How to Say No – and Enhance Your Wiccan Practice

January 26, 2018 / Moonwater / Leave a comment

“I wish I could tell people no,” my friend, Jill said. “But I’m afraid it’s just going to cause more trouble.” How does a Wiccan say no and still protect her relationships?

The answer lives in The Three Aspects of the Goddess. Many of us have heard of the Maiden, Mother and Crone. I’m suggesting here that all three aspects are necessary – not only for our spiritual growth, but also for us to support our relationships at work and with family.

Recently, I heard multiple times in the same week, Wiccans saying, “I don’t have time for my spiritual practice.” With people demanding your time and effort, it can feel almost impossible to have time for your personal, spiritual journey.

Some authors suggest that “saying no” is a prime, time-management tool.

I’ll add that you cannot merely say no. You need to add something kind and conscious to that process.

Three Aspects of the Goddess

We’ll focus on the Three Aspects of the Goddess to help you find more time, so you can improve your own Wiccan practice.

First, you don’t just say no.

I once heard a speech in which the person said, “You could say something like this: ‘I’ll have to say no at this time. My plate is full. Let’s see if we can brainstorm for a moment. Maybe, I know someone who can help you with that.’” The speaker’s point was that you don’t just say no. You also find a way to be helpful.

That’s the essence of the below Three Aspects of the Goddess Elements to Say No Process:

Maiden (fertility of ideas)

Many times, people can be demanding of your time and efforts when it’s not your duty or job description.

Still, you need to protect the relationship.

This is the time to invoke the Maiden form of the Goddess, known for fertility. Let’s add the thought: fertility in terms of creating new ideas.

When you embody “Maiden energy,” you say things like:

I hear you. The paperwork is tough. How about I brainstorm with you about when in the shift you can do it?
I understand. The paperwork is complicated. I realize that at some time (maybe I’m on vacation), you’d need to take care of it. When can we take 15 minutes, and I’ll show you how to do Part One of the paperwork?

This process is about you helping the person think of ways to fulfill the task or request without you.

The Maiden has lots of youthful energy. To guard your own energy, you need to express to the person what you’re willing to do, and more importantly what you’re not willing to do.

Remember, there are things you cannot do for the person you care about. You cannot take their final exam, and you cannot, in their place, arrive on time for work.

I’ve heard Wiccans complain about “where did my energy go?” Guard your own Maiden energy by shifting to helping people do their own tasks.

Mother (nurture the person to do things)

Embrace and nurture the person. Help the person do things for themselves.

My friend, Jill, at work, puts forth the idea of a rotating schedule for the duty of filling out the paperwork.

Jill discovers that helping the other people learn how to do paperwork gives them a sense of accomplishment that they are growing their skills.

Make sure you nurture (and reinforce) the new behaviors by giving specific praise to another person who is learning new things. Appreciate them and give them good feelings. Celebrate that the person’s skills and experiences have expanded.

My husband’s coach talks about “growing your comfort zone.”

An effective mother does not do all the tasks. She empowers her family to add new skills. The family members “grow their comfort zone.”

Crone (provide “wisdom with a hug”)

I think of the effective Crone as one who provides wisdom with a hug.

Without a hug or giving a person good feelings, it’s just someone telling another person what to do.

For example, some male individuals say, “I’m a recovering Mr. Fix It.” This is recognizing that we want to avoid just telling someone: “To fix that, you should do _____.”

Wisdom with a hug means “you hold them and their feelings.” And that means you listen.

* * *

In summary, you can create more time for yourself and your spiritual path when you learn to say no and add The Three Aspects of the Goddess. I’m not saying this is easy. It takes practice.

When you’re not running around doing everyone else’s work, you can have time for your personal spiritual practices.

May this process create more peace and joy in your life.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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The Wiccan Advantage When Dealing with Worry

January 20, 2018 / Moonwater / Leave a comment

“I am so worried,” Zoe said.

“Tell me more,” I said.

“My whole household is down with the flu. Except me. Well, I’m starting to cough. I don’t how much longer I can take the pressure,” she said.

Saying “Don’t worry” won’t do Zoe any good at this moment.

When’s the last time you have been seriously worried? Is it happening now?

I’ve noticed that worry gets more intense about things we really cannot control.

What can you do?

We, Wiccans, have an advantage: We can do an empowering ritual.

The “Let Go” Meditation/Ritual

What you will need:

One white candle
Banishing oil or extra virgin olive oil
Banishing incense or your favorite scent
Ritual tools
Cakes and wine

This is a truly simple candle ritual you can do to get some relief from worry.

Cast circle in the usual manner.

Consecrate and charge your candle with your holy water and your incense. Dress your candle with your oil.

Start belly-breathing (taking big breaths in and out—slowly) and light the candle.

Envision all your worry and fretting going into the candle’s flame. That is, envision all your worry as a black smoke flowing out of your mouth with each breath out. The flame draws all the black smoke.

Say:
In this moment,
I let go.
Goddess take this from me.
God strengthen me.
So mote it be.

Continue your meditation on the candle, breathing out all your worries as the black smoke.

When you’re done, thank the God and Goddess for Their support. Let the rest of the candle burn out.

Warning: Never leave a candle burning unattended.

Do the Cakes and Wine ceremony

Close circle

May this ritual bring you relief and peace.

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How do I tell my mainly Christian friends/family I’m Wiccan?

January 12, 2018January 23, 2018 / Moonwater / Leave a comment

Are you considering the question of whether to go public with your Pagan faith?

Recently, one of my readers asked: “How do I tell my mainly Christian friends/family I’m Wiccan?”

“That’s a vital and complicated topic,” I thought. “Can I answer this in a brief article or would this be something to cover in half a book?”

Here’s my answer to my reader:

Are you sure you need to go public with your Wiccan faith? Many Wiccans stay in the broom closet and are just happy with that. They have real and intense reasons to keep their faith private.

I have deep empathy for your situation—my own parents dragged my brother and me to their Christian church in our early years.

It’s important to consider many issues before you do something that is irreversible.

1) You will lose some people.

Many Christians have been told by their religion-leaders that Wicca is evil. So, these Christians feel terror about Wicca. Doesn’t it make sense that several people may react poorly to you telling them you have different beliefs than they do? You may be shunned—for a lifetime. Are you willing to lose some friends and family?

2) Are you ready to go public?

For many Wiccans, the cost of going public has been to lose their jobs and other opportunities because of their beliefs.

In this day of social media, several authors suggest: “There is no privacy.”

Many of us have stories about how someone said, “I’ll keep your secret,” but later that person blurted out one’s private information. How do you feel about the whole online world knowing that you are Wiccan?

3) Are you okay with the possible backlash?

Remember, many Christians have been misinformed about Wicca. Those individuals consider Wicca to be evil. How do some people treat those they consider evil? Have you seen the consequences of those who think they are righteous and they’re only “punishing” evil-doers? People who are afraid tend to react in a rash manner.

After due consideration … here are some methods to express one’s Wiccan faith publicly.

a) Let the other person start the conversation

I always wear a pentacle necklace. When some people see it, they make a comment. This opens the door for me to explain what the pentacle means. In this way, I’m able to share some of my beliefs and let them know some facts about the Wiccan spiritual path. (Warning: It depends on where you live. Since many Christians believe Wicca to be evil, you might open yourself to violence if you openly wear a pentacle. Please know that I live in Northern California where such an occurrence is unlikely.)

b) Start with common ground

“Margaret, I noticed that you’re concerned about taking care of the environment,” Amanda said. This is an example of starting with common ground. You can talk about how you also have a deep appreciation for nature. You can mention that walking in nature is like going to a sacred place for you. Some Wiccans mention that they have a “nature-focused religion.”

Some people who believe in one God say that they have a feeling of awe when they see the Grand Canyon or a waterfall. The feeling of awe in the presence of nature can be common ground.

c) Talk about “The All” if that is part of your Wiccan Faith

Some Wiccans believe that “The All” began the universe. Then The All manifested as the Goddess who gave birth to the God … and so forth.

A Christian might be able to understand “The All” as approximating what they view as “God, the Father.”

d) Show Your Wiccan Faith in Action

Take up an environmental cause—if that fits for you. Here are options: Do cleanups in your neighborhood and demonstrate the positive things about your beliefs. Volunteer at an animal shelter, or perform some other charitable work. In these ways, you demonstrate the life-enhancing actions that you do, inspired by your Wiccan faith.

Please do a lot of reflection. Get some advice from people you trust. Practice the actual words you will use for your tough conversations about your Wiccan faith … if you decide to cross this irreversible threshold.

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Dealing with Depression While Having Cancer

January 5, 2018January 5, 2018 / Moonwater / 2 Comments

“You okay, Moonwater? Are you sick?” my friend, Lisa, asked.
“I don’t know. The doctor took some skin from near my wrist. I’m waiting on a biopsy,” I replied.

Then, the next day, the doctor’s office left a voicemail for me — a vague message.
But such a fast return call promised bad news. I had to wait the whole weekend until I could get someone on the phone. The answer was … cancer.

Now the question was … did they cut away all of the cancerous cells? The afflicted spot was the size of a dime, and the doctor had used a dermablade to cut away a nickel-sized area.

Again—it was about waiting to find out.

Can you relate? Have you had anxiety waiting for news related to something you had no control over?

Let’s add depression to the mix of anxiety and cancer.

My depression symptoms already pushed me to see a bleak future. Now, with the cancer-diagnosis, my mind spiraled into dark corners. Fear, dread, pain.

So, what can we do to sooth these feelings?

Here are Three Practical Ways to Soothe Feelings of Dread:

Talk with Friends

You can circle the wagons with your friends/family.

You’ll want to be selective about with whom you share your difficult news. I even have a kind friend who prefers texting to talking on the phone. We had a good conversation.

Still, many of us find talking on the phone or visiting in-person to be more helpful.

Many times, your friends and family can be supportive and give you strength. This includes your coven mates if you are in a coven.

A select number of your friends can and will support you. You can lean on them when life gets tough.

Certain friends helped me see the light when depression only showed darkness.

My husband gave me a different perspective. He called the operation a “cancer event.” (I didn’t like this phrase.)

His point was that the operation was likely successful. So, the situation was over (like an event). He added, “Until the data is in, it’s good.” By this he meant, if you don’t have an indication otherwise, carry on as if you’re going to get good news. Sometimes, he calls it “postponing worry that might prove unnecessary.”

Some people may find this perspective useful at times.

One thing I like about my husband’s comment is that it’s about holding a positive thought and sending that positive thought as energy into the universe.

Pray to the God and Goddess

I talked a lot to the God and Goddess. I asked Them to postpone my worries until I had more information. They sat with me in my fear and comforted me. They quieted my fears.

I said, “Please let this be okay. Give me guidance. Let me have the strength to go through this situation.” I focused on these intentions with the God and Goddess. This provided me a whole different direction than my depression symptoms would have brought to me.

So, when you have a serious question with no answer and you feel anxious, talk to the God and Goddess. See if you feel a subtle shift inside. That would be the God and Goddess providing you subtle support.

Perform a Ritual

Do a simple candle ritual to calm and reassure yourself.

I find lighting a candle and asking for peace/faith/comfort really helps me.

You can say:

With this Candle
I honor You, God and Goddess
Please fill me with Light.
Lend me Your Might.
So Mote It Be.

May these above practices bring you comfort and healing.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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January 1, 2018January 2, 2018 / Moonwater / Leave a comment

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How You Can Interweave Wicca with Your Daily Life

December 8, 2017 / Moonwater / Leave a comment

Savvy Wiccans learn to interweave their practice in the spare moments of daily life.

Read and study during your lunch break.

You can bring your e-reader or book wherever you go. If you’re uncomfortable about people seeing the cover of your paperback book, use some paper and make a simple cover. Study during your breaks during the day.

Catching five minutes and ten minutes here and there can keep you on track to grow in the Craft.

Take five minutes in the morning for the God and Goddess.

Meditation is a great way to start the day. Communicating with the Gods and checking in with Them can keep you on your track for a closer bond with Them. It’s important to keep the lines of communication open with the Gods. Even a five-minute meditation session can make a real difference.

When cooking, choose foods based on their magickal benefits.

Many of us cook daily, anyway. So, it’s a good idea to enhance your Wiccan practice with how you make good choices about the foods you eat.

For example, if you’re looking for love, cook a meal using basil. Basil can be used for attracting wealth, too. Talk about a double-benefit!

Need protection, try garlic. Make some garlic bread to go with pasta. Many Wiccans use garlic for healing, too. Consider adding garlic to chicken soup for a wonderful taste. This works well for healing from colds and flus.

