When Your Thoughts Choke Your Action (A Witch’s Perspective)

“Do I tell him? Will this destroy our relationship before it’s begun?” This thought terrorized me.
How did I get into this mess?

I just had a date with this new guy. This was years ago.
He was doing a video project. It did not look good.

Do I tell him the truth?
Would he want to hear what I perceived?

You’ve probably heard the phrase “Go big or go home.”

If I couldn’t tell him the truth, maybe we wouldn’t be able to have a healthy relationship.

So, did I tell him?

Yes. I was brief. “I don’t think you can make money with this project.” The quality was not good enough.

Over the next couple of days, he surprised me.
He listened. He canceled the project.

It was a hard decision for him. He had to take responsibility for disappointing several people. No one wants to put time and effort into something that gets cancelled.

You may have heard that … many people throw money into something. But they do not quit when logic shows that the project is not working.

By the way, who is this guy?
He’s my husband. We’ve been happily together for more than 25 years.

Oh, I’m so glad he canceled the project. That video project could have wasted a significant amount of time and money.

What do you do when you’re confronted with a big decision?

Do you give in to fear?

Go to the God and the Goddess.

Here is a prayer you can use:

Lord and Lady,
Let me hear the truth through the noise of distraction.
May my supportive intention be felt by this person.
May we grow strong like the mighty oaks.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


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How Witches Energize a Romantic Relationship

“Women are not attracted to nice guys,” my friend, Alicia, said.
“Maybe. But I heard that the real turn-off is … some nice guys are passive. You cannot count on them to step up and protect you,” I noted.
I have learned that we need to be proactive to protect our relationship. And, a big part of that is to know, in a relationship, the partners have real differences.
Here are three insights.

1. Observe your preferences and how they differ from your partner’s preferences.
What do you like? Do you like it when your partner brings you flowers? Or do you like it when they do the dishes, or maybe help you with one of your goals?
A person who likes “Acts of Service” will feel loved when you do things for them.
Other people really feel loved when you give them a gift. Think chocolate and flowers. Unless there is an allergy!
The strange thing is that partners are often opposite in what makes them feel loved.
It sounds like this: “I brought you flowers, greeting cards, jewelry…”
“Yeah. But could you just edit my article for my blog?”
That’s the sound of someone who prefers “Acts of Service.”
How do you know what makes your partner feel loved? … Ask them.

2. Note the differences between how you feel comforted and your partner feels comforted.
Imagine this situation. When you were a kid and you felt sick, your mother gave you chicken soup. And you still like chicken soup. You might feel comforted and loved with chicken soup.
Let’s say your partner prefers tomato soup. No matter how many bowls of chicken soup you offer, nothing good happens.
To make sense of this, it helps to have some conversations.

3. Ask the Goddess to help you make space for the differences.
Here’s a prayer that may help you:
Goddess,
Guide my partner and me.
Help us ask the right questions so
We discover what truly supports each other.
Help us to listen well.
We understand that our preferences may differ a lot.
Guide us to improve our personal energy so
We have reserves of calm and space for listening.
So Mote It Be.


May this prayer or something similar support you.
And…

    May these insights help you on your path.

    Blessed Be,
    Moonwater

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    How to Say No – and Enhance Your Wiccan Practice

    “I wish I could tell people no,” my friend, Jill said. “But I’m afraid it’s just going to cause more trouble.” How does a Wiccan say no and still protect her relationships?

    The answer lives in The Three Aspects of the Goddess. Many of us have heard of the  Maiden, Mother and Crone. I’m suggesting here that all three aspects are necessary – not only for our spiritual growth, but also for us to support our relationships at work and with family.

    Recently, I heard multiple times in the same week, Wiccans saying, “I don’t have time for my spiritual practice.” With people demanding your time and effort, it can feel almost impossible to have time for your personal, spiritual journey.

    Some authors suggest that “saying no” is a prime, time-management tool.

    I’ll add that you cannot merely say no. You need to add something kind and conscious to that process.

     Three Aspects of the Goddess

    We’ll focus on the Three Aspects of the Goddess to help you find more time, so you can improve your own Wiccan practice.

    First, you don’t just say no.

    I once heard a speech in which the person said, “You could say something like this: ‘I’ll have to say no at this time. My plate is full. Let’s see if we can brainstorm for a moment. Maybe, I know someone who can help you with that.’” The speaker’s point was that you don’t just say no. You also find a way to be helpful.

    That’s the essence of the below Three Aspects of the Goddess Elements to Say No Process:

    1. Maiden (fertility of ideas)

    Many times, people can be demanding of your time and efforts when it’s not your duty or job description.

    Still, you need to protect the relationship.

    This is the time to invoke the Maiden form of the Goddess, known for fertility. Let’s add the thought: fertility in terms of creating new ideas.

    When you embody “Maiden energy,” you say things like:

    • I hear you. The paperwork is tough. How about I brainstorm with you about when in the shift you can do it?
    • I understand. The paperwork is complicated. I realize that at some time (maybe I’m on vacation), you’d need to take care of it. When can we take 15 minutes, and I’ll show you how to do Part One of the paperwork?

    This process is about you helping the person think of ways to fulfill the task or request without you.

    The Maiden has lots of youthful energy. To guard your own energy, you need to express to the person what you’re willing to do, and more importantly what you’re not willing to do.

    Remember, there are things you cannot do for the person you care about. You cannot take their final exam, and you cannot, in their place, arrive on time for work.

    I’ve heard Wiccans complain about “where did my energy go?” Guard your own Maiden energy by shifting to helping people do their own tasks.

    1. Mother (nurture the person to do things)

    Embrace and nurture the person. Help the person do things for themselves.

    My friend, Jill, at work, puts forth the idea of a rotating schedule for the duty of filling out the paperwork.

    Jill discovers that helping the other people learn how to do paperwork gives them a sense of accomplishment that they are growing their skills.

    Make sure you nurture (and reinforce) the new behaviors by giving specific praise to another person who is learning new things. Appreciate them and give them good feelings. Celebrate that the person’s skills and experiences have expanded.

    My husband’s coach talks about “growing your comfort zone.”

    An effective mother does not do all the tasks. She empowers her family to add new skills. The family members “grow their comfort zone.”

    1. Crone (provide “wisdom with a hug”)

    I think of the effective Crone as one who provides wisdom with a hug.

    Without a hug or giving a person good feelings, it’s just someone telling another person what to do.

    For example, some male individuals say, “I’m a recovering Mr. Fix It.” This is recognizing that we want to avoid just telling someone: “To fix that, you should do _____.”

    Wisdom with a hug means “you hold them and their feelings.” And that means you listen.

    *  *  *

    In summary, you can create more time for yourself and your spiritual path when you learn to say no and add The Three Aspects of the Goddess. I’m not saying this is easy. It takes practice.

    When you’re not running around doing everyone else’s work, you can have time for your personal spiritual practices.

    May this process create more peace and joy in your life.

    Blessed Be,
    Moonwater


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    The Down and Dirty about Love Spells

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    The Down and Dirty About Love Spells

    I really like this guy. Can you do a love spell for me? Wiccans are faced with this question a lot.

    Love spells can be quite sticky. There’s a right way and a wrong way to approach them.

    The Wrong Way to Do a Love Spell

    Janet really likes Mark. So she buys a book on love spells from the local book store. She finds one she likes and performs the spell that night on Mark.

    The next day she sees Mark. There’s something different about him. Soon he asks Janet for a date. During the date Mark can’t keep his eyes off Janet.

    In the next days, Mark can’t get enough of Janet. At first she quite enjoys the attention. He calls every night.

    Then he follows her to the gym, grocery store, a movie theater. He shows up at her house unexpectedly, at all hours of the day and night.

    Now, every time she sees Mark, Janet jumps, startled.

    Janet wanted love; she now has fear.

    Do you see what happened? Janet made her own stalker by casting a love spell upon him. Two terrible details arise when you impose a love spell on someone. First, it’s unethical to mess with someone’s free will. Second, one could create a pattern in which a stalker may become violent.

    The Right Way to Cast a Love Spell

    Ellen hasn’t been on a date in quite a while. At an evening class she attends each week, she likes three guys, but she’s not sure about them.

    She wants to find the right fit and someone who truly loves her. So Ellen decides to do a love spell. Ellen first decides to make the love spell about herself—that is, she seeks to become more accepting of love. During her ritual, she writes down what she’d prefer to find in a mate. She asks the Gods to guide her and that special person to meet.

    A few days later, a guy named Sam arrives at the evening class. Sam is meeting one of the other three guys who attend the evening class. Sam strikes up a conversation with Ellen. Some days later, Sam asks Ellen out on a date. They really hit it off.

    Do you see the difference?

    Janet did a love spell on Mark, and such an imposition should never be done.

    On the other hand, Ellen did a love spell to make her more accepting of love and to be able to see the one she was looking for. She also asked the Gods to help guide both her and her right match to find each other.

    That’s a big difference.

    Love Spell

    What you will need:

    • Pink candle
    • Rose Oil to dress the candle. (You can make Rose Oil by diluting rose essential oil into olive oil. Make sure it is the therapeutic grade essential oil.)
    • Candle holder for pink candle
    • Loadstone
    • Table for the altar
    • Candles and candleholders for the four directions in the colors that represent each (red for south, blue for west, green for north, yellow for east)
    • Red candle for the God and a green candle for the Goddess. (These candle colors are preferable but not mandatory. You may also use white candles, which represent all colors.)
    • Working candle to represent the element Fire
    • Cup or chalice
    • Athame
    • Pentagram
    • Sword. (If you don’t have one, use an athame to cast the circle.)
    • Incense
    • Censer
    • Dish of salt, preferably sea salt
    • Bowl of water
    • Bell or chime
    • Altar cloth to keep wax and the other things off the table
    • Wine or juice and some sort of cake
    • Lighter
    • Taper (Light the taper by using the working candle. Then use the taper to light the other candles.)

    The Basic Circle Script

    Note: This script is written for someone who is casting alone.

    1) Knock three times on the altar. Ring the bell three times.

    2) Use the lighter to ignite the working candle. Place the lighter down on the altar. (The other candles will be lit later when you use the taper.)

    3) Light the charcoal (if you are using it) from the working candle. (The incense will placed on the charcoal later.)

    4) Take your athame and place its tip into the flame of the working candle. Say:

    I exorcise* you o creature of fire. And I consecrate and bless you in the names of the Goddess and the God that you are pure and clean.

    (*Note: When we speak of exorcise here, we are purifying the item by driving out any negative energies.)

    5) Trace a pentacle (a five-pointed star) in the air above the flame. Pick up the working candle and raise it up above you and imagine the Gods’ energy filling the candle’s flame. Place the candle back on the altar.

    6) Take your athame and place its tip into the bowl of water. Say:

    I exorcise you, o creature of water. And I consecrate and bless you in the names of the Goddess and the God that you are pure and clean.

    7) Using the athame, trace a pentacle in the water. Pick up the bowl of water and raise it up above you and imagine your energy and the Gods’ energy filling the water. Place the bowl back on the altar.

    8) Take your athame and place its tip into the salt. Say:

    I exorcise you, o creature of salt. And I consecrate and bless you in the names of the Goddess and the God that you are pure and clean.

    9) Using the athame, trace a pentacle in the salt. Pick up the bowl of salt and raise it up above you and imagine your energy and the Gods’ energy filling the salt. Place the salt bowl back on the altar.

    10) Take your athame and place its tip into the incense. Say:

    I exorcise you, o creature of Air. And I consecrate and bless you in the names of the Goddess and the God that you are pure and clean.

    11) Using your athame, trace a pentacle in the air above the incense. Pick up the incense and raise it up above you and imagine your energy and the Gods’ energy filling the incense. Place the incense on the lit charcoal.

    12) Take your athame and scoop up a blade of the salt. (Or you could your finger.) Place this pinch of salt into the water. Repeat this step two more times. Now, with the athame, mix the salt into the water and finish making consecrated water. With the athame, trace a pentagram over the bowl. Now, pick up the bowl of consecrated water and raise it up above you and imagine your energy and the Gods’ energy filling it.

    13) Take the consecrated water (the salt and water mixture) and dip your fingers into it. Dab some of it on your inner wrists and forehead. Say:

    I bless myself with Earth and Water.

    14) Take the censer filled with the burning incense and wave the smoke over you. Say:

    I bless myself with Air and Fire.

    15) Take the consecrated water and use your fingers to asperge (sprinkle with consecrated water) the circle. Starting with north and moving clockwise, walk a complete circle around the perimeter, aspersing each corner as you go. When finished, place the bowl back on the altar.

    16) Pick up the censer. Use your hand to wave the incense smoke around the circle. Starting with north and moving clockwise, walk a complete circle around the perimeter, waving the smoke as you go. Be careful not to burn yourself or anything else. When finished, place the censer back on the altar.

    You have just cleansed the space and yourself. Now let’s continue by casting the circle.

    17) Take the athame. Envision energy being channeled from you and coming out the tip of your athame [You point the athame outward, away from you as you create the circle.] Starting with north and moving clockwise, walk a complete circle around the perimeter. As you walk, say:

    I conjure you, o circle of power, that you be a boundary between the seen mundane world and the spirit world, that you protect me and contain the magick that I shall raise within you! I consecrate and bless you in the names of the Goddess and the God. So mote it be!

    18) Finish at the east quarter (direction).

    Now it’s time to “call the quarters.” (This refers to the four directions.)

