“Sometimes, it feels like there’s so much going on and friendships can get hurt along the way. I mean—we all get stressed out,” my friend, Joyce, said. “I’m wondering if there is a magickal way to strengthen a friendship.”
I gave this a lot of thought, and here is a True Friends Spell.
What you will need:
One pink candle
Cast Circle in the usual manner.
Dress your candle by rubbing your oil from tip to base. Cleanse and consecrate your candle and rings. Place the pink candle on your altar in its holder. Place the rings by the candle. Take your friend’s hands and both of you say over the rings together:
I swear upon my soul,
Honesty, love, and kindness I shall show.
I State my true name (_each state your name_),
That I am a true friend to you through and through.
That I will be most honest with you,
As I so will, so mote it be!!
Each person places a ring on the other person’s hand other and says:
True friends, true as can be.
Together now so mote it be!
Do the Cakes and Wine Ceremony
Close your Circle
May this True Friends Spell strengthen your bond with your close friend.
A reader asked me: What are some of the quickest, easiest ways for psychic & spiritual protection?
I’ll share three different methods you can use to protect yourself. (There are many possible methods of protection.)
Protection Method #1: Use a Sigil
Sigils are magickal symbols that hold an intention. You create a sigil by using the following simple process. First, write out your desire on a scratch piece of paper; you can use a single word or a phrase.
Examples of Phrases Related to Protection:
· Protect me through the night
· Protect me from energy vampires
To keep this example simple and clear, I’ll just use the word “success.” Cross off all of the repeated letters in Success. You end up with S, U, C, and E. (You want only one of each letter that appears in the word.) Next, scramble the letters, getting S, E, U, and C (for example). Now comes the fun part: Combine the letters together in an image.
Protection Method #2: Wear a Protection Necklace
Wear a necklace of hematite and amethyst. The hematite grounds you, and the amethyst turns all energy into white light.
Protection Method #3: Take a Ritual Bath
Ritual bathing can be a great way to get rid of the nasties that may cling onto your aura. Bless and consecrate your soap and shampoo. Set these aside for use only during your ritual baths.
How to make a sachet with cleansing herbs for a bath:
Use a stocking or cotton cloth, and place inside selected cleansing herbs. The total amount of all herbs will be one tablespoon.
If you use a cotton cloth, gather the corners and tie them with a string. Make sure the sachet is closed and secure. This keeps the herbs from clogging your drain.
Place your sachet in the bath water then sprinkle in some sea salt and let steep for 5 or so minutes. Then enjoy.
May these three protection methods bring you comfort.
“It’s all wrong now. I’m boxed in. I just want to feel that I have some freedom. Freedom to choose.”
“Have you asked the ALL for help?” I suggested.
Simply put, Rachael was stuck. She felt she had no where to go in her current situation. So here is a simple spell to gain the help of the ALL.
Read over the spell carefully several times before you do it.
What you’ll need:
One small white candle (it needs to be small, so you can burn it out in one sitting)
Perfume (frankincense preferably)
Cakes and wine/juice (This can be as simple as some cookies and juice)
Offering dish (you will need one)
Small table (something to put your candle and cakes and wine/juice on)
Small bowl of purified water
Small bowl of sea salt
Purified or spring water
Lighter or matches
What to do:
Start by thoroughly crushing the garlic and put it into a small jar of your olive oil. Set aside the mixture in a dark place (like a closet) for nine days.
When your oil is done do the following.
Take a ritual bath:
On a full or waxing moon. First bathe to wash all of the physical dirt from your body. Then draw a new bath and put three tablespoons of sea salt into the water. Soak in the water and think of all the negative energy being absorbed by the salt water. Breathe in and out deeply. Relax… Take your time.
Use a clean towel to dry off. Put on a clean robe.
Next, go to your room and clear a space and place your small simple table (this will be your altar) in the center. Place the candle in the middle of the altar. Additionally, set up your small water bowl, sea salt bowl, and food and drink on either the side of the candle.
Disrobe and sit in front of the altar.
Submerge your index fingertip in the bowl of water and say:
I cleanse and consecrate thee, Water, that you are pure and clean.
Then place your index fingertip into the bowl of salt and say:
I cleanse and consecrate thee, Salt, that you are pure and clean.
Put three pinches of the blessed sea salt into the bowl of water and stir clockwise (using your index finger).
Sprinkle (asperge) the bottle of perfume with the holy water (the salt water you just made) onto the candle and say:
I cleanse and consecrate thee, Perfume, that you are pure and clean.
Asperge the candle with the holy water and say:
I cleanse and consecrate thee, Candle, that you are pure and clean.
Spray some of the holy perfume onto you and breathe it in deeply. Breathe in and out three times as you clear your mind. Take your time…
Time to dress your candle: This means that you take the garlic oil and rub it onto the candle from wick to the base of the candle. Carve the word “freedom” on the candle and place in the candle holder.
Light the candle and say:
I ask you,
Who is the lightness and darkness,
Who is the powers of the winds,
Who is the powers of the seas,
Who is the powers of the mountains,
Who is the powers of the flame within.
Who is powers all life and love.
And who is the source of all things,
The Great and powerful ALL,
I ask you for change and freedom for the good of all!
As I so will, So mote it be!
As the candle burns, think of all the freedom you now have as this Spell manifests what you desire.
Again, take your time…
Finally, set your cakes and wine/juice in front of you. Hold your dominant hand over them and say:
I bless this food and drink that it will keep me strong.
Place each of some of the food and drink into the offering dishes saying:
To the ALL!
You can now partake of the food and drink.
Let the candle burn itself completely out. (Warning: Never leave a burning candle unattended.)
“So, I put the Tarot spread down, and then I caught my breath,” one of my Wiccan elders told me.
“Then what happened?” I asked.
“I knew that it was going to be tough to express what the cards were saying to my friend,” my Wiccan elder said.
I understood the situation. She was going to have to tell her friend something that she did not want to hear.
A significant number of people are concerned about having to face a “bad reading.” It’s tough enough to talk about it. It can be even harder to face a tough Tarot reading that applies to you.
Here are three steps to help you work through the dark waters of bad news.
Postpone Being Upset by Doing a Meditation
Go into meditation and ask for Goddess’s Viewpoint on the matter. You may be surprised! Some events that look bad at first glance are actually good news.
I have a friend who taught college students. She worked at many different colleges to make ends meet. One day she was doing a reading and saw that she would stop teaching college students. She was devastated.
Then, she did a meditation and asked the Goddess what to do …
Do Another Spread the Next Day
She asked the question “If I do _____, what is the outcome?” When she read the answer, she was puzzled. It gave her the same answer as the day before.
So, she repeated the step of meditation to ask for guidance and to see the situation clearly.
She also talked with her Wiccan Elders and other trustworthy people.
Take Positive Action and Add Meditation
The next day she did what she hoped was a positive action related to her situation. She signed up for a Toastmasters group (a group where people practice public speaking)—based on a vague notion that she might become a life coach and giving speeches would help her find clients.
She now says that she gets to work with clients who really want her help—which is quite different from teaching required college classes. She is now free of half-hearted efforts from a significant number of college students. (She hated giving out bad grades.)
So, the “Bad News” that she thought she had received turned out to be a blessing to help her make a transition into what she was meant to do.
Doing meditation sessions and asking for Goddess’s viewpoint can really open up possibilities in your life. Not all endings are bad—although they might include pain at first.
May these three steps help you as you discover your next chapter of life.
“I’m stuck. I keep ruminating on how that person betrayed me,” my friend, Leena, said. “If I could just get past this—get beyond this.”
I listened with concern for my friend.
Becoming a High Priestess, I worked for years to learn oath-bound rituals to transcend my earthly concerns. It took a lot of work, but with private rituals, I have discovered how to deeply connect with the Goddess.
Wicca is a path of transcendence, which refers to “existence or experience beyond the normal or physical level.”
Beyond the normal … are we referring to positive or negative experiences?
Perhaps, like me, you’ve experienced some downright horrible events in your life. The good news is that, through Wicca, we can move beyond darkness to that which includes love and light. We have the power to use magick, and we can invite the God and Goddess to help us rise above the darkness of our negative past experiences.
Maybe, you’ve heard the term transformation a number of times. To transform however is to change in character or condition.
I have looked upon transformation as something that requires a lot of effort.
Remember, transcendence is something different. As we noted, it is beyond the normal or physical level. Think of it like this: Transcendence can happen in an instant. For example, some time ago, in the middle of one of my meditation sessions, the God and Goddess appeared to me. This was not something I “forced” or “transformed.” Instead, it was an experience that just manifested. I flowed into beyond the normal or physical.
So, what does this all boil down to?
Transcendence is something you invite, and you do not force.
Here is a prayer that you can use to create transcendence in your life by changing bad experiences into good emotions.
By love and light, By Old Ones’ might! I ask for Transcendence of my (name of difficulty) in Your Name. May You take it and make it tame. That You turn it into love and light, So I will be all right! Let there be a shift in me, from darkness into light. Let transcendence lift me and take flight. By all the powers of the Sun, Moon and in Old Ones’ Name, Keep me safe and keep me sane. Keep me above the dark waters that I tread within my mind. Let me leave my heartache and sorrow behind. Create growth for me and my life with no end. Through every hill and bend. Pain and fear from (name of difficulty) abate, So I have only a good fate. This (name of difficulty) does not define me! It does not hinder or take me! The love of the Lord and Lady ever fills me, As I so will, So Mote It Be!
May this prayer carry you forward and help you transcend that which held you back.
“Why are you so concerned about not having somebody do magick for you?” my friend, Jennifer, asked.
Three reasons immediately arose in my thoughts:
When someone does a spell for you, both of you become karmically linked.
Having someone cast a spell creates a karmic link between you and the spellcaster.
How well can you know someone? If you have a stranger do magick for you, then you really don’t know the person. However, even if you have a friend do magick for you, you still do not know aspects of the person. How is that true? Because each human being has sides of themselves that are veiled to them.
It is harmful to be karmically linked to another person because their shadow self may be intense and can cause you harm.
The spell is not as effective if you’re not the one doing it.
No matter how much you pay someone to care, they won’t care as much as you do about the outcome of the spell. They can’t. We’re talking about your life.
As you saw in my last post (How You Can Do Real Magic) you need Intent, Visualization, Concentration, and Willpower. These are elements that depend on your unique sensibilities.
You do not have a real way of measuring how adept the person is with magick.
I trust that you’ve met people who talk a good game but do not come through.
We have already established that the best spellcaster for you is you.
It may be tempting to go with someone who charges for spellcasting because they have good testimonials. Still, we know that some people get testimonials from friends who are biased.
Do yourself a favor and become an effective witch yourself. Learn to become adept at spellwork for your own well-being.
“How can I do real magic?” one of my readers asked.
Magick has many facets. Real magick (spelled with a “k”) takes years of practice and dedication to do it correctly. Magick is the process of using natural energies to create positive change in yourself and the world around you.
Without the necessary knowledge, spells fail. I’ve seen friends disappointed as their spells went wrong. We notice that many people buy a book of spells and cast away, not knowing the how and why. Spells will do a giant belly flop on you if this is what you do without the knowledge of how magick works in the first place.
To do successful magick, you need to understand several things. First, you must have an intent. You need to know what you want to manifest. I know this sounds simple, but many people just don’t think the intent through.
Let’s say you want a car. Okay, why do you want a car? Is it to take you to your job? Or is it something you want to have people envy? Hey I don’t judge. But if you just say “I want a car” to the universe, you are likely to get that Pinto down the block.
Let’s say you just moved to a new area and you need a car to get you around. You want something nice but economical. You don’t want a piece of junk that will break down on you every chance it gets. I suggest you go shopping, whether it be on the internet or at a car lot. Get to know what you want and like for your car.
When you pick out features, you’re attaching specific desires to the car. This will help manifest the car you want versus the junk heap down the block. Refine your image of the perfect car in your mind. Include other requirements you have like good gas mileage and inexpensive repair costs. The more specific you are with your intent, the less there will be unexpected results like getting the lemon down the lane.
Having a solid intent is your first step before you do any magick. Once you have that cornerstone set you can continue with the second thing which is concentration. During your spell you will need lots of concentration and visualization.
We’ll continue with the process of manifesting a particular car. You can use a toy car as a visualization focus object. As you stare at the toy car, you also use your mind to imagine getting into a real car and driving it. You can even take a number of steps further. For instance, if you desire a convertible car, you imagine the wind blowing through your hair as you drive with the top down.
This is the process of focusing and then refocusing your mind on your visualization task. In essence, you concentrate on the object and on the images in your mind that are specific for your desired manifestation. It is natural for the mind to wander at times. When it does, you just consciously redirect your mind to focus on the visualization object once again.
Some Wiccans begin with meditation to clear the mind before using both concentration and visualization. Using your mind’s eye, view the shape. Now view this shape from every angle. Concentrate on this shape for an extended time until you have it firmly in your mind.
The Collins English Dictionary defines willpower as “the ability to control oneself and determine one’s actions.”
Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D., author of The Willpower Instinct, wrote: “Willpower is about harnessing the three powers of I will, I won’t and I want to help you to achieve your goals (and stay out of trouble).”
When it comes to successfully performing magick, willpower, to me, means the driving force of desire for some form of change. So I focus on the power of “I will.” This is an important distinction because many people think of willpower as only the ability to avoid temptation.
The compelling observation is that Wiccans, who become proficient at these three processes of visualization, concentration, and meditation, actually strengthen their will. How? Once you do the three processes, you actually enhance your belief, and you push through your doubt.
Realize, you need to will something into being. This includes confidence that what you are doing will work. If you don’t have that, your spell just won’t become a reality.
You need your will for your intent to be as strong as possible. This is why when we are desperate for something, we can usually manifest it. Using your will is deeply rooted in your desire. Lack of will just creates another belly flop.
I’ve now shared with you the five must-haves (intent, visualization, concentration, meditation and willpower) for doing magick that works.
The above included some of the “basics.” I’ve personally devoted years to earn my role as a 3rd Degree High Priestess of the Gardnerian Tradition.
May the above information serve you on your journey,