My friend, Francesca, felt the tornado rise in her chest.
She was furious. But it was not her sister’s fault.

It was her awful father she had to face in two hours.
But she didn’t think that at the time.
She was just on edge—no—she was totally out of control.

She retreated and barely made it to the bathroom.

She looked into her own eyes…and she felt that she had lost a big part of herself. This anger, the feeling of being out of control, was not the person she wanted to be.

I have three insights for you.

1. Identify you’re out of control.

Ask yourself…
“Did I just say something I don’t mean?”
“Look at my hands. Am I so anxious that I shouldn’t drive a car?”
You may be feeling out of control.

If so, stop. Pause. Breathe.

And look at this next step.

2. Place boundaries and create space.

Often, we must stop. Pause. Breathe. Because someone or something is crashing into our life.

Some people drain our energy. Some might call those people “leaches” or toxic people.

You may need to set up some boundaries. Maybe something like, “I don’t talk to my ex-husband after 6:30 pm. We’ll talk about the kids before then.”

If you feel out of control, you may need to create space for yourself. Space to breathe. Space to be in a calm, peaceful mode of being.

Someone may have been a “friend” but now they are a “frenemy.” Maybe they are a narcissist.
Protect yourself. Protect your personal energy. Place boundaries and create space.

Regain control of your personal energy and personal space.

3. Say a Prayer to bring your calm self back.

I like doing this simple prayer/rite with my husband when we feel impacted by stress. This is part of a grounding and centering process.

We breathe in deeply and say:

God and Goddess.
Thank you.
We are loved.
We are safe.
God and Goddess bless us.
We are grateful and strong.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater