“What turned out better than you thought?” my husband asked me.
“When I met you,” I replied.
 “What? I didn’t make a good first impression?” my husband asked.
“No. It wasn’t that. I just didn’t think we’d connect. You seemed unavailable.”
“I was unavailable,” he said.
I emailed the man who would later be my second husband. I wrote: “And darn it. I like you.”
That was a stretch for me.
It worked out better than I expected.

I have three insights for you.

1. Acknowledge your expectations.
My friend, Stephen, had two romantic partners (in succession) who had to have a breast cancer-detecting biopsy. Each time, he told himself, “I’ll wait for the results. I don’t have the data. She needs me to be strong. I will not fall apart. I’ll wait for the results.”

Stephen purposely paused. He put his negative expectations on hold. Things turned out well. Both women had biopsies showing a benign situation.

Do you expect your magick will fail to work?
Do you think things just won’t work with your romantic partner?
Pause.
Acknowledge your expectations.
Ask yourself: “What if all this is NOT true?”
What if you will NOT get the worst outcome?
If you want to get out of your own way, pause. Acknowledge your expectations. Realize that the future will arrive. Some things WILL turn out better than you expect. Avoid unnecessary suffering in the meantime.

2. Expand your perception.
Sometimes we need to focus on our intuition and our divinatory tools to expand our perceptions of things yet to come.
A friend, Anna, faces a terrible co-worker each day she goes to work. She pauses. She asks Goddess, “What can I learn here?” In her meditation sessions, she realizes that she is learning something. She’s learning how to deal with a toxic person. She might end up teaching friends (maybe teaching classes) methods to handle a toxic person. Anna has successfully expanded her perception.
How will you pause? How can you expand your perception? Do you have a spiritual elder who can advise you?

3. Invite the Goddess to quiet down your fear and limited expectations.
Why do we have negative expectations?
First, our biology makes us have a “negative bias.” Science shows that people are constantly scanning their environment for threats. That’s how our ancestors lived long enough to have kids.
This negative bias fills us with fear.
You can ask the Goddess to quiet down your fear and limited expectations.

Here is a prayer you might use:

My Gracious Goddess,
Guide me to quiet my fears.
Help me move forward in hope.
And then, I will take action.
I will NOT shut down and stand still.
I will walk the hopeful path You have set for me.
So Mote It Be.

May these insights support your path.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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