“You’re a what?!” Mark said when Eleanor revealed to him that she is a witch. He then ghosted her that same day. Crap. I realize that Eleanor is better off without Mark in the long run. It still hurts.
Have you had experiences like this?
I have three insights for you.
1. Don’t Reveal Your Heartfelt Truth Too Soon.
“Hi. I have depression.” Starting a first encounter like this may torpedo a possible relationship. The same holds true for being a witch.
I’m a witch with depression and dyslexia…my husband is truly supportive.
Before you bring up something that may rock your new romantic partner, create some good times first.
2. Ask yourself, “Does this person demonstrate openness to new ideas?”
Some people just cannot find their way to being open to new ideas or different possibilities.
“Look for this in a life partner: Kind, flexible, and tells the truth.” – Tom Marcoux, author
We’re talking about assessing whether the new romantic partner in your life is flexible.
When you’re thinking about, perhaps, revealing your spiritual path, you could ask:
“I’m curious. Was there a time when you heard something you didn’t like, and then you later changed your thoughts about that thing?”
Listen carefully. Does your new romantic partner demonstrate flexibility?
You might eventually say, “I would like to share something with you. There is a lot of misinformation out there. So, how about we talk about some things I have personally experienced?”
3. Expect possible resistance and if appropriate provide a little time and space.
If you do encounter resistance, you may want to give them a chance to process their situation.
Remind them of how you treat people well. Also, remind them of their personal experiences with you.
Give them some time. You may be surprised at the eventual, positive response you get.
Ever get sick? Not just a cold. I mean, have you been really sick?
When I’m in such a tough time, I make space to get more rest (during which I ask for the Gods’ healing). Then there’s chicken soup—lots of it.
When I’m really physically ill, I ask for my coven’s help.
A Spell of Healing
What you will need:
One Blue Candle
Healing oil (or extra virgin olive oil)
Candle Holder
Three Stones (your choice) – Moss Agate, Axinite, Beryllonite, Crocoite, Red Jade
Your Ritual Tools
Chamomile Tea
The Sick Person
Chicken Noodle Soup (or other appropriate soup)
Warm freshly laundered blanket to be blessed
Rattle
On your altar, place the Blue Candle. Add healing stones around the candle in the form of a triangle. Put the warmed-up soup on the altar next to the candle on the left. Place the blanket on the right with the rattle on top of it and the Chamomile Tea behind the Blue Candle.
In your Circle the altar will be in the north section. The sick person sits in the middle of the Circle.
Cast your Circle.
Bless the rattle, stones, tea, Blue Candle, soup and blanket by holding each in turn saying:
I do bless this (name of item) that it may heal by the Gods’ hands.
Dress your candle with the healing oil, rubbing from wick to base.
And say:
I pull healing energy to (Name of Person).
Light the Blue Candle and say:
I now heal (Name of Person).
Shake the rattle above the sick person’s head while they take a sip of the soup. Next, with the soup, you walk widdershins (the opposite of clockwise) around the cast Circle’s edge.
At each quarter, say:
West: With this soup, I banish all illness from the blood
South: With this soup, I banish all illness from the spirit
East: With this soup, I banish all illness from the breath
North: With this soup, I banish all illness from this body! So, Mote It Be!
Bring the soup to the sick person. Have them partake of the soup again. Shake the rattle over the sick person’s head, as the person eats the soup, and say:
I cleanse you of all illness.
Go to the alar and pick up the cup of tea.
Have the sick person take a sip of the tea. With the tea, you walk widdershins (the opposite of clockwise) around the cast Circle’s edge.
At each quarter starting with the West, say:
West: With this tea, I banish all illness from the blood
South: With this tea, I banish all illness from the spirit
East: With this tea, I banish all illness from the breath
North: With this tea, I banish all illness from this body! So, Mote It Be!
Bring the tea to the sick person. Have them partake of the tea again. Shake the rattle, as the person drinks the tea, and say:
I cleanse you of all illness.
At the altar, hold your athame over the blanket and say:
I call all healing energies to infuse this blanket.
Let it heal the body as well as the soul.
Wrap the blanket around the sick person saying:
You are healed with the Gods’ love.
Do the Cakes and Wine Ceremony.
Close your Circle.
Give the person space to rest and recover.
May this rite bring healing to you or someone dear to you.
“My recent two spells failed,” my friend, Rachel, said.
“It may be happening because of internal barriers you might have,” I replied.
“Barriers like what?” she asked.
This began an important conversation about how you can release yourself from inner barriers to manifesting what you really want.
One barrier relates to the idea “I don’t deserve good things.” Many of us have heard extreme messages from our parents or guardians about how we’re not good enough. Our subconscious mind takes that in. Then it becomes an extra burden: Your spell is competing with resistance found in your subconscious mind.
How Do We Release Barriers in Our Subconscious Mind?
I have developed “The Self-Love Meditation” to help you move beyond self-esteem related blocks.
In this year, 2019, I’m scheduled to guide fellow Wiccans during a presentation in New Zealand (in a few months).
Here I want to emphasize one important point:
Meditation can help us with inner blocks that hide deep inside us, keeping us from our goals.
The good news is that we can use meditation to explore our inner being. Then, we can shine a light into the depths of our souls. Often, it truly helps to have an elder/mentor guide you. Having proper guidance during your journey will help you deal with those blocks more effectively.
Consider developing a consistent meditation practice. Why? Proper meditation helps witches find their truth. It’s like the can opener to the mind. When we have access to our subconscious mind, we can make great things happen for ourselves.
The subconscious mind is where a lot of our programming took place. For example, as a child, Susan was severely chastised when she spilled milk. As an adult, to this day, she cannot stand milk. The subconscious programming can really shackle us.
That’s the reason it is vital to use meditation to connect with deep and positive aspects of your spiritual essence. That’s when you become free.
In summary, meditation is a powerful tool that we can use to access our subconscious mind and reshape it to assist us in successfully performing our spells.
“Could I use witchcraft to fulfill my New Year’s Resolutions?” a friend, Sara, asked.
“Witches do have an advantage in fulfilling their resolutions,” I replied. This is good news because there are reports that 80% of people fail in their resolutions by February.
Did you make a New Year’s Resolution?
Witches have a better chance at accomplishing their resolutions because we have magick and the God and Goddess on our side.
Here is a simple spell to help you realize the accomplishment of your New Year’s Resolution.
What you will need:
Parchment or virgin paper
Tinted ink that matches your intention (an example is red to get things moving)
Bless and consecrate your items (paper, marker [or ink and quill])
Write your resolution on the paper. Hold the paper in your dominant hand and think of what you want to accomplish with the resolution. Pause and consider the experience and the benefits of manifesting your resolution. Imagine and feel the positive feelings.
Once you have your mind firmly on the outcome of your desire, ignite the paper on the working candle and drop the paper into the cauldron to burn completely and say:
Lord and Lady, Inspire and make manifest All the best That I desire Fuel the fire So I experience what I hope for, Blessings evermore
I’ve learned a lot about the process of dealing with significant health situations. I’ve learned to drop 50 lbs.* so I have avoided going down the diabetes path on which my mother struggles.
I am doing well in working with asthma and clinical depression symptoms.
Here are some things I’ve discovered along the way …
Recognize what you get from the physical illness
“What do you mean, what I get from the physical illness?” my friend, Penny, asked. “I am forced to be stuck in my bed. I’m in pain.”
I nodded. I remained quiet. She would see it, or she wouldn’t.
“Oh … If I’m sick, I don’t have to go back to my parents’ house for Christmas,” she said. Considering the abuse she endured, her body seemed to have given her the only “correct excuse” for not going back to her parents’ home like “a good girl.”
Every situation is unique. This depends on the individual and their situation. For example, I take appropriate medications for my medical issues. Look to get support from medical professionals and mental health professionals as needed.
How does this relate to us, Wiccans? If you’re not listening to your body, you might have trouble listening to the Goddess. What does this mean? Look at the whole situation. Do you need to devote significant effort or attention to your health? Is it time for you to stop toxic situations in your life? Sometimes, it’s as if your body says, “Wake up. This way of living is not good for you.”
I suggest that you take a whole-life view of health and wellness.
Willpower is a lie.
This comment sounds extreme. How many times have you heard someone say, “I just have to have the willpower to stop ____?”
If you think willpower is simply a matter of gritting your teeth, clasping your hands together and saying, “No! I won’t do it!”—you might have a bumpy ride.
My own husband hides cookies out of his sight (in a cupboard). Why? Because it’s easy for a person to fall into a habit of “see cookie—eat cookie.”
He’s not trying to rely on “willpower.” Instead, he’s using a strategy.
I know from personal experience that simply setting up “rules” for a diet can result in failure. You make up rules, sometimes impossible rules, to live by.
And when we don’t live up to those rules, we get mad at ourselves. This approach to willpower does not work.
What does this mean for us, Wiccans? Let’s move beyond trying to use willpower to make sure that we do a ritual or be active with the Craft. Instead, aim for making ritual an organic part of your daily life. Perhaps, you’ll do a ritual in the first 15 minutes after dinner (This is similar to how my husband and I have a routine of going for a walk after dinner.)
Do you want it bad enough? – Why?
I note two types of want – 1) Want to manifest something and 2) Want to throw out something.
How deep is your want? This relates to how we Wiccans manifest things via magick. We need a powerful desire to manifest what we want.
If you do not have the deep, powerful emotional connection, your spell is likely to fail. That’s harsh to know. Still, this knowledge can empower you.
When you do a ritual, be sure to tap into your Deep Want.
Here are examples:
I want to be healthy so I can enjoy years with a new romantic partner
I want to be healthy so I can avoid diabetes that runs in my family
I want to be able to move, so I do NOT run out of breath going up a flight of stairs*
In summary, take a whole-life view of your health and wellness.
We, Wiccans, are fortunate in that we can integrate our spirituality with our being healthy on the earthly plane.
Blessed Be,
Moonwater
*P.S. I mentioned how I dropped 50 lbs. If you are called to lose weight, take my online course Goddess Style Weight Loss—which is available Jan. 2019. Sign up at GoddessStyleWeightLoss.com
A reader asked me: What are some of the quickest, easiest ways for psychic & spiritual protection?
I’ll share three different methods you can use to protect yourself. (There are many possible methods of protection.)
Protection Method #1: Use a Sigil
Sigils are magickal symbols that hold an intention. You create a sigil by using the following simple process. First, write out your desire on a scratch piece of paper; you can use a single word or a phrase.
Examples of Phrases Related to Protection:
· Protect me through the night
· Protect me from energy vampires
To keep this example simple and clear, I’ll just use the word “success.” Cross off all of the repeated letters in Success. You end up with S, U, C, and E. (You want only one of each letter that appears in the word.) Next, scramble the letters, getting S, E, U, and C (for example). Now comes the fun part: Combine the letters together in an image.
Protection Method #2: Wear a Protection Necklace
Wear a necklace of hematite and amethyst. The hematite grounds you, and the amethyst turns all energy into white light.
Protection Method #3: Take a Ritual Bath
Ritual bathing can be a great way to get rid of the nasties that may cling onto your aura. Bless and consecrate your soap and shampoo. Set these aside for use only during your ritual baths.
How to make a sachet with cleansing herbs for a bath:
Use a stocking or cotton cloth, and place inside selected cleansing herbs. The total amount of all herbs will be one tablespoon.
If you use a cotton cloth, gather the corners and tie them with a string. Make sure the sachet is closed and secure. This keeps the herbs from clogging your drain.
Place your sachet in the bath water then sprinkle in some sea salt and let steep for 5 or so minutes. Then enjoy.
May these three protection methods bring you comfort.
“It’s all wrong now. I’m boxed in. I just want to feel that I have some freedom. Freedom to choose.”
“Have you asked the ALL for help?” I suggested.
Simply put, Rachael was stuck. She felt she had no where to go in her current situation. So here is a simple spell to gain the help of the ALL.
Read over the spell carefully several times before you do it.
What you’ll need:
One small white candle (it needs to be small, so you can burn it out in one sitting)
Candle holder
Olive oil
Garlic
Robe
Perfume (frankincense preferably)
Cakes and wine/juice (This can be as simple as some cookies and juice)
Offering dish (you will need one)
Sea salt
Small table (something to put your candle and cakes and wine/juice on)
Small jar
Small bowl of purified water
Small bowl of sea salt
Purified or spring water
Lighter or matches
What to do:
Start by thoroughly crushing the garlic and put it into a small jar of your olive oil. Set aside the mixture in a dark place (like a closet) for nine days.
When your oil is done do the following.
Take a ritual bath:
On a full or waxing moon. First bathe to wash all of the physical dirt from your body. Then draw a new bath and put three tablespoons of sea salt into the water. Soak in the water and think of all the negative energy being absorbed by the salt water. Breathe in and out deeply. Relax… Take your time.
Use a clean towel to dry off. Put on a clean robe.
Next, go to your room and clear a space and place your small simple table (this will be your altar) in the center. Place the candle in the middle of the altar. Additionally, set up your small water bowl, sea salt bowl, and food and drink on either the side of the candle.
Disrobe and sit in front of the altar.
Submerge your index fingertip in the bowl of water and say:
I cleanse and consecrate thee, Water, that you are pure and clean.
Then place your index fingertip into the bowl of salt and say:
I cleanse and consecrate thee, Salt, that you are pure and clean.
Put three pinches of the blessed sea salt into the bowl of water and stir clockwise (using your index finger).
Sprinkle (asperge) the bottle of perfume with the holy water (the salt water you just made) onto the candle and say:
I cleanse and consecrate thee, Perfume, that you are pure and clean.
Asperge the candle with the holy water and say:
I cleanse and consecrate thee, Candle, that you are pure and clean.
Spray some of the holy perfume onto you and breathe it in deeply. Breathe in and out three times as you clear your mind. Take your time…
Time to dress your candle: This means that you take the garlic oil and rub it onto the candle from wick to the base of the candle. Carve the word “freedom” on the candle and place in the candle holder.
Light the candle and say:
I ask you,
Who is the lightness and darkness,
Who is the powers of the winds,
Who is the powers of the seas,
Who is the powers of the mountains,
Who is the powers of the flame within.
Who is powers all life and love.
And who is the source of all things,
The Great and powerful ALL,
I ask you for change and freedom for the good of all!
As I so will, So mote it be!
As the candle burns, think of all the freedom you now have as this Spell manifests what you desire.
Again, take your time…
Finally, set your cakes and wine/juice in front of you. Hold your dominant hand over them and say:
I bless this food and drink that it will keep me strong.
Place each of some of the food and drink into the offering dishes saying:
To the ALL!
You can now partake of the food and drink.
Let the candle burn itself completely out. (Warning: Never leave a burning candle unattended.)