“I hate New Year’s Resolutions,” my friend, Martha, said. “They don’t work.”

This started an extended conversation.

I have three insights for you.

1. You cannot win with “a negative.”

A New Year’s Resolution of “I’m not going to smoke” can backfire. How? You take a bad habit out and you leave a hole. Instead, you can say, “I take walking breaks.” (That replaces smoking breaks.)

Here’s another problem. One person said, “This year is about ‘no self-sabotaging.’”

Then her mentor said, “Exchange that for the positive: Self-Respect, Self-Worth, Self-Effectiveness.”

2. Goddess says, “My Law is Love”—not “My Law is Shame.”

“I define shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging—something we’ve experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection.” – Dr. Brene Brown

Goddess made you worthy. She does not try to manipulate you (like humans do) by making you feel bad.

“For My Law is Love unto all beings,” The Goddess in The Charge of the Goddess as written by Doreen Valiente

When you find yourself repeating some mean and cutting words (you heard from parents, guardians, employers, or others), pause. Stop right there. Imagine turning around the thought.

Here’s an example: “Stupid. I always say the wrong thing.”

Turn It Around: “I made a mistake. I can get coaching and learn something better to say in a stressful moment like that.”

3. Invite the Goddess to Support Your New Year’s “Direction.”

Instead of New Year’s Resolutions, you can pick a direction.

It sounds like:

• I’m learning about starting my own business.
• I’m now being kind to myself.

What direction would help you?

Here’s a prayer:

Goddess, support me in my New Year’s Direction.
Give me insights to make course corrections in my journey.
Lead me, guide me.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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