“I don’t have any success,” my friend, Samantha, said flatly.
“What about how you’re taking good care of your ailing parents? That’s work,” I said.
“That’s not work. Work is only when you get paid,” Samantha said.
“You know, there are people who get paid as assistants to old people,” I said.
Samantha just frowned.
I reflected on this.
Samantha is often miserable.
Why? One reason may be about her definitions, which are like knives that she uses to cut herself.
What about your definitions?
How do you define success? Or even happiness.
So many of us live in the space of “only when I can…”
How does this sound?
“I’ll be happy only when I can have no worries about the future.”
Good luck with that.
Researchers note that approximately 85% of what people say they worry about does NOT happen.
But what does occur? A bunch of people being miserable moment-to-moment … How? They’re living in their worries.
And their definitions are, by default, set up so they can never win.
What are examples of a self-defeating definition?
- “Success is only making a lot of money.”
- “Work is only if you are paid.” (That means getting groceries for your family means nothing?!!)
We, witches, look to nature for guidance. We know that we live through seasons. Spring follows Winter. The forest burned by fire can have new growth.
What is another definition of success? “I choose what is meaningful to me. I take action, and something valuable gets done.”
A happy life appreciates seasons, and we go through chapters of our lives. Some chapters are tough. And then, like the seasons, we can experience renewal.
What definition would help you on your path?
Blessed Be.
Moonwater
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“Choose the words you say to yourself wisely; they are creating your reality.” – Sean Stephenson
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M-,
Great quote!
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou
Sometimes when I criticize myself, I pause. I purposefully recall something I did to help someone. That’s my “doing better.”
BB
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