How Witches Step Away from Self-loathing

Can you relate to this? At 8 years old, I was a little girl tormented by my brother (three years older), while my parents ignored the situation. No one was protecting me. What was my reaction? I hated myself. I hated that I was small, weak and the object of abuse. I was upset, and I had no where to send it. So, I turned the anger in on myself.

Have you experienced self-loathing?

In my late teens, I found the Craft. I realized that the Gods loved me. If I was worthy of Their Love, I could love myself, too.

A Profound Shift from Self-Loathing

Consider making a daily list of three things you’re grateful for. Many people find that they can shift from one perception to another—if they make the choice again and again.

You might write:

I am thankful for my sense of humor.
I am thankful for my family and friends.
I am grateful for listening to music.

A Ritual to Shift Out of Self-Loathing

What you will need:

  • One pink candle
  • Straight pins
  • Tray or container to place the candle in
  • Candleholder
  • List of things you are grateful for
  • Bay leaf oil (You can use olive oil if you have none)
  • Dragons blood incense
  • And your magickal tools

Begin by casting your Circle.

Bless and consecrate the items you will be using.

Dress your candle (rub from tip to base of the candle, using the oil).

One by one take a pin and say out loud the blessing you are grateful for. Press the pin into the candle. (you can use the working candle’s flame to heat the pins, so they go in easier.

Put the candle in its holder on the tray.

Light the candle and say:

Pins, pins all around,
Pins, pins fall to the ground.
Thank you, Gods, for my good fortune.
Dear Gods release me from self-loathing.
Help me know my divine value.
Help me walk in gratitude on my path.
As I so will, So Mote It Be!

Do the Cakes and Wine Ceremony.

Close your Circle.

[Special note: Let the candle burn completely, and do not leave a burning candle unattended.]

May this ritual support you to feel better—at least for moments every day.

Blessed Be,

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