Oww! It felt like a loss. My fortune cookie was empty. I found no slip of paper that promised, “Your dream will definitely come true.”
Damn.
Now what?
I have three insights for you.
1. Write your own fortune.
I wrote my own fortune: “The Gods give us a great fortune including a great car.” That’s right. My husband and I need a replacement car.
I suggest that you write your own fortune. When you write that fortune, it’s like composing a simple magickal spell.
So, what “fortune” do you want?
2. Realize that you’re a co-creator with the universe.
Does the God and Goddess give you good fortune? Yes. And, you need to take action, too.
“All acts of love and pleasure are My rituals. Therefore, let there be beauty and strength, power and compassion, honor and humility, mirth and reverence within you.” ― The Goddess in The Charge of the Goddess, written by Doreen Valiente
What action do you need to take to move your life forward? What can make your life better?
3. Ask the Goddess for good fortune.
Here is a prayer you can use.
Goddess, Guide me to my healthy desires. Help me fulfill my destiny, Open the doors to good fortune for me. So Mote it be.
“Are you lonely?” I asked Rene, someone in my circle.
“What? Me? No, I’m all right,” she replied quickly.
She did not seem all right.
Some definitions of loneliness include: A state of mind in which the person feels “empty, alone, and unwanted.” (noted at verywellmind . com)
Let’s face this together. We, witches, can feel lonely because certain spiritual paths openly discriminate against us.
How can you strengthen yourself and rise out of loneliness?
Here are three insights:
1. Call out the idea of “being broken.”
Has this happened to you? You felt broken in some way, and you had no energy to interact with anyone…?
I have had this for many days, due to my depression symptoms. I just want to lay in bed all day and do nothing but sleep and weep.
But what I really need to do is get my butt out of bed and do stuff. Even though I don’t feel like it.
By doing something that fulfills one of my responsibilities (caring for my elderly parents and their medical appointments), I build myself up. How? I have evidence that I am taking action. I am doing good things. I am capable and worthy.
My depression symptoms call me “broken.” But my actions show evidence that I am capable.
2. Make your healing independent of another human’s approval.
I do many things to heal without others’ interference or approval. I brew Mead and wine. I knit and make soap from scratch. I also like to bake. All of these things I do for me.
Yes, it’s nice to share my art with others. I enjoy giving my works to people to appreciate. But that is independent of why I do what I do.
To me making a good brew or bars of soap is good healing. What am I healing? I am rising from the pain caused by my depression symptoms to create my art.
I like the process of creating things. I enjoy the end products, too.
I make sure to take walks and do a bit of weight training.
Are you doing something for your health and peace of mind?
3. Ask the Goddess for support for your new “first step” actions.
To alleviate loneliness, one often needs to take certain steps forward. Perhaps, you decide to attend an in-person workshop. If you’re an introvert, you may need to practice asking some questions.
Rehearsing for talking with new people takes energy.
Consider praying to the Goddess for support and new energy.
A Prayer:
Lovely Lady, Bless me with your support for good healing. Fill me with empowering energy. Guide me to prepare to meet new people. Support me as I talk with people So, I have the energy to truly listen. May You light my way in the darkness. So that I may create connections and friendships. So Mote It Be.
“Is it true that magick can heal someone permanently?” Alena, one of my friends, asked another friend.
“I helped my old therapist heal from cancer,” Nadine replied.
“With their permission?” Alenda asked.
Nadine winced. It looked like she did not specifically ask her therapist before she did the healing spell. We, witches, know that we must get permission before doing magick—even for helping another.
I have three insights about magick and healing.
1. Pause to consider what is truly healing.
I came across this comment from Rabbi Harold Kushner. This Rabbi lost his son Aaron to a rare aging disease when the boy was only 14 years old. Rabbi Harold said: “I am a more sensitive person, a more effective pastor, a more sympathetic counselor because of Aaron’s life and death than I would ever have been without it. And I would give up all those gains in a second if could have my son back.”
Rabbi Harold became a deeper and more helpful person. Perhaps, he healed some rough edges as he learned to deal with his own grief.
It can be helpful to ask in prayer or during meditation: “Goddess, what do I need to learn?” or “Goddess, where do I need to grow?”
2. Realize that “you don’t run this show.”
One of my friends, Fred, said that he wants to stay as healthy as long as possible to support his wife. But then he said, “But I don’t run this show.” By “show,” he meant his life and the universe.
One of the helpful personality traits is “openness.” We, witches, through ritual, prayer, and meditation can keep a healthy openness to explore healing—as we need it.
3. A Healing Spell
Here is a healing spell you can do.
A Candle Healing Spell
Healing can be done in many ways. You can use herbs, colors, candles, and more.
The simplest way to do healing is to light a candle for a sick person. Wiccans use two parts to the process: Dressing the candle and stating the purpose for the use of the candle.
To dress the candle means The process of putting your desire into the candle. As you clearly envision your wish, rub anointing oil (olive oil will suffice) on the candle. Spread the oil from the top of the candle to the bottom. Rubbing from the top of the candle to the bottom draws or attracts a desire to you. If you wish to repel something, for example, an illness or bad luck, you will rub from the bottom end of the candle to the top. This pushes away what you wish to repel.
For the second part, you state the purpose of using the candle. Here is an example:
“I send healing energy to (name of person).”
A quick note on ethics and magick: When doing any spell work for another person you must ask for their consent first. If you do not ask, you may be working against their will. So always ask first.
2) Take a photo of the sick person. Asperge (sprinkle with holy water) and cense (waft incense smoke around) it. Be careful with the photo, I suggest asperging it on the back so the image is not ruined. Also, asperge it very lightly.
3) Take the blue candle and asperge and cense it.
4) Dress your candle (see the discussion above).
5) Charge the candle with its task. (Send healing energy into the candle by holding it in your hands and drawing energy up through the earth, through you, and into the candle. The process of drawing energy up consists of visualizing energy (you might imagine energy strands) rising from the earth into your feet and so on.
6) Take the photo and place it on the pentagram on your altar.
7) Place the candle on the photo. Use the taper to light the candle from the working candle.
8) Look at the flame of the candle while concentrating on your desire to heal the person. Take your time with this step. This is a great time to chant any words of power (if you have written some). Remember, these words of power could be a small prayer or rhyme talking about how the person is now healed.
9) Keep focusing that energy into the flame of the candle and into the photo under it. (Focusing energy means keep concentrating on the flame and focusing your thoughts on the intention that the person is healed.)
10) You will be letting the candle burn down completely. Warning: Be sure to place it in a safe place (perhaps, in a bathtub or sink). And make sure you do not burn the photo! Use a fire-safe container for the candle to be in. Be sure to avoid leaving a candle unattended. That is, do NOT leave the room while your candle is burning down.
Many years ago, I was new to Wicca. I needed a magical name. One night, I asked Goddess to please give me a magical name. I woke up in the middle of the night—my whole body vibrating. I heard “Moonwater.” I knew instantly that was my magical name.
Would you like to find something definite in your life?
I have three insights for you.
1. Let go of a rigid pattern.
My friend, Athena, finds herself thinking about this one mean coworker after work. At a picnic, I saw an upset look come upon her face. “Are you okay?” I asked. “I’m okay now,” she replied. “What was that?”
She took in a deep breath. “Just a thought, that I’m letting flow down the stream.” That’s a powerful method. Athena decided to not let thoughts of her mean coworker interfere with our picnic with friends.
What thought do you need to just flow down the stream?
2. Connect with the element of water.
Water flows and can wash away negative energies. Ritual bathing is a good choice if you’re not feeling good. You may have extra unwanted negative energy clinging to you. When you take a ritual bath, you release yourself from such negativity.
Let water renew you.
3. Pray to the God and Goddess.
When you need the Power of Flow in your life, consider saying a prayer like this:
My virile Lord and lovely Lady, Connect me with the Element of Water. Empower me to let negative thoughts flow away Like on a stream of water. Let me embrace the sun Of Your Wisdom and Grace. So Mote It Be.
Years ago, I was part of a coven in which someone applied to be a new member. “Marvin” lived with an excess of drama. Everything was going wrong. Marvin could not be trusted to do the simplest task. He wanted to know magick because he thought it would gain him some control over his chaotic life.
On the other hand, when I first learned of Wicca, my primary feeling was that I was coming home. It was so beautiful. It was so different from the brutal and rigid religion of my parents.
I have three insights for you related to magick.
1. Discover why you want power.
Power? Really? Would you like the power to have happy moments during your day?
How about the ability to heal and quickly overcome the flu?
Some people are drawn to the practice of magick because they want something. Certain individuals want wealth or fame. Why? They think they’ll have more control.
So why do you want power? What does having skill with magick mean to you?
It is possible to use power for positive growth. Imagine the power to grow mentally and spiritually.
2. Make sure you have support.
Have you had a mentor? I have learned much from my own spiritual elders.
Mentors can alert us to pitfalls and ways to avoid them.
Mentors can guide us to be healthy in body, mind, and spirit.
Support can also come from friends and family. Good relationships create good energy.
You can support yourself with walks in nature, exercise, good nutrition, prayer, meditation, and good habits around sleep.
The Goddess and the God stand by for you, too.
3. Ask the Goddess for Her knowledge.
“I am Queen of all the witcheries.” – The Goddess speaking in The Charge of the Goddess, as written by Doreen Valiente
The Goddess knows all magick. She can help you improve with your pursuits in the Wiccan Arts.
Here is a prayer you can use:
Goddess, Guide me in learning and practicing magick – For the good of all involved. May I grow in wisdom and compassion. So Mote It Be.
“You’re a what?!” Mark said when Eleanor revealed to him that she is a witch. He then ghosted her that same day. Crap. I realize that Eleanor is better off without Mark in the long run. It still hurts.
Have you had experiences like this?
I have three insights for you.
1. Don’t Reveal Your Heartfelt Truth Too Soon.
“Hi. I have depression.” Starting a first encounter like this may torpedo a possible relationship. The same holds true for being a witch.
I’m a witch with depression and dyslexia…my husband is truly supportive.
Before you bring up something that may rock your new romantic partner, create some good times first.
2. Ask yourself, “Does this person demonstrate openness to new ideas?”
Some people just cannot find their way to being open to new ideas or different possibilities.
“Look for this in a life partner: Kind, flexible, and tells the truth.” – Tom Marcoux, author
We’re talking about assessing whether the new romantic partner in your life is flexible.
When you’re thinking about, perhaps, revealing your spiritual path, you could ask:
“I’m curious. Was there a time when you heard something you didn’t like, and then you later changed your thoughts about that thing?”
Listen carefully. Does your new romantic partner demonstrate flexibility?
You might eventually say, “I would like to share something with you. There is a lot of misinformation out there. So, how about we talk about some things I have personally experienced?”
3. Expect possible resistance and if appropriate provide a little time and space.
If you do encounter resistance, you may want to give them a chance to process their situation.
Remind them of how you treat people well. Also, remind them of their personal experiences with you.
Give them some time. You may be surprised at the eventual, positive response you get.
Ever get sick? Not just a cold. I mean, have you been really sick?
When I’m in such a tough time, I make space to get more rest (during which I ask for the Gods’ healing). Then there’s chicken soup—lots of it.
When I’m really physically ill, I ask for my coven’s help.
A Spell of Healing
What you will need:
One Blue Candle
Healing oil (or extra virgin olive oil)
Candle Holder
Three Stones (your choice) – Moss Agate, Axinite, Beryllonite, Crocoite, Red Jade
Your Ritual Tools
Chamomile Tea
The Sick Person
Chicken Noodle Soup (or other appropriate soup)
Warm freshly laundered blanket to be blessed
Rattle
On your altar, place the Blue Candle. Add healing stones around the candle in the form of a triangle. Put the warmed-up soup on the altar next to the candle on the left. Place the blanket on the right with the rattle on top of it and the Chamomile Tea behind the Blue Candle.
In your Circle the altar will be in the north section. The sick person sits in the middle of the Circle.
Cast your Circle.
Bless the rattle, stones, tea, Blue Candle, soup and blanket by holding each in turn saying:
I do bless this (name of item) that it may heal by the Gods’ hands.
Dress your candle with the healing oil, rubbing from wick to base.
And say:
I pull healing energy to (Name of Person).
Light the Blue Candle and say:
I now heal (Name of Person).
Shake the rattle above the sick person’s head while they take a sip of the soup. Next, with the soup, you walk widdershins (the opposite of clockwise) around the cast Circle’s edge.
At each quarter, say:
West: With this soup, I banish all illness from the blood
South: With this soup, I banish all illness from the spirit
East: With this soup, I banish all illness from the breath
North: With this soup, I banish all illness from this body! So, Mote It Be!
Bring the soup to the sick person. Have them partake of the soup again. Shake the rattle over the sick person’s head, as the person eats the soup, and say:
I cleanse you of all illness.
Go to the alar and pick up the cup of tea.
Have the sick person take a sip of the tea. With the tea, you walk widdershins (the opposite of clockwise) around the cast Circle’s edge.
At each quarter starting with the West, say:
West: With this tea, I banish all illness from the blood
South: With this tea, I banish all illness from the spirit
East: With this tea, I banish all illness from the breath
North: With this tea, I banish all illness from this body! So, Mote It Be!
Bring the tea to the sick person. Have them partake of the tea again. Shake the rattle, as the person drinks the tea, and say:
I cleanse you of all illness.
At the altar, hold your athame over the blanket and say:
I call all healing energies to infuse this blanket.
Let it heal the body as well as the soul.
Wrap the blanket around the sick person saying:
You are healed with the Gods’ love.
Do the Cakes and Wine Ceremony.
Close your Circle.
Give the person space to rest and recover.
May this rite bring healing to you or someone dear to you.
“My recent two spells failed,” my friend, Rachel, said.
“It may be happening because of internal barriers you might have,” I replied.
“Barriers like what?” she asked.
This began an important conversation about how you can release yourself from inner barriers to manifesting what you really want.
One barrier relates to the idea “I don’t deserve good things.” Many of us have heard extreme messages from our parents or guardians about how we’re not good enough. Our subconscious mind takes that in. Then it becomes an extra burden: Your spell is competing with resistance found in your subconscious mind.
How Do We Release Barriers in Our Subconscious Mind?
I have developed “The Self-Love Meditation” to help you move beyond self-esteem related blocks.
In this year, 2019, I’m scheduled to guide fellow Wiccans during a presentation in New Zealand (in a few months).
Here I want to emphasize one important point:
Meditation can help us with inner blocks that hide deep inside us, keeping us from our goals.
The good news is that we can use meditation to explore our inner being. Then, we can shine a light into the depths of our souls. Often, it truly helps to have an elder/mentor guide you. Having proper guidance during your journey will help you deal with those blocks more effectively.
Consider developing a consistent meditation practice. Why? Proper meditation helps witches find their truth. It’s like the can opener to the mind. When we have access to our subconscious mind, we can make great things happen for ourselves.
The subconscious mind is where a lot of our programming took place. For example, as a child, Susan was severely chastised when she spilled milk. As an adult, to this day, she cannot stand milk. The subconscious programming can really shackle us.
That’s the reason it is vital to use meditation to connect with deep and positive aspects of your spiritual essence. That’s when you become free.
In summary, meditation is a powerful tool that we can use to access our subconscious mind and reshape it to assist us in successfully performing our spells.
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