The Wiccan Path to True Friendship

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“Sometimes, it feels like there’s so much going on and friendships can get hurt along the way. I mean—we all get stressed out,” my friend, Joyce, said. “I’m wondering if there is a magickal way to strengthen a friendship.”

I gave this a lot of thought, and here is a True Friends Spell.

What you will need:

  • One pink candle
  • Candle-holder
  • Rose Incense
  • Rose oil
  • Two rings
  • Ritual tools

Cast Circle in the usual manner.

Dress your candle by rubbing your oil from tip to base. Cleanse and consecrate your candle and rings. Place the pink candle on your altar in its holder. Place the rings by the candle. Take your friend’s hands and both of you say over the rings together:

I swear upon my soul,

Honesty, love, and kindness I shall show.

I State my true name (_each state your name_),

That I am a true friend to you through and through.

That I will be most honest with you,

As I so will, so mote it be!!

Each person places a ring on the other person’s hand other and says:

True friends, true as can be.

Together now so mote it be!

Do the Cakes and Wine Ceremony

Close your Circle

May this True Friends Spell strengthen your bond with your close friend.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater



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Pagans Overcoming Fear

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“Sometimes, it just gets to be too much to bear, you know?” Merla said. At PantheaCon, we were taking a break. She told me about how she still had to hide her pentagram necklace at family gatherings. Her family held to a strict Christian point of view. If they knew her Pagan faith, she’d be denounced and disowned.

“I could put up with losing some family members. Hell, if my father never talked to me again, that would be a relief. But losing my baby sister. That would hurt. Really bad.”

I listened closely. I kept quiet mostly so that Merla could talk herself out. Merla feared losing all contact with her sister. I could relate to fear.

Have you noticed how fear can keep us stuck?

Will Merla ever come out to her family? Is her relationship with her sister strong enough so she could come out just to her sister?

These are tough questions. Maybe not coming out to her family is the right decision for Merla. I don’t know.

I do know that if you run your whole life by fear, it can really screw you up.

In my own journey, moving through fear has been truly important. Recently, I gave a speech. Here is the text of that speech:

*  *  *  *  *  *

“Have you ever been so scared that fear stopped you cold?

I have!

At 15 years old, I wanted to be a writer, but I had dyslexia.

Writing scared me.

Why? Because I never had regular English classes. I was in the Special Ed group. I never learned how to break down a sentence. Or to write a “proper paragraph.”

Writing scared me. So I shut down for over 20 years and didn’t do my dream.

I have 3 Big Ideas to share with you tonight.

The first one is: “You don’t have to believe. You just have to act.”

Let me share how this worked in my life. I have a friend who knew an Acquisitions Editor at a top publishing company. I knew the books that came from this publisher. I really wanted to write for this publisher.

This is the dream for a wannabe writer like me. The one big opportunity. So I went to their website to find out what I needed to submit to the publisher. Under the tab “submissions” it said that I had to submit a complete manuscript of the book.

Write a whole book?! Are you crazy? I can’t even write a paragraph.

But then I had an idea. “Just one step.” Did I believe I could write a book. No. What could I do? One step. Write a paragraph. Another step. Write a second paragraph. Then, write a short blog post. One more step. Write a second blog post for the second week of the blog.

One year later. 52 blog posts done. Now, I had most of the material for a book.

What did I learn? “JUST ONE STEP.” Just one step at a time is all I needed.

You don’t have to believe; you just have to act.

Here’s my 2nd Big Idea for you tonight.

I have dyslexia. Can I polish my writing on my own?

No.

So I came up with this idea–my 3rd idea for you tonight: The Power of Me Expands to the Power of We.

In my case, “We” means that I write the first draft. It’s all my ideas, my content—what comes from my heart.

Then I bring in my editor. Then I had other team members like a fact checker and a proofreader. So let’s go over those Big Ideas:

1) JUST ONE STEP and
2) The Power of ME expands to the Power of WE.

Now, I invite you to think of something you want. Something you want to try. Something you want to experience. Think of One Step in the direction of what you want.

Yes—Doing a Google Search counts!

JUST ONE STEP.

Say that with me now. All together: JUST … ONE … STEP …

I know this works. I’m living proof. The dyslexic who has written 4 books.

And let’s all remember: “The Power of ME expands to The Power of WE.”

Look around. We’re all gathered tonight. We’re supporting each other. During the networking time, you could meet someone who can help you – and you could help that person in return.

What is possible? More than you think. Remember: Just One Step and the Power of WE.
Thank you.”

*  *  *  *  *  *

In my above speech, I talked about how I dealt with fear by taking small steps forward.

In your spiritual path, what small steps can you take forward? Do you wish to connect with more Pagans? You might go to Cog.org [website of Covenant of the Goddess].

Another valuable website is witchvox.com

You could also connect with me at askawitchnow@gmail.com

If you can find your way to California, usually in February, you can attend PantheaCon.

I invite you to find other Pagans and build your own circle of support.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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How to Raise Your Low Self-esteem Through Wicca

“How can I let go of the feelings of sadness and low self-esteem?” Alexandra asked.

I’ve talked with many people who, like me, suffer from times of low self-esteem.

Here is a meditation to help those of us who need to raise our self-esteem.

Find a nice quiet spot, somewhere you will not be disturbed. Light a candle and burn some incense if you like. Turn off all of your electronics, and get comfortable.

In the below meditation, you will identify a worn, harmful belief. Then you will represent such a Harmful Belief as one “difficult-word.” For example, if your word is “can’t”—soon you will place it in the fire (in your mind’s eye). It will transform. For example, “can’t” can transform into “I CAN learn what I need to learn.” This is a New Belief.

Meditation to Raise Your Self-Esteem

Close your eyes.  Be aware of the light that is in the room through your closed eyelids.

Breathe in and out deeply … Relax.
Keep breathing deeply. In … and … Out.
Breathe out the stress of the day.
Breathe in relaxation and peace.

(Pause)

You are still aware of the light that is in the room.
Now the light begins to fade.
As it fades you feel total comfort. You feel safe and secure in the darkness.

(Short Pause)

Now, a new form of light blossoms around you.
You look down and see a cauldron.
Flames are fluttering from within the cauldron, and they rise to about four inches above the lip of the cauldron.

Pick one thought or memory of sadness or “I can’t do it.”
Now identify a word that represents the difficult thought.
See how the “difficult-word” appears to break down.

The difficult-word is now old and worn out.
You know in your heart that you no longer need the word.
It is time to let it go.

(Pause)

See your difficult-word. The flames in the cauldron
are flickering behind your difficult-word.
Now with your mind, push the difficult-word into the flames.
The difficult-word catches fire, and the fire completely consumes the difficult-word.  

(Pause)

The difficult-word disappears and soon a green colored smoke rises from the cauldron.
It starts to form your New Belief—which is in the form of a sentence.
This New Belief helps you and supports you.
Breathe in deeply and absorb the green, supportive New Belief.

(Pause)

The New Belief is now part of you, and you have gained its attributes.
Feel it. Know it is so.
You now return to the physical world, and you always know you have that positive attribute no matter what anyone says.

(Pause)

Coming back is a gentle transition as the light begins to fade around you once more.
Slowly at first, it gets darker and darker.
As it fades you feel total comfort. You feel safe and secure in the darkness.

(Short Pause)

Then a familiar light returns, the light in the room where you started.
It gradually gets brighter and brighter.
You are back in the room. You have brought the feelings of higher self-esteem and happiness back with you.

(Short Pause)

Now, gently open your eyes.

Use the above meditation as often as you need to. With a lot of practice, soon all of the bad thoughts about yourself can transform into the green smoke of renewal and higher self-esteem.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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How to Pick the Best Spell Elements for You

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Element of Fire (thanks to Arthur)

 

“Could you help me pull together a spell to increase my confidence?” Lisa asked me.

“I’ve seen a couple of spells in books. But I’m confused. Which version should I use? What elements would work better for me?” Lisa continued.

This points to an important principle of practicing Wicca. Spells in books might be helpful. But we need to observe the reality that spells in books were written by someone else, and they were not written for you specifically. So how do you make a spell that works and is truly right for you?

Start by looking at a list of possible elements or items to include and observe what feelings you have about each one. If you don’t have any emotional connections to an element, you might do better by choosing something that inspires something deeper in you.

Let’s look at this process closely. Here is an example spell.

Spell for Confidence

What you will need:

  • 1 yellow candle
  • Yellow magickal ink or yellow pen
  • Virgin Parchment or paper

Incense:

Powdered Buckthorn
Dragons blood
Myrrh

Here’s how the process can go. Mena sees the yellow pen and it reminds her of a yellow tee-shirt she wore as a child. She had spilled her lunch on it, and kids in the schoolyard cruelly teased her about it. So yellow is not a color that Mena would use for her confidence spell.

On the other hand, Judy gave an excellent presentation in front of class at night school, and she wore a blue sweater. She remembers how great she felt. So she chooses to use blue ink and a blue candle. She taps into the memories and feelings of her past to help fuel her spell.

Judy looks at the incense, Powdered Buckthorn. But she had no feelings connected with it. Then she remembers her Grandma baking cookies made with allspice. Her Grandma always had a big smile for Judy, and she attended Judy’s basketball games. Judy felt supported. She knew that Grandma believed in her. So Judy switches from Buckthorn to allspice.

Don’t fear about making little tweaks to your spells to make them yours. When you make those tweaks, your spell will be more effective in reaching your goals.

Blessed Be,

Moonwater SilverClaw

Here is the full text of the spell:

Spell for Confidence

What you will need:

  • 1 yellow candle
  • Yellow magickal ink or yellow pen
  • Virgin Parchment or paper

Incense:

Powdered Buckthorn
Dragons blood
Myrrh

While burning incense make a sigil for confidence. Place the sigil under the yellow candle and light it. Concentrate on the candle’s flame, thinking about how you’re strong and confident. Things do not penetrate your envisioned “force field” of confidence.

 


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Goddess Has Your Back: How Wicca Can Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem and Make Your Life Magickal

 

 

 

And

The Hidden Children of the Goddess Book
The Hidden Children of the Goddess Book

 

The Hidden Children of the Goddess Embrace Wicca, Become Strong, Be at Peace with Yourself and the World Around You

 

 

 

 

And

Real Magick

Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magic: How You Can Remove Blocks to Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace

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