My friend, Alfonso, found himself in a big disagreement with a friend.
As he described the situation, I realized that both friends have a different “personal rhythm.”

Here are three insights.

1. Be observant.

Some research points to different VAK Learning Styles. That’s Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic (touch or doing actions). Some people lean toward watching videos. Others listen to audiobooks.

Alfonso ran into the situation that he is “visual.” His pace of talking is like a music video with the rapid cutting together of shots (images).

His friend, Julie, is an auditory person. She talks slower. She enjoys the sound and tonality of voices.

When Alfonso quickly changed topics in a conversation with Julie, she felt rushed and offended.

Have you noticed that you have a different style or personal rhythm than a loved one – in conversation?

2. Be flexible.

Alfonso can be flexible and take responsibility for his own conversation patterns. He can choose to call Julie when he has a day off. Alfonso is just too frantic at work—even on a 15-minute break.

Some people say, “A friend would just put up with my quirks.” Maybe so. Maybe not. Why sow seeds of discontent?

We, Wiccans, look to the natural world.

Who is wrong? The hummingbird with a fast pace, or a tortoise with a slow pace?
The natural world has space for different creatures and different attributes.

So, we can make space for different people with different rhythms.

Are you too tired to be flexible?

(A side note: Do you know who are the comfortable people at which event? Speech therapists at their own convention. Why? They demonstrate patience… and they listen.)

3. Ask the Goddess for strength and insight.

Here is a prayer you can use:

Goddess,
Give me Your grace and strength,
To see the good in people and not just write them off as difficult.
Give me Your insight,
To see their view on things and not be stuck in my own opinion.
Guide me, teach me, show me a new perspective of my fellow beings.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater