“It’s important that we are careful to vet someone before the possibility of bringing them into our coven,” one of my spiritual elders said.

This began an important conversation.

I have three insights for you.

1. Use a series of tests.

To even consider a new member, it’s important to consider these questions:

Can they follow instructions?
Can they keep secrets?
Do they want power too much?
Are they mentally stable?
Can they contribute to the coven?

Ask the new person to bring something to the next gathering. Do they bring it? Can you trust them to fulfill a promise?

If they can’t do the small things, don’t expect them to keep big commitments.

2. Watch for the signs.

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” – Maya Angelou

Is the person quick to blame anyone or anything for their own mistake?

A friend, Samuel, has a parent who says, “You make me mad.” This person has never taken ownership of their own bad temper. This person has done horrible things but always made excuses. You do NOT want this type of person in your group.

Watch out for “overly nice people.” Some nice people are so concerned about their reputation that they will not defend you or anyone you care about.

A person of integrity will speak up when appropriate.

They will also keep your secrets.

3. Covens do not rush the process.

It takes time to get into a coven. It takes at least a year and a day for the coven members to see if you’re a fit for their group. So don’t be discouraged. And if you are not brought into that coven, it may be that you’re just not a match for that particular coven.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater