“I didn’t know if my friend would help me clean out my dead mother’s apartment,” Jillian, someone I know, said.

“How did you find out?” I asked.

“I took her out to coffee,” Jillian began. She continued, “I told Jessica, ‘I feel awkward about this. Saying ‘no’ is okay with me. But…uh…would you consider helping me clean out my Mom’s apartment?’”

“Wow. That sounds good,” I said.

“I was relieved. It worked,” Jillian said.

Here are three insights.

1. Ask questions of people you trust

Do you wonder about: “What no one is telling you”?

Are people finding you to be “nice”?
Do they think you are awkward?

If you feel awkward, it may be possible that other people think you’re doing fine.

But how do you know how you are doing?

Ask questions of people you trust.

For example, my husband asked, “Could I have made it go better when I was talking with Alfonso?”
I replied, “Did you ask about his cat’s surgery?”
“Oh! Good point,” my husband replied.

From that point forward, my husband got better at asking people about topics they were concerned about.

Who do you trust? And can they give you valuable feedback about how you are doing?

2. Listen and make space for personal reflection.

Let’s say a friend says, “You talk too much.”

(That would not apply to me.)

You could reflect on this. You might consider that your friend is an introvert and they just do not relate to a person being so verbal.

You could consult your divinatory tools. You could ask the Tarot: “Give me clarity about how I talk with people…”

It helps when you slow down and give yourself time to personally reflect on the feedback you are given.

3. Pray to the Goddess

Here is a prayer you can use.

Lady of the Moon,
Guide me to people I can trust.
Inspire me to ask them good questions.
So that they may lead me to my truth.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater