“My mom died, and the world feels twisted,” my friend Sarah said.

I listened a lot to Sarah.

I reflected on this. Life hits us hard. It’s easy to go dark and get bitter.

Instead, I direct my focus on repeatedly bringing the light back to my eyes.

How about you? Do you want to recover from the dark times?

I have three insights for you.

1. Focus on words that elevate.

Sarah felt regret. She remembered times when she just needed to have quiet time to herself, and she did not visit her mother. Her job is extreme. She had to have recovery time to avoid getting physically sick.

Something that helped was when I said, “Your Mom would like to see you keep going for your dreams.”
Sarah said, “Yes. You’re right. Thank you.”

How about you? When has someone said something positive that helped you carry on?

2. Make space to “feel it all.”

When I feel pain, I remember that to feel the good feelings I need to avoid going numb.
I realize it can be good to “feel it all” … sadness, joy, fear, and courage.

When you feel it all, you can let the tough feelings stay and then go.

“I [The Goddess] give knowledge of the spirit eternal, and beyond death I give peace and freedom,” The Goddess, in The Charge of the Goddess, written by Doreen Valiente

Some spiritual elders mention that when we suffer losses, it is like we suffer “little deaths.” The child becomes a teenager. The time of childhood has died, and the teen is the butterfly who carries on. Then, we transform beyond the teenager.

To grow, we learn the value of “feel it all.” Beyond sadness and suffering is peace and freedom. How? When we integrate what we learn on our path as witches.

Do you make space to “feel it all”?

3. Ask Goddess for renewal.

You can use a prayer like this.

Goddess,
Guide me to renewal.
Just like the Yule Time, when the God brings light, laughter, and love to the land,
Help me rise again.
Restore the light in my eyes.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater