“What relationship has elevated your life?” my friend, Angela, asked.

“The one with my mentor, my High Priestess,” I replied.

I have three insights for you.

1. Listen

If you find a mentor, be sure to truly listen to them. Follow their guidance. 

When you listen, you show respect. And more importantly, you learn.

In your various relationships, you show that you care when you listen to the other person.

Listening is like water that nurtures relationships.

2. Demonstrate you did something with their teachings.

How does your mentor know that you have truly learned something? You get back to them about how you applied a lesson. You share what your results were.

Many of us are afraid to get back to a mentor when our results are not ideal. Talk with them anyway. Sometimes, the mentor says, “Oh. I should have also guided you to do ____.”

Mentors often share lessons, but few people take action upon their guidance. Be the exception.

Using the gifts that they have given shows that you really listened to them. This means so much to your mentor. It lets them know that what they are doing is working. They realize that their efforts are being fruitful.

These continuing conversations deepen and enliven your relationships.

3. In meditation, ask the Gods for Guidance

You can ask the Gods for guidance in meditation or prayer. You can ask questions like:

• Who should I learn from?
• Where will I find the person?
• What are my next steps to reach out to them?
• How can I connect with them to welcome me as their student (or friend)?

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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When I went to college, I dreamed of being a visual effects artist.
That version of me never happened.
I have enjoyed other adventures as a speaker in both the United States and New Zealand – as an author – as a blogger – and as one who expresses herself with the Podcast Goddess Has Your Back.

But I grieve.
I grieve the “me” that does not exist.
This grief is called, by Dr. Scott Gilers, “Ambiguous Grief.” He said, “It is like grieving the loss of an alternate universe version of yourself.”

Do you grieve some alternate version of yourself? Do you grieve losing your first love? Did you decide not to have children … but sometimes you think of what you might have known as a parent?
Did you give up on some artistic dream – to act, to sing, or to write?

I have three insights for you.

1. The God and Goddess have a transcendent view of you.

What is possible for you? The Gods see the real you. They know you can do more than your first guesses.

What story do you believe about your life?

Many of us believe that we are limited to our current job or current level of closeness in our family. Some witches believe they are limited in their knowledge of the Craft.

Where does all this limited thinking come from? Many authority figures like to squeeze us into a box. Why? It’s convenient for them. Parents, guardians, teachers, and employers all want to limit us to do what they want.

However, the secret is: the Gods know that we can be expansive. Think of the people who discover their art when they are older. For example, Grandma Moses started painting at 80 years old. She painted 1000 paintings and earned two honorary doctoral degrees. She passed away at 101 years old.

Yes—Grandma Moses was extraordinary. Still, the God and Goddess know that we have untapped potential.

What would you like to try?

We are free to choose and to live.

2. The God and Goddess realize that you are like the caterpillar that transforms to the butterfly. But it may not be the butterfly you prefer.

One of my favorite insects is the butterfly. It has so much meaning for me. Why? Because I transformed from a small shy, scared human being into a more capable one.

I have more growing to do. But I am continuing to grow and blossom with every step I take. I grow in my practice of the Craft—and in other areas of life.

I mentioned, “You may transform into the butterfly you did not prefer.” By this, I mean, that many of us became stronger because we endured tragedy. We did not want that. We became “the stronger butterfly.”

Have you endured tough times? Have you become stronger?

Are you the “stronger butterfly”?

If you choose to see the value of your struggles, you feel better—and more capable.

3. Ask the Goddess for support.

Here is a prayer that can support you.

Gracious Goddess,
Help me grow into the person I was meant to be.
Let me spread my wings and soar to new heights.
Ever growing, ever soaring.
So mote it be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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“I always avoid criticism. It makes me feel like crap,” a friend, Angela, said.

I later thought about criticism and good ways to deal with it.

“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” – Aristotle

I have three insights for you.

1. Avoid trying to duck all criticism.

If someone criticizes something you did, you can view it as a “badge celebrating that you did take action.”

When someone criticizes you, you know you have made an impact. You have arrived! You are saying something.

Criticism rises among different Wiccans.

Some say that rituals must be performed in a certain way.

How do you do your own practice? Do you have certain opinions about how to do things?

There are many opinions about the Craft.

Have you noticed that some people can be truly negative about new ideas?

It’s important to notice the difference between negative criticism and real constructive criticism.

How can you tell the difference?

Ask yourself: Is this person trying to support me in what I am trying to accomplish? Or is their ego involved?

“In order for you to insult me, I would first have to value your opinion.” – Anonymous

2. Do something on the level of “real and connected.”

Real is about doing something on an authentic level. When doing your Craft, do what speaks to you.

Yes, follow good safety rules like:

• Dismiss what you invoke.
• Always, always ward.
• If in doubt, bring in the Gods.

A ritual that is from the heart is more powerful. On the other hand, a ritual with many half-intentioned steps of complexity can be weak.

Real is visceral and heartfelt.

If it doesn’t feel right, it’s wrong.

Find your own way while you keep to the safety rules.

3. Ask the Goddess to strengthen you.

Here is a prayer you can use:

Gracious Goddess of the Moon,
Give me the strength to forge my own path.
Lead me, guide me to the betterment of myself and others.
Strengthen my Craft and help me learn and grow.
So mote it be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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Do you feel stuck in life?