    19) Pick up the athame and the taper from the altar. Light the taper from the working candle. Go and stand in the east corner of where your circle boundary is. Starting with the east candle, say:

    I summon, stir, and call you up, o mighty ones of the East, element of Air. Come guard my circle and witness my rite.

    20) Trace a pentacle in the air with your athame. Then light the quarter candle for east. Say:

    Hail and welcome!

    21) Move clockwise to the south candle. Say:

    I summon, stir, and call you up, o mighty ones of the South, element of Fire. Come guard my circle and witness my rite.

    22) Trace a pentacle in the air with your athame. Then light the quarter candle for south. Say:

    Hail and welcome!

    23) Move clockwise to the west candle. Say:

    I summon, stir, and call you up, o mighty ones of the West, element of Water. Come guard my circle and witness my rite.

    24) Trace a pentacle in the air with your athame. Then light the quarter candle for west. Say:

    Hail and welcome!

    25) Move clockwise to the north candle. Say:

    I summon, stir, and call you up, o mighty ones of the North, element of Earth. Come guard my circle and witness my rite.

    26) Trace a pentacle in the air with your athame. Then light the quarter candle for north. Say:

    Hail and welcome!

    27) Return to the altar. Using the taper, light the Goddess candle, saying:

    Welcome, my Lady!

    28) Using the taper, light the God candle, saying:

    Welcome, my Lord!

    You have now completed casting your circle.


     The Spell:

    Take up the pink candle and sprinkle some of the blessed water on it and say:

    You are cleansed by water and earth. 

    Next wave the pink candle over the burning incense and say:

    I charge and consecrate you by fire and air.

    Do the same process with the rose oil and the lodestone.

    Next, take your now cleansed and consecrated pink candle and carve your name on it with the word love.

    Next dress the candle with the rose oil and say:

    Little candle, I name you (your name) you now represent the love I attract to me.

    Place the pink candle into the candle holder and place on the pentagram. Put the lodestone at the base of the candle.

    Take the taper and light it from the working candle and light the pink candle saying:

    I am love and love comes to me.

    As the candle burns sit and concentrate on the candle flame, seeing love flowing in the form of light. When the candle has burned halfway down, take the candle and drop three drops of wax on the lodestone. Return the candle to its original place.

    Continue to see the love radiating from the candle, and now also see the lodestone pulling love to you.

    Watch the candle until it burns completely out. Carry the stone with you to help attract love to you.


    Cakes and Wine Ceremony

    After any ritual, it is important to replenish and ground your energy. Begin with wine or juice.

    1) Take the cup from your altar and pour the wine or juice into it. Then take the athame and dip its tip into the wine or juice. Say:

    As the athame is to the male, so the cup is to the female, and so joined bring union and harmony.

    2) Pour some of your blessed wine or juice into the offering bowl or plate on your altar. Say:

    To the Gods!

    You can now partake of the beverage.

    3) Take your athame and point it over the cake. Say:

    Blessed be these cakes that they bestow health, peace, joy, strength, and that fulfillment of love that is perpetual happiness. 

    4) Take one of the cakes (or just a piece) and place it in the offering bowl or plate. Say:

    To the Gods!

    You can now partake of the blessed cakes.

    So, what do you do with the blessed offerings in the offering dishes? You certainly don’t just throw it into the garbage! They are gifts to the Gods. Take them outside to your garden where you can leave it on the ground to help nourish the Earth.

    If you do not have a garden at your home, you can take the offerings out into the woods and leave them there. Some Wiccans who live in the city set the blessed offering out on their porch for local animals to partake. Be sure to only leave biodegradable food. Avoid wrappers or containers that will not decompose.

    Closing Circle

    It is very important to dismiss the energies you have called for your circle. Be sure to take down the magick temple (the circle) you erected. And certainly, dismiss the quarters!

    To close your circle:

    1) Take your athame and hold it up and stand facing the east. Say:

    Hail mighty ones of the East, the element of Air. I thank you for guarding my circle and witnessing my rite. May you depart to your fair and lovely realms. I bid you hail and farewell. 

    2) Trace a pentacle in the air with your athame.

    3) Continuing, moving in a clockwise circle, stand facing the south. Say:

    Hail mighty ones of the South, the element of Fire. I thank you for guarding my circle and witnessing my rite. May you depart to your fair and lovely realms. I bid you hail and farewell!

    4) Trace a pentacle in the air with your athame.

    5) Moving clockwise around the circle, stand facing west. Say:

    Hail mighty ones of the West, the element of Water. I thank you for guarding my circle and witnessing my rite. May you depart to your fair and lovely realms. I bid you hail and farewell!

