How Witches Learn the Right Lessons

“That’s it. I give up,” my friend, Kelsey, said. “The lesson is that I’m no good in a relationship.”

As I listened to her, I wondered if that was the real lesson about her latest relationship disaster.

Was there something else to learn?

Here are three insights.

Your first guess about the lesson can be wrong.

At 18, I got married. Big mistake.

But if learned the wrong lesson—like giving up on relationships—I would have missed my current, blessed marriage.

Neuroscientists note that people’s brains do not fully develop until age 25. Until this age, the prefrontal cortex that helps curb impulsive behavior is not fully developed.

So, you guessed it. At 18, I made a rash decision.

Some covens do not allow younger members. In part, this relates to the ability to approach spirituality on another level.

The right lesson for me to learn is related to taking your time and getting to know someone.

The right lesson empowers you.

Years ago, my sweetheart said, “I’m tired. I’m rushing like a racehorse.”

“Run in better races,” I replied.

The wrong lesson would be: “You’re tired so quit.”

Instead, my sweetheart learned the lesson to be selective. He learned to accept certain speeches over others. These decisions helped us get to Thailand and New Zealand—where he gave speeches.

Invite the Gods to guide you

Often, the wrong lesson is the assumption that you don’t have what you want at this moment, and this means you’re doomed to an unfulfilling life.

However, the Gods know that so much in life is cyclical.

“The birth and rebirth of all nature,
The passing of winter and spring,
We share with the life universal,
Rejoice in the magical ring.”
– Doreen Valiente in The Witches Creed

It’s important to do meditation sessions so that you can listen to the Gods and intuition. Then you realize where you are in a cycle. If you’re creating something, are you at the beginning? Is this the Spring of the journey?

You can even look at this in terms of certain friendships. Some friendships are shorter. Are you in a time of winter? Has a particular relationship run its course?

In the following prayer, you can ask for the Goddess’s wisdom.

A Prayer

In moonlight’s bliss
And Goddess’s kiss,
May my path be right,
This moonlit night.
Let my decision
Have precision.
May I learn the right lesson
And know the true reason.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater