How to Deal with Betrayal when Someone Finds Out You’re Wiccan

“I thought I had a friend,” Julie told me.

“What happened?” I asked.

“I told her that I trust her with something that, in my local community, I have to keep confidential,” Julie began. “I made her promise me—but she told my secret to everybody. And now they shun me!”

“She told them you are Wiccan,” I said, realizing.

Have you had a similar situation in your life? Has someone betrayed you and now you just can’t get the painful thoughts and feelings out? Does it feel like you’re being ripped apart?

To heal after betrayal, we notice a process …

Stages:

  1. Identify the betrayal

The point here is that you need to acknowledge to yourself that you have been wronged. This person made a decision that caused you harm. Before my divorce, I put up with bad actions of my then-husband. Part of gaining the strength to leave him was for me to put my foot down and declare in my own mind: “This is wrong. I will not endure this, anymore.”

  1. Feel the pain

Acknowledge the pain. Feel it. Until you do, you can’t grow and move past it. Additionally, until you feel the pain you might not have the energy to push through and move on. My then-husband would drain our joint account of money to buy his video games and there would be no food in the apartment. He would feed himself with fast food and think nothing of me.

I had to feel the pain and gather my strength to get the hell away from him. (By the way, I’m so glad because after the divorce, I was free to find my soulmate. It’s so much better now.)

Perhaps, you’re like me, and you’d like a break from feeling so much pain. In fact, I had a recent meditation session in which I asked the God and Goddess, “Why do I have to be in such pain?”

Their answer made me pause. They said, “Pain is to grow.”

So, feeling the pain is where growth happens. I know it sucks. But pain is the fuel that creates growth.

  1. Protect yourself from more trouble

This is where you need to cut all contact with the person. You can do the ritual below for this.

Here are the steps of True Separation:

  1. Verbally end the relationship
  2. Stay away from the person.
  3. Ground yourself.
  4. Cast circle.
  5. Do the Separation Ritual (see below).
  6. Do the Cakes and Wine ritual.
  7. Close the circle.
  8. Finally continue to have no contact with the toxic person.

You will need your usual ritual items to cast circle and your altar. As I mentioned you will also have a length of yarn or piece of red string. The yarn/string must be long enough to encircle your own waist and to encircle the object (that represents the toxic person).

The Separation Ritual

Take the object. First, your will asperge it. Asperge means to sprinkle the holy water with your fingers onto the object.

With the holy water, asperge and say:

I cleanse and consecrate you by water and earth.

Next you will cense the object. Cense means to waft incense smoke over the object.

With the incense smoke, cense and say:

I bless and charge you with air and fire.

Then take the string/yarn and cense and asperge it as well and say:

I cleanse and consecrate you by water and earth.
I bless and charge you with air and fire.

Take the red string/yarn in your hands saying:

Tiny bundle of String/yarn
You are now the same as the bonds between me and Name of person.

Tie one end of the string/yarn to the object and then encircle your waist with the other end of the string/yarn, while you say:

You are the bonds that connect us now.

From me to Name of person and from Name of person to me.

Our connection is by thee.

Sit and concentrate on the bond between you both and see it as the string/yarn that now connects you and the object. Once you have a firm connection with that thought, take the boline and cut the string/yarn, seeing in your mind’s eye the astral bonds being cut along with the string/yarn.

Once you complete the cut, say:

I am now free of the ties of Name of person as he/she is of me.

May my happiness expand, and may Name of person’s happiness expand.

Blessed be.

Finish up with the Cakes and Wine part of the ritual and then close the Circle.


  1. Call upon the God and Goddess to assist with your healing

Meditate and pray to the Gods for strength. Here is a prayer you can use.

Heal my heart and mind,
Free me of violence that binds
Keep me safe and sane from [his/her] madness,
Let me stay centered and stay strong as my own badass.
So mote it be! 

  1. Circle the Wagons with Friends

Keep your true friends close to you. Confide in them and let them build you back up.

  1. Move into Inner Peace

Now that you are centered and have had your friends strengthen you, you can now move into peace. You now know that you have separated yourself from the betrayer, and you have surrounded yourself with the love of your true friends and the God and Goddess.

Keep in mind there is a difference between acceptance and approval. You do not approve of the betrayer’s actions. Eventually, you might get to the point of acceptance. What would you be accepting? You would accept that the person was caught up in their own crap, and you weren’t even a fly on their windshield. We notice that people can be seriously self-centered and cruel.

But acceptance is not approval. Acceptance is realizing that you went through an event, and today you are not ruled by it.

May this material support you and bring you peace.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater



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Wiccans, Stand Up Against Sexual Assault

“This is so disturbing. All the rich and powerful men who gang together to protect themselves when we see evidence of their sexual abuse of women,” my friend, Jessica, said.

 

“Yes. And I realize that this is a crucial moment in history,” I replied. Jessica and I continued with a significant conversation. From this conversation and others like it, I have thought a lot about what is going on.

Use Anger as a Stepping Stone for Positive Change

When I was a child, I felt like I did not matter. My brother was given preferential treatment. He tormented me, and my parents’ neglect gave me a clear message that he was worth more to my parents than I was. My brother even went so far as to hold me down underwater (at a neighbor’s pool), terrifying me because I needed air! His friends, all boys his age, did nothing, to help an eight-year-old little girl. They just watched me being assaulted.

 

With the #metoo movement and with a woman testifying Thursday about the sexual assault she endured, we, women, are now taking our place as worthwhile people who will not stand by while such abuse continues in our society.

 

Perhaps, like me, you were taught to just swallow your anger.
Now is the moment for a new approach.
Use anger as a stepping stone for positive change.

 

We, Wiccans, know that there are times when we must stand our ground and even actively defend ourselves. During one of my meditations, I used my astral-sword to defend myself.
Methods of Defense and More …

 

Here are some suggested actions you can take.
  • Meditate and keep yourself strong – Keeping your spirit whole and healthy is the foundation for everything.
  • Call Upon the Goddess – In meditation and prayer, ask the Goddess to strengthen you.
  • Volunteer in the community with an organization that helps women in need.
  • Vote for representatives who focus on women as worthy and valuable. Register if you have not done so earlier.
  • Work magick to heal those who have been attacked. This can be as simple as a Prayer to Heal:

Lord and Lady,

grant those who have been wronged by sexual violence
now the power to heal.
May you find these actions to be supportive.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater



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Be Careful: Wiccans Stay Alert to The Thin Veil

On the astral plane, I breathed easily, talking with the God and Goddess. In the midst of my meditation, I knew that standing in the Stone Circle was safe.

Just as I took some steps to leave the Stone Circle, the God moved like a flash and barred my exit.

Then I heard a gut-wrenching fight between Jerry (my protective animal spirit) and some thing—outside the protective Circle.

Apparently, Jerry won. He came back to my side and guided me safely back to the earthly realm.

Soon, I opened my eyes. My meditation was complete.

The next day I talked to a friend, and she told me that “All religions have prophesies foretelling this.”

This what? The Veil between the earth and the astral plane is currently quite thin. Around the time of Samhain, The Veil usually does become thinner. However, at this moment, The Veil appears thinner still.

What can we do?

Put up extra wards and protections around your home and your life.

  1. Employ Witch’s Bottles.

I begin with revamping my witches’ bottles. Learn to make you own Witch’s Bottle here.

  1. Bless Salt or Stones for Protection

You can bless salt or stones (particularly hematite) and pour or place them around doors and windows. Wiccans pour blessed salt across thresholds, doors and windows. Wiccans place blessed stones next to such areas, too.

Here is a prayer to instill protection on your chosen substance (salt or stone):

By Sun and Moon,
by stream and sea
may protection come unto me.
I ask the Lord of Death and the Lady of Reincarnation
to take any negative or rough entity back to where they belong.
May this salt [or stones] protect me and my home.
So Mote It Be.

May these protection elements bless your life.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater



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Beware of Mistakes in Casting a Circle

Casting Circle
Casting Circle

“Can I make a big mistake in Casting a Circle?” my friend, Veronica, asked.

“It is important to focus on three vital details,” I replied.

When you Cast a Circle you want to:

  • Keep Things Out—They Steal Your Energy
  • Keep Energy In
  • Dismiss the Elementals—or They Cause Havoc
  1. Keep Things Out—They Steal Your Energy

If you don’t Cast Your Circle properly, nearby entities can steal valuable energy you have raised. It gets worse: Such entities can cause your spell or ritual to fall flat.

Let’s say you do a Prosperity Spell. But such entities leached your valuable energy. Then, your Prosperity Spell will collapse, due to no power behind it.

  1. Keep Energy In

A properly cast Circle keeps your energy all in one place. When you raise energy, you want it to build—not dissipate into the surrounding landscape. Your Circle helps you magnify such energy.

  1. Dismiss the Elementals—or They Cause Havoc

Elementals can cause havoc on your life if not dismissed. I have heard of problems ranging from electrical issues, plumbing problems to scary incidences of fires breaking out in one’s home.

Warning: ALWAYS dismiss an entity once it has completed its function.

 Finally, closing your circle is truly important.

Just follow the appropriate steps but do them in reverse.

If you follow these guidelines, you will be one step closer to enhancing your life and making your dreams come true.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


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Wiccans and Psychic and Spiritual Protection?

A reader asked me: What are some of the quickest, easiest ways for psychic & spiritual protection?

I’ll share three different methods you can use to protect yourself. (There are many possible methods of protection.)

Protection Method #1: Use a Sigil

Sigils are magickal symbols that hold an intention. You create a sigil by using the following simple process. First, write out your desire on a scratch piece of paper; you can use a single word or a phrase.

Examples of Phrases Related to Protection:

· Protect me through the night

· Protect me from energy vampires

To keep this example simple and clear, I’ll just use the word “success.” Cross off all of the repeated letters in Success. You end up with S, U, C, and E. (You want only one of each letter that appears in the word.) Next, scramble the letters, getting S, E, U, and C (for example). Now comes the fun part: Combine the letters together in an image.

Protection Method #2: Wear a Protection Necklace

Wear a necklace of hematite and amethyst. The hematite grounds you, and the amethyst turns all energy into white light.

Protection Method #3: Take a Ritual Bath

Ritual bathing can be a great way to get rid of the nasties that may cling onto your aura. Bless and consecrate your soap and shampoo. Set these aside for use only during your ritual baths.

How to make a sachet with cleansing herbs for a bath:

Use a stocking or cotton cloth, and place inside selected cleansing herbs. The total amount of all herbs will be one tablespoon.

If you use a cotton cloth, gather the corners and tie them with a string. Make sure the sachet is closed and secure. This keeps the herbs from clogging your drain.

Place your sachet in the bath water then sprinkle in some sea salt and let steep for 5 or so minutes. Then enjoy.

May these three protection methods bring you comfort.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


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How Wiccans Reverse a Curse or Hex

 

“I’m concerned about curses. How can I protect myself?” one of my readers asked.

Here’s an easy Hex-breaking Candle Spell.

What you will need:

  • One black chime candle
  • One brown chime candle
  • One white chime candle
  • Sea salt
  • A picture of yourself
  • Cookie sheet or pan
  • Tinfoil

What to do:

Cover the cookie sheet with your tinfoil.

Start at the middle of the pan, and pour a line of salt, going from left to right.

Place your picture on the right end of your salt line.

Make a circle around your picture by pouring salt to create that circle. Make sure the salt-circle connects to the salt-line you previously made.

Set the black candle on the left side, at the starting end of the salt-line.

Place the brown candle in the middle of the line, and finally set the white candle on the end of the line, next to your picture.

Think of all the stuff that has been going wrong in your life. Really get your emotions into it. Once you have worked yourself up, light the black candle. Next, light the brown candle. Imagine all the muck draining away from your life.

It’s important to breathe deeply, as you focus on the bad stuff leaving your life for good. Take your time.

Once you have envisioned the muck completely vanishing from your life, light the white candle.

You can meditate on the good things you would like to see manifest in your life.

IMPORTANT: Let all the candles burn themselves completely out. And make sure to avoid leaving a burning candle unattended.

May this Hex-breaking Candle Spell help you move forward in your life.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


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How Wiccans Handle Being Betrayed By Loved Ones

“You’re no good!” my husband’s father yelled at him. This man, I’ll call him “George, “continued with insulting my husband and me. I was not in that room. I was waiting in the car. I will not be in the same building as George. George is an unrepentant child abuser, who lost his promotions in the military due to his brawling.

My husband stood his ground. He said firmly, “Stop acting like a bully. You cannot get away with it. I am not nine-years-old. You do not get to spit in my face. You do not get to throw me into walls, anymore.”

My husband was visiting his mother, a kind soul.

Do you have a friend or relative who is not only letting you down, but is also actively trying to tear you apart?

Wiccans know that human beings can be complex. Wiccans realize that sometimes you have to protect yourself from energy-drainers, or worse, attackers.

Better than this, Wiccans realize that your relationship with God and Goddess is what truly sustains you. The God and Goddess not only hold us up, They lift us higher than we could ever imagine on our own.

The God and Goddess hold our hands on this journey through life and pull us up after we fall and get injured. They hold us as most dear to Them. And when someone tears us down, the God and Goddess are there to lift us back up to our full height.

For example, the God and Goddess can provide us something synchronistic. My husband and I went to a pizza restaurant after the incident with George. And my husband listened to the music in that restaurant. The music felt uplifting to my husband. It was a gift.

The God and Goddess can provide us with inspiration. My husband got a new idea. Next time, he visits his mother and his father tries to derail the situation, my husband expects to stay seated and almost whisper: “Leave us in peace.” This just might be a divinely-sent idea.

I’ve talked with a number of people who have been hurt by others who are supposed to love them. I realized how pervasive this problem is. For those days when you feel betrayed and disempowered, turn to the God and Goddess. Here is a simple chant that will help you feel supported:

“Lord and Lady Support Me” Chant

Lord and Lady let me know,
How this will make me grow.
Keep me safe and keep me sane,
Give me no reason to complain.
Lord and Lady of the Moon,
Give me this a mighty boon.
So Mote It Be.

 

May this help you when you need real support.

Blessed Be,
Moonwater


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