That was me. Years ago, in a loveless marriage. But I didn’t move. My depression symptoms had me convinced that nothing would be better. Just one day after another of repeating pain.

Month after month went by.

I didn’t push. I didn’t ask for better.

What could happen? That was the unknown.

Do you relate to being afraid to step into a new chapter of life?

What is waiting in the unknown?

Imagine … your destiny awaits.

Here are three insights:

1. Is the pain enough to push me to the unknown?

Many people wait until finally the pain is so unbearable that there is no other choice. But…to…move.

2. Is the benefit enough to pull me into the unknown?

My depression symptoms masked what possible benefits could await me in a new chapter of life. Free of the shackles of a loveless marriage.

Is there something good that’s possible if you step forward into a new chapter of life?

3. Have I asked for support?

Did you ask the Gods for support? If not, this is a good time to do so. The God and Goddess can hold your hand as you boldly go into the unknown. The unknown is scary. The unknown has no form. It is uncertain … and possibly painful.

“If there is no struggle, there is no progress.” – Frederick Douglass

“There’s got to be something better than this” – many people who take a step forward

Here’s a prayer:

Lady of the Moon, Lord of the Forest,
Open my perception to the benefits to be enjoyed
When I step forward into the unknown.
It’s worth it.
Support me, guide me, protect me.
So mote it be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magic: How You Can Remove Blocks to Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace

Goddess Has Your Back: How Wicca Can Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem and Make Your Life Magickal

The Hidden Children of the Goddess Embrace Wicca, Become Strong, Be at Peace with Yourself and the World Around You

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The car in front of me screeched to a stop. I hit the brakes just in time. That was it. A hundred cars all stopped cold. The winding road toward the California beach was packed.

No car moved. We remained miles away from the beach.

One friend was distraught. “Oh. I’m so sorry that we had to go this day.”

My husband looked relaxed.

“I’m good. It’s all part of the adventure,” he said.

I have three insights for you.

1. Much of your experience is determined by your “filter.”

What filter do you have?

I have my depression filter. My depression symptoms swirl about and tell me I’m worth nothing. If I just let my filter run the show, I wouldn’t get anything done.

It’s like the old story of the pelican asking two fish near the surface: “How’s the water?”

The fish reply, “What’s water?”

Like the fish, you might not be aware of your filter. Your filter likely impacts you with automatic thoughts. Thoughts like: “This is terrible. I’m no good at this. This is not fair. I hate this. Why are there so many morons and idiots?” (That last one is a good question.)

Filters can color everything we do and say.

So, if the filter is “water” – what can we do?

We can listen.

Listen well. Consider lessons that show up again and again.

Listen to what trustworthy people say.

Watch what bothers you about other people – that may be something in you reflected outward.

And, remember to pray and connect with the God and Goddess for Their support and guidance.

2. Flow with the seasons and cycles.

Witches observe nature, seasons, and cycles.

We know you can yell and stamp your foot – but that won’t make Spring arrive a day sooner … when you’re stuck in Winter. Or when you’re stuck with 100 cars on a winding road to the beach.

Many times, the adventures of our lives have various textures. Good moments, bad moments. Scary moments. Moments of peace and gratitude.

Adventures have seasons. A good season. A dry season. A flood season.

Whatever the season, you can take in a breath and say. “Okay. It’s all part of the adventure.”

3. Invite the Goddess to clear your filter.

Here is a ritual that may help you clear your filter.

Perform this ritual on a waning moon.

You will need:

• One blue chime candle
• Boline to inscribe sigil on candle
• Banishing incense
• Banishing oil or olive oil

Start by dressing your candle.

(To dress the candle means The process of putting your desire into the candle. As you clearly envision your wish, rub anointing oil (olive oil will suffice) on the candle. Spread the oil from the top of the candle to the center, and then from the bottom back to the center. Rubbing from each end of the candle to the center draws or attracts a desire to you. If you wish to repel something, for example, an illness or bad luck, you would rub from the center out to each end of the candle. This pushes away what you wish to repel.)

For the second part, you state the purpose of using the candle. Here is an example:

“Clear my filter and open my eyes.”

Inscribe a sigil on your candle with your boline.

Here is the sigil you will use:

Light your incense. Then say these words as you light your candle.

Goddess of the night,
Uncover the filter I have about myself
Clear the illusions from my eyes.
Let me see the filter within me.
Guide me.
Release me.
Have my perception expand beyond the filter.
Elevate my actions.
For my good and all involved.
So mote it be.

Let the candle burn all the way down until it is extinguished.

This ritual releases you from the shackles of a filter. When you have freedom, you have the possibility to respond instead of reacting to tough moments. When you respond, you avoid making things worse. From the place of inner peace, you can do better than before. 

May these insights support your journey.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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Goddess Reveals Your Enchanted Light: Peace, Prosperity, Possibility Along Your Wiccan Path

Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magic: How You Can Remove Blocks to Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace

Goddess Has Your Back: How Wicca Can Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem and Make Your Life Magickal

The Hidden Children of the Goddess Embrace Wicca, Become Strong, Be at Peace with Yourself and the World Around You

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