“I did not want to be in that car accident. Nothing you can say to me will change my mind,” my friend, Rhonda, said. She was loud, real loud.

“Okay,” my other friend, David, replied.

“Don’t tell me that I chose what I wanted to happen in this incarnation—”

“I wasn’t—”

“Don’t say that there’s some lesson in all this—”

“I didn’t—”

“All right! What could be a lesson in all of this…?” Rhonda said, then she sat down. David just sat there for a moment or two. Just breathing. Just letting Rhonda calm down.

Some time ago, at a gathering of friends, David suggested that we make choices before we incarnate here on earth. These choices give us challenging situations to help us learn certain lessons while we’re here.

I once heard a speaker say, “If it’s true that we make choices before we incarnate—maybe we better hope that we didn’t say, ‘I want to learn patience.’ I could imagine a person in your soul group raising his hand. He says, ‘I’ll help you with that. I’ll be your first husband.’”

As I was reflecting on this, I had a thought. A disturbing thought. What if I chose to go through the hardship of gaining weight, becoming obese, and then struggling to lose weight?

I chose this? NO!

Or maybe? Could it be that I planned to go through this weight-trouble so I could learn empathy for others?

Wait a minute. Wasn’t I already in the empathy-club?—with enduring the torture from my brother when we were kids. (I was a tiny girl when he held me down, drowning in a neighbor’s swimming pool. There was more….)

Over and over again, I hear about women who were attacked in their younger years, and they did something to get “bigger” or at least, to “be unattractive to male attention.”

Author Roxane Gay was gang-raped when she was 12 years old. She writes in her book, Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body, “I ate and ate and ate in the hopes that if I made myself big, my body would be safe. I buried the girl I was because she ran into all kinds of trouble. I tried to erase every memory of her, but she is still there, somewhere. . . . I was trapped in my body, one that I barely recognized or understood, but at least I was safe.”

I have dropped 32.6 pounds. I’ve kept them off. To me, I think that bringing my Wiccan faith into the mix has helped.

Sure, I make certain to cast Circle and to gather with my coven.

I often do a candle-lighting ritual. (I certainly light a candle to say ‘thank you!’ to Goddess Squat for parking spaces!)

But I’ve brought a Goddess-style to my eating habits now. I’m on purpose with eating that which comes from the Goddess and dropping processed “food.”

Every day, I eat natural plants (unprocessed) and natural animal protein (unprocessed).

The big change is that I keep processed sugar and carbs out of my diet as much as I can.

Here’s my point: These changes have helped me in two ways: Get closer to my Gods and move forward with my healthy goal of weight loss.

32.6 pounds means a lot. I’ll put it plainly. I’ve backed away from a dangerous weight. You see, my mother has diabetes. My efforts have kept me away from that health problem!

I’m grateful to God and Goddess for Their Support.

I’ve learned that as I take better care of myself and I connect with God and Goddess, I do NOT need the extra weight to feel safe.

After all the neglect and physical abuse in my childhood … I can now be free.

Wait! Let’s pause here.

What a transformation!

What if I chose (on the spiritual plane before this incarnation) that I was going to take a journey in which I’d be hurt deeply, long for safety and then rise up to have a new goal … to … be … FREE.

Is that what you want, my friend? To be free?

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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Be a Wiccan Badass: Become More Confident and Unleash Your Inner Power

As a Wiccan I found this an inspiring read. Written in a way that makes it accessible to everyone irrespective of their current knowledge. – Shona Cathro

Goddess Reveals Your Enchanted Light: Peace, Prosperity, Possibility Along Your Wiccan Path

I don’t generally write reviews on books I’ve read…but this time i feel lead to. This book spoke volumes to me, as if the author knew exactly where I’m coming from and what I’m struggling with. It’s not often a book can make me cry, but this one did by making me see the many blocks I’ve put up in my life. I knew they were there, but I’ve gotten skilled at pretending they’re not. Thank you for helping me see I’m not some freak because of circumstances throughout my life that have caused the blocks, and that i need to stop hiding from or burying them and face them one step at a time. – Crystal Sparks

Beyond the Law of Attraction to Real Magic: How You Can Remove Blocks to Prosperity, Happiness and Inner Peace

This book is a must have for all of those starting out on the spiritual path of Wicca and for all of those who are just looking for some light and love in their life. MoonWater SilverClaw uses her knowledge of Wicca and her personal experiences to not only teach the Law of Attraction in a clear manner but to help you use the Law of Attraction to better your life.

Through simple guided meditations and tips on living a happy healthy life this book takes you on a journey that will teach you how to love yourself, better your self image, and rid yourself of the negative energies that prevent you from reaching your goals.

This book covers many wonderful topics that will teach you basic magical practices as well as the theory and idea of “like attracts like” From setting up an alter to casting a circle and how to perform and find the magick that you are seeing in your life this book has so much to offer.

MoonWater SilverClaw is truly an inspirational writer for a newer generation of Wiccans and those seeking to use the natural energies of the earth to make changes in their life. Her writing style speaks from the heart because she has been where the reader is, she has used these techniques and steps to better her own life and now she is helping the reader use the Law of Attraction to better theirs – Amazon Customer

Goddess Has Your Back: How Wicca Can Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem and Make Your Life Magickal

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The Hidden Children of the Goddess Embrace Wicca, Become Strong, Be at Peace with Yourself and the World Around You

Ms. SilverClaw has written a book that is really great for the beginner wanting to learn about Wiccan or wants to start practicing the art of Wicca. I found this book wonderful, easy to read, and extremely helpful and informative. It covers everything from what Wicca is, the history of Wicca and how Wicca became misassociated with evil, along with how Wicca can help/save people’s lives. Ms. SilverClaw also discusses practicing Wicca either in a Coven or Solo, and all the things you need in order to have in order to perform your ceremony, and she explains what each item means. She explains how to create spells and gives examples to use, and explains the pitfalls of creating certain types of spells. Ms. SilverClaw has truly created a book that is a cast all net the seems to cover everything that I needed to know to begin practicing Wicca. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is searching for their first book on the topic and wants to start practicing the art of Wicca or is just curious about the topic. This is truly a Must Have book. – Tamra L. Shipman

Goddess Walks Beside You: How You Can Listen, Learn and Enjoy the Wiccan Path

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