How Witches Handle When Life Falls Short of Expectations

“Ugh. Well, that was SOOO disappointing,” I said to my friend, Maggie.
I had been looking forward to going to a certain restaurant for three days.
Previously, the restaurant had closed its doors in my hometown.
Then, I found it had reopened in a new city, twenty miles away.

We walked in. The glorious original restaurant’s energy was gone.
The waitperson was disinterested.
The restaurant was dark and stagnant, where it had once been light and energetic.

Here are three insights.

1. Avoid making it worse.

I could have reacted by raising my voice and berating the disinterested waitperson.

But that would have made things worse. I realized that you cannot teach something when someone does not care.

Raising my voice would have only made me feel bad. Likely the disinterested waitperson would have thought, “Just another jerk.”

I have learned to devote my energy to situations that can be improved.

2. Learn the lesson.

Yes. Learn the lesson. I’ll never return to that restaurant. Life is too short for avoidable bad memories.

I have learned that finding the lesson in tough situations is important. It saves time. It also protects your personal energy. We, witches, need our energy for ritual and spellwork.

3. Ask Goddess to alert you to your vulnerabilities and solutions.

I was so looking forward to having a dark chocolate-dipped macaroon (not to be confused with macaron) in that restaurant. They used to have these giant macaroons. Delicious.

Not anymore. That chapter is closed.

Still, I realized that I was vulnerable. I had just been enduring some real disruption in my life. My husband’s parents are going through rough times at a nursing home. It is so sad and painful—while I try to help his parents—as he tries to help, too.

So, I put all my hopes on having a good time at a restaurant.

How are you vulnerable? Perhaps, you can meditate and call on the Goddess to give you insights.

I realized that I could have more support in my life. For example, I have a lot of fun gathering with my friends for a role-playing game.

My solution is to have multiple supports.

How will you add more supports into your life?

May these insights support your path.
Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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How Witches Move Beyond People Pleasing

“My father expects me to travel many hours – on his errands – even though I’m working two jobs. He won’t hear me at all,” my friend, Nadine, said.

“That sounds terrible,” I replied.

Nadine has some tough decisions ahead.

Here are three insights.

1. Realize how much you’re paying for certain situations.

    “The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.” – Henry David Thoreau

    I’ve learned that “people pleasers” walk a hard path. Over the years I have tended to be a people pleaser—and I do not like it.

    It’s a hard path to walk because no matter what you do—someone is going to be angry with you.

    Let’s say you have two friends. They don’t like each other. When you spend time with one, the other is jealous. You cannot win if your only value is “people pleasing.”

    Pause. Ask yourself, “What would Goddess advise for me in this situation?” She would not want you to pay “the wrong price.” She wants your growth and well-being. Remember that.

    2. Elevate your personal energy, and you help other people.

    Did you grow up in a household in which parents or guardians said, “Don’t be selfish”?

    Have you heard any guardians say, “Take care of yourself. It’s good”?

    At the same time, I realize that if you take care of your personal energy, you can be helpful to others.

    I’ve learned that helping others actually lifts my own mood. Dealing with depression symptoms, I’ve learned that this is a crucial insight.

    “A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal.” ― Steve Maraboli

    It takes energy to make a kind gesture.
    Be kind to yourself and protect your personal energy.

    3. Ask the Gods to give you insight.

    It’s hard to know what the best thing to do is. Do you say, “No”? Do you stretch “just one more time”?

    Ask the God and Goddess to guide you and to give you insight.

    They can see the whole picture. They know your destiny. They give you purpose and meaning.

    Reach out to the Gods through meditation and prayer.

    May these insights support your path.

    Blessed Be,
    Moonwater

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    How Witches Discover the Wicca Advantage and a Knitting Metaphor

    “It’s beautiful,” my friend Stephanie said, admiring the large blanket I had knit for her.
    “I’m going to place it on my couch.” Her face was lit up.
    Both Wicca and knitting have supported me in enjoying life.
    Here are three insights:

    1. A Wiccan practice includes “interweaving.”

      In knitting, you can combine two different strands to make a new shade or style of fabric. In this way, you can create new effects and looks.
      In Wicca, you interweave different elements into your practice. You make your practice vibrant. It helps when you learn about herbs, divination, oils, and more. It’s even more powerful when you make your own Wicca-related tools like an athame or wand.
      How will you interweave new elements into your practice?

      2. Choose your yarn.

      What have you consciously chosen to put into your Wiccan practice? Additionally, what have you chosen to have in your life? Which people? Which daily habits?
      It seems so obvious that one chooses the right yarn for your knitting project. For a washcloth, you would likely use a good cotton yarn. For pot holders, a type of wool may be best. You may choose a superwash wool yarn or high-quality acrylic yarn for something that gets washed repeatedly.
      Have you considered that you are “knitting” your own life together?
      Take care and consider which people would be excellent elders, mentors, and friends.
      Who would be good to bring into your life?

      3. Have patience.

      Do you want to wield cosmic power? When do you want that? Yesterday?
      Like knitting, Wicca requires patience. Like each stitch in your project, each lesson in Wicca is crucial to learn before proceeding to the next.
      If you rush any part of your training or even your practice, it is like a bad link in a chain. It will give way first. The chain will break.
      For example, you must patiently do your shielding. Otherwise, you risk facing negative energies or even unwanted entities.
      Carefully, patiently, and thoroughly develop your Wiccan practice.
      May these insights support your path.

      Blessed Be,
      Moonwater

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      How Witches Use the Tarot to Think New Vital Thoughts

      Someone I know, Alicia, had a big decision before her. Go to graduate school or pursue a career in the arts.

      “I need some way to hear Goddess’s voice. Or at least my own intuition,” she said.

      “You can consider the Tarot,” I said.

      Here are three valuable details.

      1. Is there something different I should think about?

      Before you do a Tarot spread, you can ask, “Is there something different I should think about?”

      You can find a special benefit from asking a question and waiting to see what the Tarot cards reveal. It’s a chance for you to have your horizon widened.

      Sometimes, our first thoughts are too limited. Why? Stress can cloud our thinking. The Tarot is a good way to expand your thoughts.

      You could ask questions that empower you. Think of questions like:

      • Is this the best outcome for me currently?
      • Do I need to talk about this with a trusted advisor?
      • What are my options?

      You might be pleasantly surprised by the hints the Tarot provides for you.

      2. Am I letting fear limit me?

      Fear can limit your thinking and actions. Sometimes you need guidance in ways to quiet that down.

      You can ask the Tarot: What is available for me beyond fear?

      Fear can limit you. The Tarot can free you of fear’s blinders.

      The Tarot can guide you to better things.

      3. Is this for my highest good?

      What is your highest good?

      Do think about the best outcome? Would that be the best car, the best house, the best job?

      Is there something more to life?

      My path has revealed that my highest good can rise even with outcomes that I did not like. I did not like enduring abuse from my brother in our youth. I was the baby sister. Crap.

      I hated my first marriage. Through being empowered by Wicca, I freed myself from that terrible marriage.

      So, our highest good may be rising in personal growth through hardship.

      You can ask the Tarot: “Is this for my highest good?”

      A Tarot spread in response to this question may surprise and intrigue you.

      We can use the Tarot to support our path.

      Remember, that you can devote prayer time with the Gods.

      The Gods can also help us cultivate new ways of thinking.

      May these insights support your path.

      Blessed Be,
      Moonwater

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      How Witches Create a Surprising Delight for Themselves

      My husband was dancing, sitting in his seat in the new Thai Restaurant.
      He loved the music. Current pop music built on the grooves of 70’s R&B and Soul.

      I suggested this new Thai restaurant.
      I had no idea he’d get this delighted look on his face. He’s written music/songs and produced music for a feature film. Some years ago.

      I loved the food.
      He loved the music.
      We’re going to return to this restaurant.

      What a surprise and delight.

      I have three insights for you.

      1. Put yourself someplace for a positive surprise.

      Would you like to meet people who like to learn? Perhaps, attend a workshop or a speech. I’ve already shared the new restaurant with awesome music example.

      Where could you go to have a great experience?

      2. Enjoy their enjoyment.

      Yes. It was fun for me to see my husband have a delightful experience. I noticed that I felt uplifted and joyful, too.

      Many of us think that getting stuff feels best. However, many people discover that shared experiences rise above.

      Who do you care about? How can you support their enjoyment?

      3. Feel the Goddess-Support Effect.

      Goddess works through you as you support others.

      Here’s a prayer.

      Lady of the Moon,
      Open the door for me
      To the precious moments
      Shining like gems
      With surprising facets
      Thank you,
      So Mote It be

      May these insights support your path.

      Blessed Be,
      Moonwater

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      How Witches Reveal Their Spiritual Path to a New Romantic Partner

      “You’re a what?!” Mark said when Eleanor revealed to him that she is a witch.
      He then ghosted her that same day.
      Crap. I realize that Eleanor is better off without Mark in the long run.
      It still hurts.

      Have you had experiences like this?

      I have three insights for you.

      1. Don’t Reveal Your Heartfelt Truth Too Soon.

      “Hi. I have depression.” Starting a first encounter like this may torpedo a possible relationship. The same holds true for being a witch.

      I’m a witch with depression and dyslexia…my husband is truly supportive.

      Before you bring up something that may rock your new romantic partner, create some good times first.

      2. Ask yourself, “Does this person demonstrate openness to new ideas?”

      Some people just cannot find their way to being open to new ideas or different possibilities.

      “Look for this in a life partner: Kind, flexible, and tells the truth.” – Tom Marcoux, author 

      We’re talking about assessing whether the new romantic partner in your life is flexible.

      When you’re thinking about, perhaps, revealing your spiritual path, you could ask:

      “I’m curious. Was there a time when you heard something you didn’t like, and then you later changed your thoughts about that thing?”

      Listen carefully. Does your new romantic partner demonstrate flexibility?

      You might eventually say, “I would like to share something with you. There is a lot of misinformation out there. So, how about we talk about some things I have personally experienced?”

      3. Expect possible resistance and if appropriate provide a little time and space.

      If you do encounter resistance, you may want to give them a chance to process their situation.

      Remind them of how you treat people well. Also, remind them of their personal experiences with you.

      Give them some time. You may be surprised at the eventual, positive response you get.

      Or you’ll learn that your paths need to separate.

      May these insights support your path.

      Blessed Be,
      Moonwater

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      How Witches Make Other People Happy

      “They’re going to kill my cat!” I thought, finding that the vial of insulin I just bought for my cat was empty!
      It was 10:30 pm at night. Time for my cat, Magick, to receive his nightly injection of insulin.

      How does a veterinary hospital make up for providing an empty vial with no medicine?
      First thing, the veterinary hospital team member can stop and listen. And listen well.

      Sometimes, it really looks like people have forgotten how to treat each other with appropriate care.

      I have three insights for you.

      1. Listen first.
      Want to make someone happy? Listen first. Hear them out. Ask them follow-up questions. Treat them like a child of the Gods—which they are.

      2. Make conditions so the other person feels cherished.
      How do you help a family member or life partner feel cherished? First, you listen to them. Second, you support their hopes and dreams. We look for inspiration in the words of the Goddess:

      “For My Law is love unto all beings. Keep pure your highest ideals. Strive ever towards it. Let none stop you or turn you aside.” – The Goddess (in The Charge of the Goddess as written by Doreen Valiente)

      A classic scene in old movies is when a gruff father asks a young woman, “Does he make you happy?” He’s talking about a suitor for his beloved daughter.

      She replies, “Yes, Daddy.”

      Can we really make another person happy?
      Maybe not. But we can make conditions, so the other person feels cherished.

      Cherished means “protect and care for someone lovingly” (Oxford Languages).

      3. Remove obstacles for the person.
      Does your loved one have a big dream?
      Do you help them have some time to pursue it?
      We can do some of the chores to free up their time so they can develop their skills for their dream.
      We get inspiration from the words of the Goddess:

      “Nor do I demand aught in sacrifice, for behold, I am the Mother of all things, and My love is poured upon the earth.” – The Goddess (in The Charge of the Goddess as written by Doreen Valiente)

      4. Ask the Goddess to remove the fog.
      Our personal anxiety and worry can be a fog that blinds us to our loved one’s hopes, dreams, and needs.

      Life can be so tough. You can ask the Goddess to support you and remove “the fog.”

      A Prayer to the Goddess
      Dear Lady of the Moon
      Lift the fog from my vision.
      Strengthen me so I can support my loved one.
      May we grow together.
      So Mote It Be.

      May these insights support your path.

      Blessed Be,
      Moonwater

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      How Witches Prevent Fear and Self-Doubt from Strangling Their Spells

      My first spells did not go well. What was the problem? Actually, two things. Fear and self-doubt.

      I have three insights for you.

      1. Fear keeps you on the mountain. Fear empowers you to prepare.

      Imagine that you’re going to climb a mountain. What supplies would you bring? Rope, carabiners, and a climbing harness.

      The same is true for your magickal practice. You bring supplies. You cast a protective circle around your workspace. Make sure to have all your items before starting. Then, you won’t have to break the Circle once it is cast.

      Have a script and things like a fire extinguisher handy in case things don’t go as planned. (I am not kidding.) Be sure that you properly dismiss the elements at the end of your spell.

      Your script should also have protection clauses including:

      • An it harm none.
      • For the good of all involved.
      • For this or better.

      Being concerned about mistakes invites you to prepare well. That is a good use of fear.

      2. Shift from having self-doubt and imagining the worst to a positive intention.

      Before you even write your spells, it is good to shift from imagining the worst. You need to keep a positive intention. If you don’t, your spell will likely do a belly flop on you.

      It puts doubt into the equation. Instead, keep a positive frame of mind. This helps keep your spells, rituals, and rites on track to good outcomes.

      3. Ask the Gods to guide you to the best outcomes.

      Here is a prayer you can express to set the appropriate energy.

      Mighty Gods,
      Keep my intentions positive and good.
      Defend me from self-doubt,
      So I have a positive turnabout.
      So Mote It Be.

      May these insights support your path.

      Blessed Be,
      Moonwater

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      How Witches Avoid the Hidden Costs of Their Spells

      “What a garbage heap!” my friend Jose’s mother said.

      I thought, “That must be hard to take. Imagine living with that. Day after day.”

      Then, I realized that his mother had to live with her own daily upset. Nothing was good enough for her. I could only guess that Jose’s grandmother had terrorized his mother, too.

      For us, witches, there is an extra cost to having a habit of being angry and of disaproving of so much in life. What is this cost? Our energy is tainted, and our spells are derailed.

      I have three insights for you.

      1. Keep pure your personal energy.

      If you’re constantly annoyed and angry, what does that do to your personal energy? If your personal energy is tainted by annoying parts of your life, imagine what that does to your spells.

      We use all the energy around us when we do our spells. But because we focus that energy through our bodies, like a lens, we can warp that pure energy into bad energy.

      So how can you keep pure your personal energy?
      It’s a process of renewal. Meditation. Walking in nature. Quiet time. Renewing time with friends. Whatever works for you.

      You need good energy so you can make a shift out of being irritated.

      2. Avoid living in constant disapproval and upheaval.

      You probably know someone angry about just about everything. The city government is slow to fill the potholes in the streets. Family members don’t clean up after themselves fast enough. You name it. The person’s face is in a continual frown—as if everything is a personal insult.

      Let’s notice that we can taint our spell with negative emotions.

      Our own habits of thinking can be a source of upheaval or peace.

      Compassion can help. “Oh, my family member was so tired after returning from work,” the person with compassion thinks.

      Here’s an added problem of living in constant disapproval…your spells are tainted so they do not turn out the way you want.

      3. Ask the Gods to help you accept The Beauty of Enough.”

      Many times, I think to myself the ritual went great except for that one detail. Not good enough.

      Or I think, “No! I forgot to add _____. The spell could have been more powerful. Stupid.”

      I have learned that I must let go of such hyper-critical patterns.

      We need to let go of an obsession with “It’s not perfect yet!”

      Recently, I have been thinking of “The Beauty of Enough.”

      Here is a prayer.

      A Prayer

      Honorable Lord and Gracious Lady,
      Grant me the wisdom of knowing Enough.
      Take away the fog of “it’s not perfect”…
      Help me daily to experience “The Beauty of Enough.”
      And instill Your Passion of Gratitude within my heart.
      So Mote It Be.

      May these insights support your path.

      Blessed Be,
      Moonwater

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      How Witches Beware of Sabotaging New Year’s Resolutions

      “I hate New Year’s Resolutions,” my friend, Martha, said. “They don’t work.”

      This started an extended conversation.

      I have three insights for you.

      1. You cannot win with “a negative.”

      A New Year’s Resolution of “I’m not going to smoke” can backfire. How? You take a bad habit out and you leave a hole. Instead, you can say, “I take walking breaks.” (That replaces smoking breaks.)

      Here’s another problem. One person said, “This year is about ‘no self-sabotaging.’”

      Then her mentor said, “Exchange that for the positive: Self-Respect, Self-Worth, Self-Effectiveness.”

      2. Goddess says, “My Law is Love”—not “My Law is Shame.”

      “I define shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging—something we’ve experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection.” – Dr. Brene Brown

      Goddess made you worthy. She does not try to manipulate you (like humans do) by making you feel bad.

      “For My Law is Love unto all beings,” The Goddess in The Charge of the Goddess as written by Doreen Valiente

      When you find yourself repeating some mean and cutting words (you heard from parents, guardians, employers, or others), pause. Stop right there. Imagine turning around the thought.

      Here’s an example: “Stupid. I always say the wrong thing.”

      Turn It Around: “I made a mistake. I can get coaching and learn something better to say in a stressful moment like that.”

      3. Invite the Goddess to Support Your New Year’s “Direction.”

      Instead of New Year’s Resolutions, you can pick a direction.

      It sounds like:

      • I’m learning about starting my own business.
      • I’m now being kind to myself.

      What direction would help you?

      Here’s a prayer:

      Goddess, support me in my New Year’s Direction.
      Give me insights to make course corrections in my journey.
      Lead me, guide me.
      So Mote It Be.

      May these insights support your path.

      Blessed Be,
      Moonwater

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