Create your own cooking style.

Take a daily walk around trees.

Even just a ten-minute walk can give you an experience of communing with nature and feeling the healing from the Gods.

Walking around in nature helps scrub your aura. Furthermore, such a walk drains negative energy out of your body. No wonder doctors have started prescribing walking in nature—now called “ecotherapy.”

In summary, here is an example of how Laura incorporates Wiccan practice in her daily life. She wakes up 10 minutes early and gets in her 5-minute meditation. She walks in a park while listening to a Wiccan audio book during her break. She eats her “prosperity soup” during her lunchbreak.

As we’ve discussed: There are numerous ways to weave your magickal life into your mundane one.

Blessed Be,
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Wiccans and Standing Against Oppression and Sexual Harassment

November 24, 2017November 24, 2017 / Moonwater / Leave a comment

“Wiccans are being oppressed. There’s a reason why many of us stay in the broom closet,” my friend Aaron said. “What about the people who denied Wiccans the right to place a pentacle on their tombstone?”

What can we do about oppression? Speak up!

As I write this, women have come forward to speak the truth about sexual harassment and to identify those who have abused them.

I celebrate women standing up and speaking out.

I also realize that many women and girls have been pushed by society to shut up and take abuse. Over the years, I have even found that I tended to shut up because I didn’t want to “be a bitch.” (It’s hard to admit that I had fallen for society’s lie about “who is a bitch.”)

There Is a Horrible Myth about “Being a Bitch” When One Is Really Being Assertive

From the time I was a child through my teen years, I saw how assertive female individuals were harassed for standing up for themselves.

But it is worse. I’ve read about how people tend to internalize the authority figures’ voices—in their own minds. If I spoke up, I would be called a bitch. I even said to friends, “I don’t want to be a bitch.”

My own husband says, “You’re not doing that. Instead, you’re being assertive. Assertive is NOT the same thing as aggressive.”

Let’s pay attention to this point: Using the “bitch” label is how many people try to keep women “in line.” Enough of that!

Currently, I’m in the middle of a dispute with an online retailer. I just wanted my money back, and the online retailer denied my request. So, I went to the payment vendor and asked them to resolve it.

The payment vendor sided with the online retailer.

I was furious. And, I even felt like giving up.

Have you ever felt like a company was too big and you were too small to get any form of justice? If so, you can probably relate to this situation.

On the edge of giving up, I talked the situation over with a family member. That’s when I resolved to speak up. I looked at the payment vendor’s website and found the “Appeal” button. I clicked it and typed up my comment.

Will I prevail in this dispute with the online retailer? I don’t know.

What counts is that I’m proud of myself for not giving up and for speaking up.

I realize that this may be a smaller issue—just about some money.

But in the recent two days, I realized the important point: We had better get used to speaking up.

As I write this, the current man in the White House has been caught admitting to being a sexual abuser.

Still, at this time, at least six men have been identified as sexual abusers. Some of them have lost their lucrative money-making deals and careers.

People are standing up and saying: We will NOT tolerate such abuse and oppression.

Wiccans Honor the Goddess

One of the reasons I like Wicca is: It gives women the power to run and lead their own lives—to be assertive and strong without any fear of ridicule or shaming.

In our community, we are strong Priestesses, and we have compassion and love for all. We are equally valued with the Priests of our spiritual path.

Wiccans Living In Society

I realize that many of us will not wear our faith out for all to see. (If you met me on the street, you would likely see my pentacle necklace.)

However, we, Wiccans, can support women who speak up.

When the powerful take advantage of the vulnerable, sometimes it is hard to fight and stand up to them. The solution is to stand together.

We Need to Stand Up with the Women Who Call Out the Abuse

Have you noticed the systematic oppression of women? Think about it. If a woman reports abuse she is likely to lose her job and future opportunities. Some individuals say, “What are you talking about?” Consider this: How many employers want to hire a whistleblower?

If a man gets punched in the mouth, and he stands up, he is applauded.

If a woman gets sexually harassed, a number of individuals do what they can to shame her. They say, “You should have known better. You brought it on yourself.”

We have been hearing in the news lately about the men who took advantage of women working for them. This really angers me. I was sexually assaulted when I was young. I was afraid of being shamed. I was also afraid of being called a slut—and other forms of bullying perpetrated by my peers and society.

