He looked good. Black hair and brown eyes. Real tall. Attractive.
We became a couple. But something was not working. I couldn’t feel comfortable to tell him about my experiences with Wicca. So, I just kept that to myself. It didn’t feel good.

Can you relate to this situation?

I have reflected on what is true compatibility with a romantic partner.

1. Where is passion and what is love?

When was the last time you were swept up with total attraction and passion for someone?

Have you found yourself saying, “I really want that person”?

What do you want? A night of passion. 27 nights of passion?

Or do you want them to love you?

And what is love if you cannot “just be yourself.” I’m not talking about being able to fart in front of them. (When you allow yourself to fart in front of someone, you’ve passed a threshold.)

I mean, can you express your joy and even questions about your journey with Wicca?

And if the person loves you, won’t they want to give you kindness and compassion? Don’t they want you to feel comfortable expressing what means so much to you about your spiritual path?

2. Open to differences and accept them.

Not all of us are going to find a life partner who is also a witch of our dreams.

Now what?

Have you met someone who fits your list of desired qualities?

But then you hear how rigid they are about religion or spirituality.

How do you find happiness with that person?

Maybe you don’t.

I have learned that a healthy relationship has space for partners to be different.

And, what does it mean to accept the differences of your life partner?

It means giving them the space to walk their own, unique path parallel to your path.

They do not have to be Wiccan.

Still, I’ve learned that an openness to being able to talk about one’s spiritual path helps deepen a relationship. No one is trying to convince the other. We’re just listening.

At times, my husband says, “I know you’ll find your solution.” He’s there to help. Still, he trusts me and my own process to discover my next steps forward.

He will listen. He will sit in the discomfort with me as I work things out.

I’m grateful for that. We do not always agree. But we always have each other’s back.

Have you found someone who has compassion for others’ beliefs?

3. Do you fit together like puzzle pieces?

“You like pizza. I like pizza. Let’s get married.” … that seems like the thought of several people.

What if we’re not supposed to find someone who is our clone?

Having similar interests is one thing. But having similar values goes much further.

Do you both value being kind?

Do you both value making a space for the other person to reach for their personal dream?

Have you noticed couples that “just work.” One is organized. The other is adventurous. They balance out. They stretch. They grow … together.

Here’s a prayer:

Lord and Lady,
Guide me and my partner
To make space for more understanding
Teach us how to care for each other’s beliefs
May love create our happy relationship
So Mote It Be

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater