The car roared through the intersection and barely missed me.
How? I was not in the intersection because a clear thought came to me: “Not yet.” This meant, I was to avoid stepping on the accelerator and jumping my car forward when the light turned green.
You’d think that after a real experience of having my intuition, or Goddess’s voice, protect me, I’d have a whole new perspective.
I might even hope for my life to continue to be blessed with such miraculous protection.
But I have had a problem with hope.
Why would someone ask someone for a date? For the hope that the person would say “yes” and a good relationship could begin.
Why would someone attend college? For the hope that the person would gain better employment.
Recently, I was talking with a friend about a Wiccan perspective of hope.
“I don’t know if I’m the one to respond to that idea,” I replied.
You see, I’ve lived much of my life—before this moment—by protecting myself from hope. By not hoping, disappointment cannot touch me. Or so I thought.
What I’ve learned is: Many of us are afraid of being let down. But by not hoping, we let ourselves down before anything really begins. We take away our own energy. We find ourselves in a space that is both familiar and painful. You might even say, we are almost comfortable in that familiar pain—comfortably numb.
How do you invite God and Goddess into this situation?
My Realization about Hope
In the recent few days, I realized something about my relationship with hope. I cannot logic my way to feeling hopeful. My logical mind can focus on all the times I’ve done something, and true blessings arose. I changed my life for the better with one particular email message that turned a romantic relationship into the love of my life. I met certain neighbors and joined my first coven. Recounting my blessings does not change my feelings. (Okay, having clinical depression is in the mix here.)
If logic won’t get me to hope, what can? Moving. Ritual.
Here are five ways for Wiccans to shift to a hopeful approach to life:
- Raise Energy
You can sing, chant, dance, use breath control and many other techniques to raise energy. If you are in a tough spot, doing the above methods can help motivate and even change your outlook on many problems.
Using your strong emotions, you can focus energy to your Will.
When you raise energy, you can focus the related power to help create the outcome you desire.
- Breathe In Light; Breathe Out Pain
Here is a simple exercise that you can do to lessen the pain and stress of disappointment.
Say to yourself:
I breathe in the light of love from the Gods.
(Visualize the white light all around you. As you breathe in deeply, the white light enters your body, filling your lungs and nurturing your soul.)
I breathe out my pain and sadness.
(Visualize breathing out your pain as black smoke. It is neutralized safely by the Gods.)
With this exercise you can release the pain of worry and disappointment.
- Shift Your Thoughts by Shifting Your Body
Ritualized movement can place you in a positive frame of mind. I enjoy the movement of drawing the pentacle in the air with my athame during ritual.
Additionally, the act of Casting the Circle helps me settle my mind and know that I am in the sacred space. This is why we cast Circle the same way each time. It is to help our subconscious mind settle down to the work at hand. This literally changes your mind to be in the presence of the Gods.
- Cultivate Your “Believing Eyes Friends”
Julia Cameron, author of The Artist Way, writes about how we need friends who have “believing eyes.” These are friends who can believe for us—even when we cannot believe for ourselves at this moment.
We often get lost in our own beliefs. “Oh, I can’t do that.” Or “Oh, that will never happen.” We literally cannot see a worldview outside of ourselves. Our vision is limited by self-condemning beliefs.
This is why it is important to nurture friendships with healthy people who hold our dreams in a loving way.
- Light a Candle and Ask for Help from God and Goddess
Light a candle and ask the God and Goddess to intervene on your behalf. Say a prayer. Or do a ritual.
In summary, I’ve shared that hopeful thoughts and feelings—before this moment—have not been a primary part of my life.
Here’s something strange. In writing this blog post, I am acting in a hopeful manner. My hope is that you’ll find value in this post.
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2 thoughts on “Wiccans and Rising Up from Discouragement and Disappointment”
Thank you for sharing – I can relate to all you share here, in some perspective or other. My mental health professional once told me “don’t expect anything, and then you can’t be disappointed, then everything little bit you get will be a bonus”. True, but hard. (this was in regard with trying to build a worthwhile relationship with my parents who lacked communication skills of any kind). I sort of got there, but I still lived in hope, but now that they are gone, the hope is gone altogether – so now I concentrate on forgiving and letting go. And I’m sort of getting there. thank you, Kind regards, Gaye ❤
Blessings to you for your loss. I hear you. Thank you for your comment. It means so much to me that you got value from this post.