    6) Trace a pentacle in the air with your athame.

    7) Moving clockwise around the circle, stand facing north. Say:

    Hail mighty ones of the North, the element of Earth. I thank you for guarding my circle and witnessing my rite. May you depart to your fair and lovely realms. I bid you hail and farewell!

    8) Trace a pentacle in the air with your athame.

    9) Return again to face east. While walking the boundary of the circle, say:

    Fire seal the circle round,
    Let it fade beneath the ground,
    Let all things be as they once were before.
    The circle is now no more,
    Merry meet, merry part,
    And merry meet again!
    So mote it be!


    In the post, I have shared with you the wrong way and the right way for doing a love spell. Take care in how you go about doing a love spell.

    A proper love spell will build you up and attract the right match for you.

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    How to Heal by Separating Yourself Spiritually from a Bad Relationship

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    How to Heal by Separating Yourself Spiritually

    from a Bad Relationship

    We’ve all been in a bad relationship at some time in our lives. Whether it is a family problem or ex-lovers or a friendship that just plain went sour. So how do we spiritually separate ourselves from these poisonous people?

    You can use many different ways to accomplish this. However, the first and foremost thing to do is to verbally end the relationship. You might say something like: “I don’t think this is healthy for us. So let’s just stop seeing each other.”

    Second, physically stay away from the person. The idea is to stop spiritually ingesting the poison of interacting with them.

    Many people hesitate to do the first two steps. For many, true change is quite difficult. I can relate to this. And, I’m providing the below ritual for when you’re truly ready to move on with your life.

    Now, it’s time to use what I call the Separation Ritual. This ritual involves disconnecting the astral connections that you and the person made during the relationship.

    Unless you take action, you stay connected to the person. How? Your astral bodies remain connected. Negative energy can still be transferred both ways. To protect yourself from these bad energies you must cut all ties from that person. This is where the Separation Ritual comes in.

    Ideally, the person would participate in a Separation Ritual with you. That often does not happen. So you take an object that will stand in for the person. This object could be a picture or even a teddy bear, if the person likes teddy bears.

    Use a length of yarn or piece of red string, which represents the connections you have between you and the toxic person. Red is for the life force but you can uses another color if you think that would be a better representation.

    For this ritual you’ll need both your athame (to cast your circle) and a boline, which is a white handle knife used specifically for cutting physical objects during ritual.

    Important: Athames are used to cut energy. Bolines are used to cut physical objects.

    Here are the steps of True Separation:

    1. Verbally end the relationship
    2. Stay away from the person.
    3. Ground yourself.
    4. Cast circle.
    5. Do the Separation Ritual (see below).
    6. Do the Cakes and Wine ritual.
    7. Close the circle.
    8. Finally continue to have no contact with the toxic person.

    You will need your usual ritual items to cast circle and your altar. As I mentioned you will also have a length of yarn or piece of red string. The yarn/string must be long enough to encircle your own waist and to encircle the object (that represents the toxic person).

    The Separation Ritual

    Take the object. First, your will asperge it. Asperge means to sprinkle the holy water with your fingers onto the object.

    With the holy water, asperge and say:

    I cleanse and consecrate you by water and earth.

    Next you will cense the object. Cense means to waft incense smoke over the object.

    With the incense smoke, cense and say:

    I bless and charge you with air and fire.

    Then take the string/yarn and cense and asperge it as well and say:

    I cleanse and consecrate you by water and earth.

    I bless and charge you with air and fire.

    Take the red string/yarn in your hands saying:

    Tiny bundle of String/yarn

    You are now the same as the bonds between me and Name of person.

    Tie one end of the string/yarn to the object and then encircle your waist with the other end of the string/yarn, while you say:

    You are the bonds that connect us now.

    From me to Name of person and from Name of person to me.

    Our connection is by thee.

     

    Sit and concentrate on the bond between you both and see it as the string/yarn that now connects you and the object. Once you have a firm connection with that thought, take the boline and cut the string/yarn, seeing in your mind’s eye the astral bonds being cut along with the string/yarn.

    Once you complete the cut, say:

    I am now free of the ties of Name of person as he/she is of me.

    May my happiness expand, and may Name of person’s happiness expand.

    Blessed be.

    Finish up with the cakes and wine part of the ritual and then close the circle.

    And you’re done.

    Separating ourselves from toxic people is important for our happiness and well being. It even blesses the life of the other person. You are doing yourself and the other person a favor.

    I trust that this ritual will help you be happier and healthier.

    Blessings,

    Moonwater