If you are a woman, you know what systematic oppression means—and how it feels to be harmed by it.

Progress Can Be Achieved

It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness. — Eleanor Roosevelt

Women created their own movement and worked for 72 years until women were granted their right to vote in the USA. The 19th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution was ratified by the states on August 18, 1920.

In April 2007, Wiccan U.S. soldiers gained the right to have a pentacle on their tombstones. This required a lawsuit. A plaintiff was Selena Fox, a Wiccan high priestess with Circle Sanctuary in Barneveld, Wisconsin.

During April 2007, U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs settled with Wiccans so the pentacle was added to the list of 38 “emblems of belief” allowed on VA grave markers.

Progress Begins with You Today

Remember: Standing together we are more powerful than alone.

What small step can you do today to stand up against oppression?

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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Wiccans and Rising Up from Discouragement and Disappointment

November 17, 2017 / Moonwater / 2 Comments

The car roared through the intersection and barely missed me.

How? I was not in the intersection because a clear thought came to me: “Not yet.” This meant, I was to avoid stepping on the accelerator and jumping my car forward when the light turned green.

You’d think that after a real experience of having my intuition, or Goddess’s voice, protect me, I’d have a whole new perspective.

I might even hope for my life to continue to be blessed with such miraculous protection.

But I have had a problem with hope.

Why would someone ask someone for a date? For the hope that the person would say “yes” and a good relationship could begin.

Why would someone attend college? For the hope that the person would gain better employment.

Recently, I was talking with a friend about a Wiccan perspective of hope.

“I don’t know if I’m the one to respond to that idea,” I replied.

You see, I’ve lived much of my life—before this moment—by protecting myself from hope. By not hoping, disappointment cannot touch me. Or so I thought.

What I’ve learned is: Many of us are afraid of being let down. But by not hoping, we let ourselves down before anything really begins. We take away our own energy. We find ourselves in a space that is both familiar and painful. You might even say, we are almost comfortable in that familiar pain—comfortably numb.

How do you invite God and Goddess into this situation?

My Realization about Hope

In the recent few days, I realized something about my relationship with hope. I cannot logic my way to feeling hopeful. My logical mind can focus on all the times I’ve done something, and true blessings arose. I changed my life for the better with one particular email message that turned a romantic relationship into the love of my life. I met certain neighbors and joined my first coven. Recounting my blessings does not change my feelings. (Okay, having clinical depression is in the mix here.)

If logic won’t get me to hope, what can? Moving. Ritual.

Here are five ways for Wiccans to shift to a hopeful approach to life:

Raise Energy

You can sing, chant, dance, use breath control and many other techniques to raise energy. If you are in a tough spot, doing the above methods can help motivate and even change your outlook on many problems.

Using your strong emotions, you can focus energy to your Will.

When you raise energy, you can focus the related power to help create the outcome you desire.

Breathe In Light; Breathe Out Pain

Here is a simple exercise that you can do to lessen the pain and stress of disappointment.

Say to yourself:

I breathe in the light of love from the Gods.

(Visualize the white light all around you. As you breathe in deeply, the white light enters your body, filling your lungs and nurturing your soul.)

I breathe out my pain and sadness.

(Visualize breathing out your pain as black smoke. It is neutralized safely by the Gods.)

With this exercise you can release the pain of worry and disappointment.

Shift Your Thoughts by Shifting Your Body

Ritualized movement can place you in a positive frame of mind. I enjoy the movement of drawing the pentacle in the air with my athame during ritual.

Additionally, the act of Casting the Circle helps me settle my mind and know that I am in the sacred space. This is why we cast Circle the same way each time. It is to help our subconscious mind settle down to the work at hand. This literally changes your mind to be in the presence of the Gods.

Cultivate Your “Believing Eyes Friends”

Julia Cameron, author of The Artist Way, writes about how we need friends who have “believing eyes.” These are friends who can believe for us—even when we cannot believe for ourselves at this moment.

We often get lost in our own beliefs. “Oh, I can’t do that.” Or “Oh, that will never happen.” We literally cannot see a worldview outside of ourselves. Our vision is limited by self-condemning beliefs.

This is why it is important to nurture friendships with healthy people who hold our dreams in a loving way.

Light a Candle and Ask for Help from God and Goddess

Light a candle and ask the God and Goddess to intervene on your behalf. Say a prayer. Or do a ritual.

In summary, I’ve shared that hopeful thoughts and feelings—before this moment—have not been a primary part of my life.

Here’s something strange. In writing this blog post, I am acting in a hopeful manner. My hope is that you’ll find value in this post.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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Wiccans and Hiding

November 11, 2017 / Moonwater / Leave a comment

Whether you’re in the “broom closet” or not, many of us hide in some ways.

Hiding? From what?

Hiding from ourselves –
Hiding from what we want –
Hiding from what hurts us –
Hiding from hoping.

Can you relate to this?

In this dark half of the year, many Wiccans find it a good time to do inner work.

“I am the Gracious Goddess, who gives the gift of joy unto the heart. Upon earth, I give the knowledge of the spirit eternal; and beyond death, I give peace, and freedom, and reunion with those who have gone before. Nor do I demand sacrifice, for behold I am the Mother of All Living, and my love is poured out upon the earth.” – from The Charge of the Goddess by Doreen Valiente

Did you notice this part? “Nor do I demand sacrifice.” Isn’t the fear of sacrifice part of why we hide? Have you noticed that we just don’t like to give up what we have?We’ll now look at different facets of our journey.

Hiding from ourselves

You might think, Why would I hide from myself?

Perhaps, you’re hiding from a specific part of yourself. Sometimes, we can fear our own power. We may subconsciously want to believe that we are small and vulnerable. That seems easier. How? We can blame our problems on others and surrounding circumstances. And we do not have to do anything new.

Let’s say that you let go of just playing small, what do you have? A responsibility.

Recently, my husband talked about his father’s habitual statement: “You make me mad.” My husband said, “My father just does not acknowledge that the recurring part of the equation is my father, and his often terrible behavior connected to his own anger.”

I thought about my husband’s observation. It reminds me that when we own a problem then we have the power. As soon as we can stop hiding from our greatness, we will succeed in our endeavors in the mundane and on the magickal plane, too.

I have written about blocks and held workshops on removing them. You may want to reflect on your own journey. What might be a block for you in your own life?

One time, I was out walking and these thoughts arose: Mostly we are afraid of change, in ourselves and in the world around us. We are afraid of losing ourselves.

We are also afraid of our darker self or Shadow Self, which can wreak havoc in our own life.

We, witches, delve deep into our subconscious and work with the Shadow Self to learn from it and embrace it.

The Shadow Self wants to stay powerful. In working with the Shadow Self, we can step into the driver’s seat of our life.

How do we work with the Shadow Self? Many of us learn to work well with the Shadow Self through a guided meditation led by an elder.

Hiding from what we want

Why would we hide from what we want? One word: Disappointment.

Have you been hit by the heart-searing pain of disappointment? Such pain certainly inspires many of us to give up on what we want.

To get what we want, many times, we must change, grow and stretch. Have you noticed that fear of change often rises up?

We hide our true power. Our power is great, and the fear of this power can be so strong that we hide our desires deep within ourselves.

Some of us may have “forgotten” what our heart wants. We may think we want change but our subconscious mind wants to stay the same. Why? Our subconscious mind wants to stay safe. Change can be scary to our subconscious mind because change and trying new things tosses us out of our comfort zone. Then we fall into the land of potential pain and disappointment. No outcome is certain. What is the easiest path? Staying the same.

Hiding from what hurts us

Doesn’t it make sense to hide from and get away from anything that causes us pain?

The tough truth is: Many times, pain helps us grow. Like growing pains. We need to grow and stretch. To learn our lessons in this incarnation, we must endure pain, sometimes.

Pain can serve as a teacher. As the toddler falls and skins her knee, she learns that something didn’t work. In fact, she might learn to steady herself by holding on the edge of the couch while she develops “her walking legs.”

Wiccans can serve themselves by observing what causes pain and then coming up with a plan for rituals, prayers to the God and Goddess, chants and/or spells.

Step forward. Observe your pain. Do not let pain and the fear of pain to shut you down. Instead, reach out to the God and Goddess. They stand at the ready to help you.

Hiding from hoping

Why would you hide from even hoping about something? Pain. Disappointment.

Hoping implies that we may lose what we truly desire. It gives us the unsettled feelings of possible loss.

I really have a hard time with this one. I don’t even want to hope for the fear of losing what I desire.

This reminds me of a conversation I had with my husband.

“Do you think you might look forward to that trip?” he asked.

“No. I can’t do it. What if it things don’t come together?” I replied.

Later, I realized that I did not want to look forward to something because I had already anticipated the possibility of losing it.

I really need to work on this. I don’t want to stall and get stuck in my life. I want to grow and move forward—spiritually and emotionally.

Can you relate to this?

Have you stopped hoping about things?

In summary, Wiccans, during this dark half of the year, can do some inner work.

Take a close look. Are you hiding from yourself, from what you want, and from what hurts you? Are you even hiding from hoping for anything to go well?

The Wiccan path is one of growth and even challenge. Inner peace begins with our taking an honest look at our pain and fear. Then, reach out to the God and Goddess. Conduct ritual and also give voice to chants and prayers. Own your Wiccan path, and start to see truly magickal things manifest.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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Protect Yourself from Big Samhain Mistakes – And Enjoy the Best of this Sabbat

October 27, 2017 / Moonwater / 2 Comments

Skull

“I don’t think I’ll ever do that supper ritual again!” my friend, Amanda said.

“What happened?” I asked.

“We invited the spirits of our dead friends and family members to the ritual supper, and they did NOT leave! Over the next days, I felt really depressed. I later learned that my friend, Alex, was hovering near me. I was being haunted,” Amanda said.

This is a real problem if one fails to do the appropriate precautions for a specific Samhain dinner, titled a “Dumb Supper.” The word dumb refers to “unable to speak.”

We (my coven) will soon hold our annual Dumb Supper. This is a ritual meal eaten without talking or even making a peep.

You invite your deceased loved ones by setting a place for them at the table. It is so nice to visit with departed friends and family members. Sometimes, you can hear them, and sometimes they show signs that they are present. For example, one of my coven mates told me she saw a sign swing back and forth waving “Hi.” It really moved her heart.

Be sure to “kick out” departed friends and family members after the celebration is done. You do not want them hanging around. After you have shared your time with them, make sure they go back to the Land of the Dead where they belong.

I have heard of situations when a departed family member desperately tried to express his sorrow and attempts to apologize. Unfortunately, the living family member felt depressed or even scared.

Here is an example of language to send the spirits away: “Thank you for participating during our supper. We now send our departed family members and departed friends back to the Summerlands. We now Close the Veil. So Mote It Be.”

* * * * * *

Ever wonder what you should and shouldn’t do during Samhain? Here are some quick tips for this Sabbat. This is just a partial list.

The Do’s:

Honor your departed friends and family.

Samhain is my favorite Sabbat. We honor those who have crossed the Veil with offerings and recalling memories of them when they were alive.

When you make offerings and bring up memories of your loved ones who have crossed over to the Summerlands, you bring them alive again in your own heart and others’ hearts.

Some things you can do are simple. You could fix their favorite meal or drink. Give them a toast with that drink with good energy and love.

The most important thing … Have fun!

This is a joyful time where we get to get to visit with our departed loved ones. Do you think that they want you to be sad? No. Our departed loved ones want us to be happy.

When you see or hear your departed loved ones, allow a smile to rise to your face. And, it’s also okay to have tears of joy when being reunited with departed loved ones.

The Don’ts:

Don’t get upset with the Mundanes.

Don’t fret over the general society’s way of celebrating Samhain. Yes, they have taken and distorted some things from us, Pagans. Be kind. They don’t know any better. Instead, enjoy the festivities. You don’t have to be a downer to the Mundanes. Hand out candy. And have some fun.

Don’t do your ritual on the October 31^st.

There will be too many distractions with answering the door and handing out goodies to the little ones in the evening. This is the reason why many witches celebrate on either the weekend before or after October 31^st.

Don’t forget the Ancestor Altar.

Having an Ancestor Altar is really fun, and it’s a must for Samhain. Decorate your altar with pictures of passed loved ones and include your departed pets! Witches love their animals. And yes, they go to the Summerlands, too.

Just imagine … those of us who have had a lot of pets over the years, we’re going to get mobbed with love when our numerous pets greet us in the Summerlands!

These are just some of the do’s and the don’ts.

Consider asking others about their experiences. We can learn from each other.

Let’s make this Samhain one to remember fondly.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater

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