samantha is often miserable.

Why? One reason may be about her definitions, which are like knives that she uses to cut herself.

What about your definitions?

How do you define success? Or even happiness.

So many of us live in the space of “only when I can…”

How does this sound?

“I’ll be happy only when I can have no worries about the future.”

Good luck with that.

Researchers note that approximately 85% of what people say they worry about does NOT happen.

But what does occur? A bunch of people being miserable moment-to-moment … How? They’re living in their worries.

And their definitions are, by default, set up so they can never win.

What are examples of a self-defeating definition?

  • “Success is only making a lot of money.”
  • “Work is only if you are paid.”  (That means getting groceries for your family means nothing?!!)

We, witches, look to nature for guidance. We know that we live through seasons. Spring follows Winter. The forest burned by fire can have new growth.

What is another definition of success? “I choose what is meaningful to me. I take action, and something valuable gets done.”

A happy life appreciates seasons, and we go through chapters of our lives. Some chapters are tough. And then, like the seasons, we can experience renewal.

What definition would help you on your path?

Blessed Be.
Moonwater

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